I grew up when teachers were allowed to spank their students and you know what I can remember screaming brats in grocery store or in a restaurant back then too.<quoted text>
There's just as much "data" that confirms spanning kids is a good thing.
You have to love your child enough to be tough and do what is necessary to get the desired result. Parent first, friend second.
Spanking teaches kids to be fearful of going against your rules. It also teaches them to submit to authority regardless of whether or not they agree.
Every decision has an outcome, good or bad. Just as your reward your child for the good, you must also acknowledge and address the bad.
Those bratty little bastards you see at the grocery store or in a restaurant are the result of bullshit consequences like "time outs".
Physical punishment can also lead to abuse. Children who are abused often become bullies and abuse those that are smaller and weaker then them.
Yesterday a man with a German shepherd walk by my yard. Naturally my dogs started barking, as their instinct and centuries of training by humans taught them to. The German Shepherd responded accordingly. Rather than realize the nature of the dog, the owner stopped and started yelling at the dog. He eventually hit the dog with a stick that made me cringe.
such is the nature of some humans. That same man would probably do the same to a child
Spanking should never inflict physical pain, and from I've read only be used on small children. Once the child can understand and reason....its probably better to explain to the child and reason with him.
my parent rarely hit me after a certain age. When I did something wrong, I knew it. Punishment was being sent to my room (without video games-they didn't exist) or being denied a luxury. I rarely lied to my parents, if asked if I did something, I admitted it. I assumed they already knew.....
I just think treating kids with respect gets you a lot further