Sorry the 'be French' went right over my head, and I didn't advise what you claimed I did. I said do not advise your son to return violence with violence except if that is his only avenue of escape. In your son's case he could have run away and told someone, but he potentially escalated the situation by breaking the other kids nose with a rock. If some adult had come on the scene just at he moment your son hit the other kid it would be interpreted that he was the aggressor and I think a broken nose would be stronger evidence for that then broken glasses, though what the bully did was 100% wrong.<quoted text>
Unlikely. Most bullies only have a few friends, not usually more than one or two. And they're not BFF's or anything. They hang with the bully because they themselves are weak. They look up to the bully. But as soon as the bully gets bullied... That's all she wrote.
Oh! You've convinced me! I'm gonna run right out & tell my kids to just go ahead and get beat up. Don't fight back. Do nothing but inform the authorities. Basically, be French....
What if the other kid still had some fight left in him after getting a broken nose, and picked up the same rock again and bashed your kids skull in to the point he was brain damaged for life or worse? As I said you got lucky in that situation, but it sounds too much like the old west movies, which I loved, where anytime anyone bullied you you called them out into the street and killed them in a gunfight.
I realize that violence is part of the American mentality, as your country has been in violent situations pretty well every generation since 1776, but has that really been a good thing?