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White Guys: Why Do You All Struggle With Approaching Black Women???

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Since: Feb 11

Nashport, OH

#1 Feb 5, 2011
I always see you white men looking, but you never have the guts to approach. Just curious....

“Winchester Model 1894”

Since: Apr 07

Roy, Washington

#2 Feb 5, 2011
Soulsista88 wrote:
I always see you white men looking, but you never have the guts to approach. Just curious....
For me, I've never had a problem with it. I've had various relationships with African American women and have seldom felt ill at ease. As long as they act like a human, and a woman and don't try and push their ethnicity on me it's no problem. BTW, I'm white.
Pool Shark

Carson, CA

#3 Feb 5, 2011
Soulsista88 wrote:
I always see you white men looking, but you never have the guts to approach. Just curious....
Just wear a short skirt and sexy top, and I'll approach!
Pool Shark

Carson, CA

#4 Feb 5, 2011
MPMARTIN wrote:
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For me, I've never had a problem with it. I've had various relationships with African American women and have seldom felt ill at ease. As long as they act like a human, and a woman and don't try and push their ethnicity on me it's no problem. BTW, I'm white.
I had a Black girlfriend living with me for a year and a half. No problem for me. I live in L.A. and I think that living in a big city helps because every ethnicity and gender is dating every other ethnicity and gender, so it's no big deal. In small towns it's probably a big deal. Do you live in a large city?

“Winchester Model 1894”

Since: Apr 07

Roy, Washington

#5 Feb 5, 2011
Pool Shark wrote:
<quoted text>I had a Black girlfriend living with me for a year and a half. No problem for me. I live in L.A. and I think that living in a big city helps because every ethnicity and gender is dating every other ethnicity and gender, so it's no big deal. In small towns it's probably a big deal. Do you live in a large city?
At the time I lived in the Seattle/Tacoma area, but I really don't think that was a factor. I met her in the course of my job, our personalities seem to click and there we were. We both knew it wouldn't be a long-lasting relationship, but we were very comfortable with each other.
PA PD

United States

#6 Feb 5, 2011
Soulsista88 wrote:
I always see you white men looking, but you never have the guts to approach. Just curious....
It's not easy to tell someone they got a booger hangin......

Since: Feb 11

Nashport, OH

#7 Feb 5, 2011
@ MpMartin- You seem like a brave guy, you will be rewarded in the future with something great!@ Pool Shark- I actually live in Columbus, Oh....Columbus is an average size city, with lots of diversity. But one thing I've noticed though, in general, is normally an urban white guy will approach me before a suburban one. Either way it goes though....MAJORITY of the time no one ever approaches! I think I've been approached by 2 white guys my whole life. It's evident that many are attracted, because many look! LOL Also, the ones that did approach, came up rapping to me like they were a "soulman"...that is just not cute! Sometimes it seems that many white guys try too hard to give black women the impression that they're like the black man. Don't get me wrong....I LOVE white guys, but I love it even more when you all are YOURSELVES! Black women can tell when white men are trying to be something they are not. I just don't see why you guys can't relax, and be the Abercrombie and Fitch guys you are....tons of black women find that VERY attractive. It's a difference between being urban, and trying to portray something you aren't!

Since: Feb 11

Nashport, OH

#8 Feb 5, 2011
PA PD wrote:
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It's not easy to tell someone they got a booger hangin......
Pure IGNORANCE.

“Winchester Model 1894”

Since: Apr 07

Roy, Washington

#9 Feb 5, 2011
Soulsista88 wrote:
@ MpMartin- You seem like a brave guy, you will be rewarded in the future with something great!!
Thank you for your comments, and indeed I was rewarded!!

My wife of 40 years died in '03. In '04 I was planning a trip to Russia and happened to strike up an online conversation with a widow in northern England. We were married 3 years ago.
PA PD

United States

#10 Feb 5, 2011
Soulsista88 wrote:
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Pure IGNORANCE.
Oh, sure. Like you have no problem pointing those things out.

Since: Feb 11

Nashport, OH

#11 Feb 5, 2011
PA PD wrote:
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Oh, sure. Like you have no problem pointing those things out.
What does a booger have anything to do with this discussion anyways?!? You're lost...you need to exit this discussion ASAP!!! Thanks...if you have nothing positive to say, you can be dismissed.

Since: Feb 11

Reality

#12 Feb 5, 2011
Soulsista88 wrote:
I always see you white men looking, but you never have the guts to approach. Just curious....
I've experienced the same thing. Not just with white men but with black men as well. Some stare and finally approach and others will just continue to stare, not really knowing what to say or how to approach. Some men are shy and may fear rejection, which is understandable.

What I do is if I make eye contact with a guy over and over again and he keeps staring without saying anything, I will give him a nice smile. Depending upon how far away they are, I may do a little wave. It's a nice way to break the ice and show that you are approachable and open to speaking with him. I will not do this with every guy...just the ones I find cute, attractive, get a good initial vibe from, etc.(you know) lol. This method seems to work well with men from all races. It also helps if the woman exudes a soft, approachable, happy type vibe.
White Guy

Houston, TX

#14 Mar 25, 2011
Struggle ? There's no struggle. There's no desire!

Since: Feb 11

Nashport, OH

#15 Mar 25, 2011
White Guy wrote:
Struggle ? There's no struggle. There's no desire!
Good for you! It's okay if you don't like black women....it's probably because you couldn't get one anyways! I'm sure there are some white men that love black women....so you need not to SPEAK for the whole race....just yourself, thanks.
White Guy

Houston, TX

#16 Mar 25, 2011
So are you attempting to speak for the whole race of white men.
Because it sure sounds that way.
Aryan Guy 20

Orlando, FL

#17 Mar 25, 2011
I've never been with a black girl, id imagine itd b like an sexualy exotic. idk bout dating, they'd have to speak and dress like white girls. id refuse to touch a white girl that had got with a black guy, i just get a revolting feeling so idk. soul u look pretty cute. I'd try it. i would have to say something a black ass if i hit that tho ;)
White Guy

Houston, TX

#18 Mar 25, 2011
Aryan Guy I bet you are a black girl. I not fooled.
cee gee

Canada

#19 Aug 19, 2011
I think many black women are godesses wow!!!!! how they get my heart racing, im a 6'4" white guy and would love to meet an attractive black women, sad story though, not very many in my area

Since: Feb 11

Reality

#20 Sep 30, 2011
cee gee wrote:
I think many black women are godesses wow!!!!! how they get my heart racing, im a 6'4" white guy and would love to meet an attractive black women, sad story though, not very many in my area
Travel a bit more hun. we're worth it :)
Wanda Dodat

San Jose, CA

#21 Oct 9, 2011
we're worth it?

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