Of course neither one of us can answer that. We both are going off of personal experience.<quoted text>
I've know nine people in my life who were "born again", and every one of them shared one common trait - they were all at an extremely devastating point in their lives. Be it divorce, death of a loved one, job loss, extramarital affairs, etc., then and only then did they supposedly have god enter their psyche. I have never known anyone that was doing well in life proclaim they were converted to Christianity. Am I speculating? Of course I am. Your case is rather unique to me for the reasons I've just given. I wonder how many other believers parallel your experience?
I'm sorry that your only experience with those nine people showed being born again in a negative way to you, or as a last resort to happiness kind of thing.
My experience with it is much different. I've known hundreds of Christians and most of them have a similar story to mine. Very few that I've known seek out God only in times of dispair.
I think that those nine people you've known tried finding God for the wrong reason - they only wanted His help. Based on my experience and knowledge, God doesn't work that way. It's the whole free will thing.