what should i do about my mother in law

what should i do about my mother in law

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damselindistress

Wisborough Green, UK

#1 Apr 21, 2009
Recently, I married the man of my dreams after 7 years of an on/off relationship (He was married to a woman three times his age when i met him and so when she died we finally decided to marry). So we got married on my 23rd birthday and during the wedding party, his mother says shes not feeling well.

Two months later, she's still living in my marital home claiming she has a bad leg but whenever the doctor comes around, he says he can find nothing wrong except a little stiffness. Whenever i prepare a meal after coming back from a 10 hour day at work, she complains my food is too spicy and my husband just sits there and says nothing.

My husband and I cant even have sex in our room because his mother is right next door and often stays up late on the phone to her friends. She spends the entire day lazing around the house watching pay per view movies which my husband pays for, but we are struggling financial and so reading the bank statement is so painful especially when £200 a month is being spent on her.

Whenever my friends come over, she makes them feel uncomfortable by making crude jokes and making comments like "johnny (thats my husbands name) will always be my boy" as if shes trying to compete with me. i really dont know what to do.
jan in dhs

San Marino, CA

#2 Apr 21, 2009
Married to a woman 3x his age. Won't stand up to his mum. Run, dear, run. HUGE mommy issues. His mother is right. Johnny will ALWAYS be her boy, and you will always be seen by her as her competition. Get out now while you still have a shred of dignity. You deserve far better.
jan in dhs

San Marino, CA

#3 Apr 21, 2009
Of course, now that I really think about it....
You've been seeing him since you were 16???? And he was married at the time???? If he is the man of your dreams, you must be having nothing but nightmares. Get some counseling for yourself, and get out of that marriage.
whatthe

Chicago, IL

#4 Apr 21, 2009
damselindistress wrote:
Recently, I married the man of my dreams after 7 years of an on/off relationship (He was married to a woman three times his age when i met him and so when she died we finally decided to marry). So we got married on my 23rd birthday and during the wedding party, his mother says shes not feeling well.
Two months later, she's still living in my marital home claiming she has a bad leg but whenever the doctor comes around, he says he can find nothing wrong except a little stiffness. Whenever i prepare a meal after coming back from a 10 hour day at work, she complains my food is too spicy and my husband just sits there and says nothing.
My husband and I cant even have sex in our room because his mother is right next door and often stays up late on the phone to her friends. She spends the entire day lazing around the house watching pay per view movies which my husband pays for, but we are struggling financial and so reading the bank statement is so painful especially when £200 a month is being spent on her.
Whenever my friends come over, she makes them feel uncomfortable by making crude jokes and making comments like "johnny (thats my husbands name) will always be my boy" as if shes trying to compete with me. i really dont know what to do.
Let me understand this...you were fooling around with a married man for seven years until his 'old lady' died? Methinks Karma is a bItch.
thinking

Chicago, IL

#5 Apr 21, 2009
true that
damselindistress

Wisborough Green, UK

#6 Apr 21, 2009
He was 27 when i met him, and he didnt really love his first wife.
trams

Wisborough Green, UK

#7 Apr 21, 2009
next time you should think twice before fooling around with somebody elses husband- regardless of whether he loved her or not, they were still married- for all you know some 16 year old hussy could be waiting for you to kick the bucket so she can have your Johnny to herself.
fifi

Wisborough Green, UK

#8 Apr 21, 2009
it serves you right- bloody husband snatcher.
fifi

Wisborough Green, UK

#9 Apr 21, 2009
THE WOMAN WAS 81- sweet jesus- where did they meet? she must have had greatgrandkids his age, shame on you for sleeping with a married man- i sincerely hope your mother in law continues to harrass you. bitch.
jan in dhs

San Marino, CA

#10 Apr 21, 2009
damselindistress wrote:
He was 27 when i met him, and he didnt really love his first wife.
Oh. He didn't really love her. Well. OK.

HELLO!!!! The fact that he didn't love her is irrelevant. It DOES NOT make it OK !!!!! I'd have to say you pretty much deserve what you've gotten. Get used to it or get out. Then get some counseling and a MORAL COMPASS, for pete's sake!
damselindistress

Wisborough Green, UK

#11 Apr 21, 2009
jan in dhs wrote:
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Oh. He didn't really love her. Well. OK.
HELLO!!!! The fact that he didn't love her is irrelevant. It DOES NOT make it OK !!!!! I'd have to say you pretty much deserve what you've gotten. Get used to it or get out. Then get some counseling and a MORAL COMPASS, for pete's sake!
Don't be rude, I didnt ask for your opinion on my marriage, i asked on your opinion about my mother in law.
jan in dhs

San Marino, CA

#12 Apr 21, 2009
damselindistress wrote:
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Don't be rude, I didnt ask for your opinion on my marriage, i asked on your opinion about my mother in law.
Your m-i-l will never give him up. She enjoys controling him, and he lets her. You will never win. Ever. And how can you expect me or anyone else who responds to you to ignore the foolishness and just plain WRONG-NESS of your actions?
sallyannewearsap an

Edgware, UK

#13 Apr 23, 2009
what a silly cow- ITS CALLED KARMA, your mother in law knows what you and your husband did was wrong and is punishing the both of you by disturbing your marriage which was born out of adultery- i hope the family of his first wife also begin to disturb you.
joey joe joe shabadu

Cranebrook, Australia

#14 Apr 23, 2009
damselindistress wrote:
Recently, I married the man of my dreams after 7 years of an on/off relationship (He was married to a woman three times his age when i met him and so when she died we finally decided to marry). So we got married on my 23rd birthday and during the wedding party, his mother says shes not feeling well.
Two months later, she's still living in my marital home claiming she has a bad leg but whenever the doctor comes around, he says he can find nothing wrong except a little stiffness. Whenever i prepare a meal after coming back from a 10 hour day at work, she complains my food is too spicy and my husband just sits there and says nothing.
My husband and I cant even have sex in our room because his mother is right next door and often stays up late on the phone to her friends. She spends the entire day lazing around the house watching pay per view movies which my husband pays for, but we are struggling financial and so reading the bank statement is so painful especially when £200 a month is being spent on her.
Whenever my friends come over, she makes them feel uncomfortable by making crude jokes and making comments like "johnny (thats my husbands name) will always be my boy" as if shes trying to compete with me. i really dont know what to do.
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!
Jen

Chicago, IL

#15 Apr 23, 2009
damselindistress wrote:
Recently, I married the man of my dreams after 7 years of an on/off relationship (He was married to a woman three times his age when i met him and so when she died we finally decided to marry). So we got married on my 23rd birthday and during the wedding party, his mother says shes not feeling well.
Two months later, she's still living in my marital home claiming she has a bad leg but whenever the doctor comes around, he says he can find nothing wrong except a little stiffness. Whenever i prepare a meal after coming back from a 10 hour day at work, she complains my food is too spicy and my husband just sits there and says nothing.
My husband and I cant even have sex in our room because his mother is right next door and often stays up late on the phone to her friends. She spends the entire day lazing around the house watching pay per view movies which my husband pays for, but we are struggling financial and so reading the bank statement is so painful especially when £200 a month is being spent on her.
Whenever my friends come over, she makes them feel uncomfortable by making crude jokes and making comments like "johnny (thats my husbands name) will always be my boy" as if shes trying to compete with me. i really dont know what to do.
His wife was in her 80's? Why was Johnny married to an old woman? Gold digging a little? So you two are foolin around for seven years until she dies. How old is HER mother? Johnny must have quite a johnny.
joey joe joe shabadu

Cranebrook, Australia

#16 Apr 23, 2009
i reckon you should drop a nugget in her face
ithappenedtometo o

Alamo, CA

#17 Apr 23, 2009
damselindistress wrote:
Recently, I married the man of my dreams after 7 years of an on/off relationship (He was married to a woman three times his age when i met him and so when she died we finally decided to marry). So we got married on my 23rd birthday and during the wedding party, his mother says shes not feeling well.
Two months later, she's still living in my marital home claiming she has a bad leg but whenever the doctor comes around, he says he can find nothing wrong except a little stiffness. Whenever i prepare a meal after coming back from a 10 hour day at work, she complains my food is too spicy and my husband just sits there and says nothing.
My husband and I cant even have sex in our room because his mother is right next door and often stays up late on the phone to her friends. She spends the entire day lazing around the house watching pay per view movies which my husband pays for, but we are struggling financial and so reading the bank statement is so painful especially when £200 a month is being spent on her.
Whenever my friends come over, she makes them feel uncomfortable by making crude jokes and making comments like "johnny (thats my husbands name) will always be my boy" as if shes trying to compete with me. i really dont know what to do.
I long as you understand the word ""options''' you'll understand that you can make changes that are beneficial for your well being.
the mother should go, and that leg problems is hers, she should know what to do.
her son seem to be a mama's little boy who doesn't want to grow up.
if this persist after you give him an ultimatum then you better pack and look for greener pastures.
there is no need to spend your life in a situation that is less than desirable.
just remember is you who can change your life...don't expect anybody else do it for you.
grow up honey otherwise happiness doesn't came cheap.
damselindistress

London, UK

#18 Apr 23, 2009
joey joe joe shabadu wrote:
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LMAO!!!!!!!!!!
whats so funny- YOU GUYS wont believe what she did today- she says she wants to have one of her friends from school move in with us and live in the guest room because her friend is apparently very lonely in her own home.

i cant leave him because he knows so much about things ive done in the past and i know nobody will want me if i leave him.
and to the person who said that johnny must have quite a johnny- yes he does, but weve been unable to conceived a child due to the disturbances his mother causes when we try to have sex.
damselindistress

London, UK

#19 Apr 23, 2009
johnny married her because he used to mow her lawn and they fell in love but he didnt love her he felt sorry for her, he loved me and thats why we were seeing each other behind her back, Johnny is not a gold digger, all the money from her will went to a charity that Johnny chose and thats why i love him, its his mother who i cant stand.

she and her friends are downstairs now drinking and talking about me, Johnnys working the night shift so he'll be home tommorow morning so im stuck with MONSTER IN LAW
Dude

East Islip, NY

#20 Apr 22, 2014
Who does not what Mom to hear the sexually activity? You or Hubby? If it is you, she wins, when you don't play hid the salami. You want her out, bang the boy morning, noon and nite. Do it on the couch. Get his co*k had while watching TV. So he won' think of anything else but getting off

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