Thank you sweet lady. I went to grief counseling for about 5 months, and chickened out when it got to the hard part....the counselor told me to write a "loss timeline" of all the losses in my life, and I just couldn't ever find the time to focus on that....so I quit going. However, I don't do any medication- just a lot of meditation. It seems to help. But I don't think I'll ever "come to terms with it," whatever that means...I think about my son all the time, and wish for him daily, even after three years. Sometimes it feels like 20 minutes....and then I cry.<quoted text>Hey Shovelhead
I am soooooo sorry to read about your son. You have every right to cry and people must get to understand how things are for you.
My Mum lost a child at 3 years and 3 months and she never came to terms with it. She had bad days and good days but it was always there. So I do understand how you feel. I lost someone very dear to me a few years back and it left such a void in my life - I was never the same person after that.
I wish you happiness, enjoyment and most of all I wish you the strength to see this through and to come out the other side calm and healed .I cannot say anything else.
PS I went for "grief" councelling and I take meds as it affected me badly.
He was 23. Thank God I have another one, who turns 24 this year. And my older son's friends have adopted me - including his widow, with whom I've become very close since.(We were not friends before he died....in fact we pretty much loathed each other....but now that we don't have him to tussle over, we get along great. Odd how that works.)
Have a great day, hon. I plan to.