Where do you get your information that 75% of all people who identify themselves as Christians are fakes? What is your source for this statistical information? This argument is your opinion, but it is not a fact. It is true that some people say one thing and do another, but that's true in all religions and even among secular humans. The psychology of an abusive person is completely at odds with what is taught in the New Testament.<quoted text>
Now that is where you are wrong. 3/4ths of people who call themselves Christians are fakes. They wear a mask and proclaim god, but are hiding their true colors. Not everyone knows other people's secrets until all is revealed. The wife-beater could have been a sweet caring man on the outside until he got what he wanted, so behind closed doors all Hell broke loose.
You're correct to say that believing in something doesn't make a person good. Believing in something and acting upon those beliefs are two different things. I believe in the Conservative Party values, but I am not a member of any local conservative group, nor do I place campaign bumper stickers in favor of conservative candidates on my car.I am sure there is someone who lived majority of their life without a religion and they are a better individual than any known "Christian."
Believing in a god or religion doesn't make one better than the other.
There are many non-believing skeptics in the world who do behave much better than self professed Christians. It is my strongly held opinion that a Christian isn't known as a Christian by what he or she says, but in the kindness and humility we show to others around us. We can defend our faith without ad hominem attacks, confidently, and with humility. That doesn't mean we have to remain totally passive either. We can be resolute in what we believe, and even feisty at times, without resorting to cruelty or disrespect.