Cherianne

Johannesburg, South Africa

#5247 Feb 12, 2013
Epiphany2 wrote:
<quoted text>
So I guess you got it all sorted (found your paperwork) Where did you find it...In a box hidden?
When you say you don't want to have contact with the "low life" who are you talking about?
Our Unemployment is kind of like that....I have an appointment on Thursday (Valentines day here in the US).....
I hope your son LOVES his new car....God Bless
Hey Epi

No, we never found the registration papers for his car. So Low Life has to get copies. Low Life is my ex husband.

He is going to have to hang onto the car until the copy docs come through. Teach him a lesson for swearing and screaming at me about my mother being a cow. Nice eh! Really dodgy character.

My son already loves his car but tomorrow is the big day. Paperwork gets handed over, car registered and he will have his car.

All good things come to those that wait eh!

Lots of love to you Epi.
Love
Cherianne
xxxx
Tired of being unhappy

Coffeyville, KS

#5248 Feb 12, 2013
Epiphany2 wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Tired.....
I have been married twice. First time I was married 17 yers and this time 24 years. In my first marriage I started to feel like you....unappreciated. I think you just want to be acknowledged and treasured. The only way that is going to change is if you sit down and talk to your husband. He may not know how you feel. After you tell him and he still "takes you for granted" then you need to think about maybe moving on....Do you have children?
You can post on here...You can trust us...God Bless
Yes we have two children, 23 & 20.
I would have to go pretty far back in our marriage to think of a time I felt "appreciated". I know I have become person I really don't like anymore. I remember when when we were first married I was a pretty confident person, I felt strong, and I was a very social person and loved to be around people and do things. Now I have no confidence, don't feel like a strong person at all, and really have no friends and we are far from social people. For the first several years of our marriage my husband was a very jealous person. To the extent of being very controlling. It seemed everytime I talked to a man no matter who they were I would end up being accused of sleeping with them. It was so bad by the end of it I was being accused of sleeping with women too. I walked on eggshells all the time worrying about if anything I was saying or doing might make him think I was screwing around. It just got easier to avoid as much contact with others as possible and not end up in any conversations with men or anyone towards the end that might end up being turned into a new accusation of an affair. When I say "the end" I mean we did get past that problem but only after it got so bad that he actually started making up accusations of me being somewhere or around someone and saying people told him I was when he was making it up just to see if it would get me to admit to anything else. Finally I was actually ready to leave him and he promised to go to counsiling, which he did, and we haven't had to deal with that since. Believe me, it got real bad before it got better but he never was violent towards me and never has been.
Well that's about enough now, my post seems more like a mini novel.
Thanks to everyone for the kind words and advice. You all just allowing me to get things out and have a place to talk is more help than you can know.
Cherianne

Johannesburg, South Africa

#5249 Feb 12, 2013
Good Morning Mam, Epi and Tired,

I hope that your day goes really well and that you enjoy it.

Not much in the way of news here. Just work, work work.

Will try and pop in today later on.

Love to you all

Cherianne
xxxx

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5250 Feb 12, 2013
Cherianne wrote:
Good Morning Mam, Epi and Tired,
I hope that your day goes really well and that you enjoy it.
Not much in the way of news here. Just work, work work.
Will try and pop in today later on.
Love to you all
Cherianne
xxxx
Hi Cherianne;

Oldest grandson and girlfriend came by this evening and so did son and ate dinner with us.Had a good time listening to all the chatter and future plans.They just drop in and I shoveled plates of food at them lol.

The weather remains cold here yet.You should soon be going into winter where you are when does that start.

Hope son has his new car by now and everything has gotten settled.
Sure make the transportation schedule more workable for you both.
have a good day at work.God bless loveya mam whispers.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5251 Feb 12, 2013
Epiphany2 wrote:
<quoted text>
Morning LW.....
You must have alot of Stephen King books to have a casket bookcase made....LOL...You know Stephen Kings glasses (how thick they are)...my glasses kind of look like that. But Thank GOD I can wear contacts...There is a optical surgery I could go for (Astigmatism)...Cheri knows all about that .....but I am kinda waiting. I also had an eye doctor tell my last year that a cataract growing on my eye .....
It rained all day yesterday and today is suppose to be the same...(We need it)....
Hope you have a great day today....Love ya'll
Hi Epi;

Not me my daughter does think she got everyone ever written.lol She got plans to build a small casket stand it up on one end with shelfves inside for her book collection.Honey and her are into all that spook stuff.lol lol.As for me I just play with the real live spooks lol(bears)lol.

Have you ever had eye surgery done Epi.I encourage you to get the eyes fixed if possible cause you sure do not want to ever be blind.Especially with the way you enjoy the sunrises and sunsets.

Snowed here last night and today it melted off and was all gone.Was suppose to get five inches but only got a dusting enough to cover the ground.Mother nature is just a tease.lol lol

I been following that case in california guess it is all over with now according to the news tonight.Another sad situation seems like it daily now.
have a good day God bless loveya lil whispers.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5252 Feb 12, 2013
Cherianne wrote:
<quoted text>
Oh wow Mam
you sure got caught by your son and your daughter. Yes these days things are very different from say when we were young. Sounds like you have a bunch of clowns there.
Keep warm Mam. Busy with an email to you.
Love
Cherianne
xxxx
Yep the clowns caught me for sure lol.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5253 Feb 12, 2013
Tired of being unhappy wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes we have two children, 23 & 20.
I would have to go pretty far back in our marriage to think of a time I felt "appreciated". I know I have become person I really don't like anymore. I remember when when we were first married I was a pretty confident person, I felt strong, and I was a very social person and loved to be around people and do things. Now I have no confidence, don't feel like a strong person at all, and really have no friends and we are far from social people. For the first several years of our marriage my husband was a very jealous person. To the extent of being very controlling. It seemed everytime I talked to a man no matter who they were I would end up being accused of sleeping with them. It was so bad by the end of it I was being accused of sleeping with women too. I walked on eggshells all the time worrying about if anything I was saying or doing might make him think I was screwing around. It just got easier to avoid as much contact with others as possible and not end up in any conversations with men or anyone towards the end that might end up being turned into a new accusation of an affair. When I say "the end" I mean we did get past that problem but only after it got so bad that he actually started making up accusations of me being somewhere or around someone and saying people told him I was when he was making it up just to see if it would get me to admit to anything else. Finally I was actually ready to leave him and he promised to go to counsiling, which he did, and we haven't had to deal with that since. Believe me, it got real bad before it got better but he never was violent towards me and never has been.
Well that's about enough now, my post seems more like a mini novel.
Thanks to everyone for the kind words and advice. You all just allowing me to get things out and have a place to talk is more help than you can know.
Hi unhappy;

Hope you had a better day today and are taking care of yourself.You got support here with us.I left you a couple of messages on page 254 hope you found them.Take care God bless loveya lil whispers.

“~ Prince of Peace~”

Since: Apr 08

~ And the greatest is LOVE~

#5254 Feb 13, 2013
Tired of being unhappy wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes we have two children, 23 & 20.
I would have to go pretty far back in our marriage to think of a time I felt "appreciated". I know I have become person I really don't like anymore. I remember when when we were first married I was a pretty confident person, I felt strong, and I was a very social person and loved to be around people and do things. Now I have no confidence, don't feel like a strong person at all, and really have no friends and we are far from social people. For the first several years of our marriage my husband was a very jealous person. To the extent of being very controlling. It seemed everytime I talked to a man no matter who they were I would end up being accused of sleeping with them. It was so bad by the end of it I was being accused of sleeping with women too. I walked on eggshells all the time worrying about if anything I was saying or doing might make him think I was screwing around. It just got easier to avoid as much contact with others as possible and not end up in any conversations with men or anyone towards the end that might end up being turned into a new accusation of an affair. When I say "the end" I mean we did get past that problem but only after it got so bad that he actually started making up accusations of me being somewhere or around someone and saying people told him I was when he was making it up just to see if it would get me to admit to anything else. Finally I was actually ready to leave him and he promised to go to counsiling, which he did, and we haven't had to deal with that since. Believe me, it got real bad before it got better but he never was violent towards me and never has been.
Well that's about enough now, my post seems more like a mini novel.
Thanks to everyone for the kind words and advice. You all just allowing me to get things out and have a place to talk is more help than you can know.
Sounds like he is insecure.....Not wanting you to have friends....He is emotionally abusive (not physical)....He had broke you down and you feel beaten. If he has gone to couseling before...maybe he will go again while you tell him how you feel. If he refuses to go....You should probably think about finding your "old self"

Life is too short to not be happy and do what you want to do (and to be with other people)

Take care Tired

“~ Prince of Peace~”

Since: Apr 08

~ And the greatest is LOVE~

#5255 Feb 13, 2013
lil whispers wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Epi;
Not me my daughter does think she got everyone ever written.lol She got plans to build a small casket stand it up on one end with shelfves inside for her book collection.Honey and her are into all that spook stuff.lol lol.As for me I just play with the real live spooks lol(bears)lol.
Have you ever had eye surgery done Epi.I encourage you to get the eyes fixed if possible cause you sure do not want to ever be blind.Especially with the way you enjoy the sunrises and sunsets.
Snowed here last night and today it melted off and was all gone.Was suppose to get five inches but only got a dusting enough to cover the ground.Mother nature is just a tease.lol lol
I been following that case in california guess it is all over with now according to the news tonight.Another sad situation seems like it daily now.
have a good day God bless loveya lil whispers.
Hey there LW....

Yea....I'm keeping an eye on my vision (thats a "pun")

Yesterday and today are rainy days....I can see our buds popping out on the trees. The crocuses and dafodills are already out....

Everyone is doing good (Thank you God)

Will talk to ya later...Love ya

“~ Prince of Peace~”

Since: Apr 08

~ And the greatest is LOVE~

#5256 Feb 13, 2013
Cherianne wrote:
<quoted text>
Hey Epi
No, we never found the registration papers for his car. So Low Life has to get copies. Low Life is my ex husband.
He is going to have to hang onto the car until the copy docs come through. Teach him a lesson for swearing and screaming at me about my mother being a cow. Nice eh! Really dodgy character.
My son already loves his car but tomorrow is the big day. Paperwork gets handed over, car registered and he will have his car.
All good things come to those that wait eh!
Lots of love to you Epi.
Love
Cherianne
xxxx
Oh Low Life is your Ex.....:-)..But it does sound like he is there for your son...That is good. My ex met a women he worked with and started going out with her and asked for a divorce. When he divorced me....He divorced our two boys...Sad situation....I think my youngest boy has some "abondonment issues" he is dealing with now (drinks too much)....Course he thinks he is fine...I asked God to take care of him.

Have a great day at work.....
Cherianne

Johannesburg, South Africa

#5257 Feb 13, 2013
Epiphany2 wrote:
<quoted text>
Oh Low Life is your Ex.....:-)..But it does sound like he is there for your son...That is good. My ex met a women he worked with and started going out with her and asked for a divorce. When he divorced me....He divorced our two boys...Sad situation....I think my youngest boy has some "abondonment issues" he is dealing with now (drinks too much)....Course he thinks he is fine...I asked God to take care of him.
Have a great day at work.....
Hi there Epi

No Low Life ran away from SA when my son was 2.5 years old and returned the week before his 21st birthday. Never paid a cent in child support and I never received my settlement either. Only saw him once when the cops arrested him for non payment of maintenance and he bull-dusted his way out of that in two weeks and ran like hell to get out the country again. It was working out too costly for me to get him back here for any cases, so I just cut my losses. Since he been back the pooh has hit the fan a number of times with his temper and swearing.

So ...... life goes on but not as peacefully as it did when he was in hiding. Now he has contact with my son, but I have told my son that I will not be attending any family gatherings where he is or any celebration dinners either. I will stop at home and got to bed early or read a book (or watch paint dry).

Love you lots
Cherianne
xxxx

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5258 Feb 13, 2013
Epiphany2 wrote:
<quoted text>
Hey there LW....
Yea....I'm keeping an eye on my vision (thats a "pun")
Yesterday and today are rainy days....I can see our buds popping out on the trees. The crocuses and dafodills are already out....
Everyone is doing good (Thank you God)
Will talk to ya later...Love ya
Hi Epi;

I sure hope you take care of thoses eyes cause they are sure important.Do you have good specialist in the field of eye care out there where you are.

I have two huge pear trees on this place and a whole host of cottonwood trees and pine tree too around my house area but they usurally do not bud out until around the end of April.The growing season here is short.Garden centers near by will not have plants out for sale until about the first of april.I finally quit buying live plants for the yard cause the wild critter come along at night and eat them especially the deer.The bear come for the fruit off of the fruit trees.So I just invested in silk flowers that are not eatable lol lol.You live in such a beautiful place with all the greenery where out here is bare and rough.Alot of rock gardens are put in peoples yards out here.Low maintances.Plus you get alot of moisture.

Have a good day.God bless loveya lil whispers.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5259 Feb 13, 2013
Hi Cherianne;

Tis almost one am coming in to leave you a short note.Tis cold here tonight.Hope you are doin okay weekend will soon be here again.Everyone is doin okay here too.Off to rest for awhile as been a very long day for me.God bless Loveya mam whispers.
Cherianne

Johannesburg, South Africa

#5260 Feb 14, 2013
lil whispers wrote:
Hi Cherianne;
Tis almost one am coming in to leave you a short note.Tis cold here tonight.Hope you are doin okay weekend will soon be here again.Everyone is doin okay here too.Off to rest for awhile as been a very long day for me.God bless Loveya mam whispers.
Hi Mam

Such a crazy maniac day today. My bosses wife had a stroke last night and has bleeding in the brain. She was transferred to a Mediclinic Hospital The Neuro-surgeon told my boss that they need to operate immediately to release the pressure and pain in her brain. So my dear old boss is in a right state. When he phoned me I could hear that he was either crying or close to it. He is in the Cape at the moment so they took her to Somerset West Mediclinic. I am waiting to hear from him as he drove there after the ambulance left and he is with the Neuro-Surgeon and finding out how things are. She is 80 years old so it is not encouraging. The family are all on standby with seats reserved on Virgin Atlantic to get here in a hurry tonight from the UK if the news is not good. At least his twins are here in SA and his son does work with him.

My son got his car this morning and is happy as Larry. He did not even phone me to let me know and I phoned him at about 10:00. Very chuffed he is. Still have to get the duplicate keys and register it at the insurance check up centre within 7 days. But we have one happy young man on our hands.

Mam I have taken tomorrow and Monday as leave. I have to do things for ME for a change. I need to rest and take it easy and the best way I know is to go and get my hair streaked and cut and blow waved. My son is giving me the money and I will give it back at the end of the month. I feel so dreary and like a mouse. Then I am going to spend time at home doing things slowly and enjoy being alone with the quiet and my two babies.

My computer at home sometimes works and sometimes does not so if I get it on a good day I shall email you but I don't promise anything. It is like a person in a bad mood ..........

My other boss rode into the concrete pillar in the basement parking so I have to sort that out before I go tonight. I offered to forgo Fridays leave due to my bosses wife ...... but my other boss said that I should take these two days as I loose them at the end of this month. So here I go, wish me luck as you wave me goodbye........

I hope everyone is doing okay your end. We are getting on okay.

HOW ARE YOU EPI and ANYONE ELSE THAT IS AROUND.

Take care and God bless
Love
Cherianne
xxxx

“~ Prince of Peace~”

Since: Apr 08

~ And the greatest is LOVE~

#5261 Feb 14, 2013
Running a little late today.....

Happy Valentine's day Everyone....Love ya!!

Cherianne...I thought about you this morning when I heard the story of the runner from SA that shot his model girlfriend. The story said SA has a high break in crime statistics....No wonder you live in a gated community...And have dogs...Stay safe....
And Sorry to hear about your Boss's wife...They seem like good people. I will lift her up in Healing Prayer.

LW....Stay warm and take care of honey and your furry critters...

Love ya All......
Cherianne

Johannesburg, South Africa

#5262 Feb 14, 2013
Epiphany2 wrote:
Running a little late today.....
Happy Valentine's day Everyone....Love ya!!
Cherianne...I thought about you this morning when I heard the story of the runner from SA that shot his model girlfriend. The story said SA has a high break in crime statistics....No wonder you live in a gated community...And have dogs...Stay safe....
And Sorry to hear about your Boss's wife...They seem like good people. I will lift her up in Healing Prayer.
LW....Stay warm and take care of honey and your furry critters...
Love ya All......
Dear Epi

They are good people (better than good actually)

Thank you for your prayers. She really needs every one that she can get.

Have to run going maniac in this office today.

Love to you
Cherianne
xxxx

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5263 Feb 14, 2013
Epiphany2 wrote:
Running a little late today.....
Happy Valentine's day Everyone....Love ya!!
Cherianne...I thought about you this morning when I heard the story of the runner from SA that shot his model girlfriend. The story said SA has a high break in crime statistics....No wonder you live in a gated community...And have dogs...Stay safe....
And Sorry to hear about your Boss's wife...They seem like good people. I will lift her up in Healing Prayer.
LW....Stay warm and take care of honey and your furry critters...
Love ya All......
Happy Valentines Day.
Hope you had a wonderful day together.
God bless loveya lil whispers.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5264 Feb 14, 2013
Cherianne wrote:
<quoted text>
Hi Mam
Such a crazy maniac day today. My bosses wife had a stroke last night and has bleeding in the brain. She was transferred to a Mediclinic Hospital The Neuro-surgeon told my boss that they need to operate immediately to release the pressure and pain in her brain. So my dear old boss is in a right state. When he phoned me I could hear that he was either crying or close to it. He is in the Cape at the moment so they took her to Somerset West Mediclinic. I am waiting to hear from him as he drove there after the ambulance left and he is with the Neuro-Surgeon and finding out how things are. She is 80 years old so it is not encouraging. The family are all on standby with seats reserved on Virgin Atlantic to get here in a hurry tonight from the UK if the news is not good. At least his twins are here in SA and his son does work with him.
My son got his car this morning and is happy as Larry. He did not even phone me to let me know and I phoned him at about 10:00. Very chuffed he is. Still have to get the duplicate keys and register it at the insurance check up centre within 7 days. But we have one happy young man on our hands.
Mam I have taken tomorrow and Monday as leave. I have to do things for ME for a change. I need to rest and take it easy and the best way I know is to go and get my hair streaked and cut and blow waved. My son is giving me the money and I will give it back at the end of the month. I feel so dreary and like a mouse. Then I am going to spend time at home doing things slowly and enjoy being alone with the quiet and my two babies.
My computer at home sometimes works and sometimes does not so if I get it on a good day I shall email you but I don't promise anything. It is like a person in a bad mood ..........
My other boss rode into the concrete pillar in the basement parking so I have to sort that out before I go tonight. I offered to forgo Fridays leave due to my bosses wife ...... but my other boss said that I should take these two days as I loose them at the end of this month. So here I go, wish me luck as you wave me goodbye........
I hope everyone is doing okay your end. We are getting on okay.
HOW ARE YOU EPI and ANYONE ELSE THAT IS AROUND.
Take care and God bless
Love
Cherianne
xxxx
Happy Valentines Day.
Hope you and son had a grand day.
God bless loveya mam whispers.

Since: Oct 12

Location hidden

#5265 Feb 14, 2013
Happy Valentines Day.
To all who stop in to read.
God bless.

“~ Prince of Peace~”

Since: Apr 08

~ And the greatest is LOVE~

#5266 Feb 15, 2013
Morning Friends.....

It is FRIday....Thank God its Friday...Thank God it is anyday....

I am looking forward to talking to the Grandkids on Sunday....Grandson's Fourth Birthday is next week. He is getting funny....Typical Boy

I hope everyone has a great day today.....Love ya All!!

Buh Bye

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