Since: May 10

Ava, MO

#62 Dec 13, 2010
nanoanomaly wrote:
<quoted text>The kid was a piece of work?
Meant that the kids bio dad was a piece of work . He was gone and then wanted to come back like everything was all right . He actually thought the Boy would welcome him back with open arms go figure .
redlei19

Lawrence, KS

#63 Dec 14, 2010
I feel child support services should investigate before giving women child support. Alot of you are missing the point of the question. think of it like this a woman has a child with a man and at the age of 4 the woman and man decide to split. the woman waits until the man has moved on and is happy with someone else, the child is now 7. why did she wait 3 years later to put him on child support? even after the split he was taking care of his child seeing his child and everything else. being vendictived means A WOMAN PUTS A MAN ON CHILD SUPPORT OUT OF JEALOUSY OR HATRED. there are men out here who should be on child support and are not! the men who actually love and care for their children are the ones who end up on child support because the babymomma could not let go. the sad part about all of this is what is she doing with her life? some women get child support and are living on welfare no job no car no education and spend their childs money on themselves!I believe before a man gets put on child support child services should contact him and ask his side of the story first. you would be amazed at how many men should really have their children instead of the mothers. just because some mom goes and shed's a tear doesnt mean she should get cp. there are women who really need it and dont get it. IT'S NOT RIGHT TO PUT A MAN ON CHILD SUPPORT JUST BECAUSE YOU GOT MAD HE LEFT YOU!!! child support is suppose to be about the child not a women's personal issues WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO LOVE THEIR CHILDREN MORE THEN THEY HATE THIER DADDY. AND I AM A FEMALE SAYING THIS!

Since: Aug 08

Kingsport, TN

#64 Dec 14, 2010
redlei19 wrote:
I feel child support services should investigate before giving women child support. Alot of you are missing the point of the question. think of it like this a woman has a child with a man and at the age of 4 the woman and man decide to split. the woman waits until the man has moved on and is happy with someone else, the child is now 7. why did she wait 3 years later to put him on child support? even after the split he was taking care of his child seeing his child and everything else. being vendictived means A WOMAN PUTS A MAN ON CHILD SUPPORT OUT OF JEALOUSY OR HATRED. there are men out here who should be on child support and are not! the men who actually love and care for their children are the ones who end up on child support because the babymomma could not let go. the sad part about all of this is what is she doing with her life? some women get child support and are living on welfare no job no car no education and spend their childs money on themselves!I believe before a man gets put on child support child services should contact him and ask his side of the story first. you would be amazed at how many men should really have their children instead of the mothers. just because some mom goes and shed's a tear doesnt mean she should get cp. there are women who really need it and dont get it. IT'S NOT RIGHT TO PUT A MAN ON CHILD SUPPORT JUST BECAUSE YOU GOT MAD HE LEFT YOU!!! child support is suppose to be about the child not a women's personal issues WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO LOVE THEIR CHILDREN MORE THEN THEY HATE THIER DADDY. AND I AM A FEMALE SAYING THIS!
If the dad is all that and cares so much why would he complain because he has to pay child support? Doing it through the state just assures it is paid on time and the dad gets credit for payments. See you men think its all about you guess what its not some women really care about their children, if a woman goes to child support court to assure her child gets support good for her
Support

Circleville, OH

#65 Dec 14, 2010
I have 2 children that yes their father is to pay support on. But now the kids are going on 18 and 16 years later. The child support has became backed up on total balance due of $28,000.00
I never pushed the issue on receiving support and raised my kids as if they were not missing out on anything. It is not my kids fault their father wasn't paying support!
Sure it would have been nice to get help from the man I had kids with back then. But they are great kids and I can only thank him for giving me these 2 in my life.
Even today I do not hate him, He just made himself hard to find when the kids needed him in their life up to this day it remains the same.
Being mom and dad to my kids has been a joy. Supporting them was worth every penny. As for support I will never miss what I never had. Money isn't everything but at times it does help.
Every passing day my kids grew up rather the support was there or not and I "Mom" was with them every step of the way
REDLEI

Lawrence, KS

#66 Dec 14, 2010
moonshinegrrl420 wrote:
<quoted text>
If the dad is all that and cares so much why would he complain because he has to pay child support? Doing it through the state just assures it is paid on time and the dad gets credit for payments. See you men think its all about you guess what its not some women really care about their children, if a woman goes to child support court to assure her child gets support good for her
obv u missed the entire point! nobody said anything about nothing what you talking about! what i said is simple as this if a man is taking care of his child and has always been and moves on with his life BUT STILL TAKES CARE OF HIS CHILD! and a woman out of jealousy not liking his new girl puts him on child support that is wrong! that's not doing it for the child thats doing it because she is in her feelings maybe you need to reread what i said im tired of women always trying say if u on cp y u complaing that's not the dam point at all!!!!! if he was still f'n with her she wouldnt even be thinkin about puttin him on child support there are women out here who actually need it and dont get it! you trying to justify the fact they his kids and its his duty to do it but it aint bout what he saying at all ITS ABOUT WOMEN WHO DO IT OUT OF SPITE THEN GET MAD CUZ THEY NOT GETTING AS MUCH AS THEY THOUGHT THEY WAS GONNA GET! YOU WOULD BE MAD TOO IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER FOOT YOU DOING FOR YOUR CHILD AND ALWAYS WILL SEEING HIM/HER ALL DAY EVERYDAY THEN YOU MET A GUY FALL IN LOVE BUT YOU STILL TAKING CARE OF YOUR CHILD NO MATTER WHAT BUT OUTTA NO WHERE YO BABYDADDY GET MAD CUZ YOU MOVED ON AND PUT YOU ON CHILD SUPPORT FOR NO REASON AT ALL JUST CUZ HE MAD THATS WAS THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST ITS NOT ABOUT HIM COMPLAINING HE PAYING IF HE PAYING HE PAYING BUT ITS WOMEN OUT HERE COLLECTING STATE AID WHO LIE ABOUT WHO THEY BABYDADDY IS JUST TO GET THE MONEY BECAUSE THEY DONT REALLY WANT TO PUT HIM ON IT THEY JUST MONEY HUNGRY IM TIRED OF WOMEN ALWAYS TRYING TO DOWN GRADE A MAN LIKE THEY BETTER ITS WOMEN OUT HERE WHO DONT EVEN NEED THEY KIDS HOW YOU GON SPEND YOUR CHILD'S CHILD SUPPORT GETTING YOUR HAIR N NAILS DONE CLUBBIN AND DIRNKIN N SMOKIN N YO KIDS RUNNING AROUND LOOKIN A HOT MESS! MY FATHER WAS A SINGLE FATHER HE RAISED TWO KIDS AND PAID CHILD SUPPORT THE THE THIRD ONE NOBODY EVER ASKED HIM ABOUT PUTTING MY MOTHER ON CHILD SUPPORT IT AINT ABOUT THE MAN OR THE WOMAN ITS ABOUT THE KIDS AND SOME WOMEN DONT UNDERSTAND THAT
the Originalifes a beach

Harrisburg, PA

#67 Dec 14, 2010
REDLEI wrote:
<quoted text>
obv u missed the entire point! nobody said anything about nothing what you talking about! what i said is simple as this if a man is taking care of his child and has always been and moves on with his life BUT STILL TAKES CARE OF HIS CHILD! and a woman out of jealousy not liking his new girl puts him on child support that is wrong! that's not doing it for the child thats doing it because she is in her feelings maybe you need to reread what i said im tired of women always trying say if u on cp y u complaing that's not the dam point at all!!!!! if he was still f'n with her she wouldnt even be thinkin about puttin him on child support there are women out here who actually need it and dont get it! you trying to justify the fact they his kids and its his duty to do it but it aint bout what he saying at all ITS ABOUT WOMEN WHO DO IT OUT OF SPITE THEN GET MAD CUZ THEY NOT GETTING AS MUCH AS THEY THOUGHT THEY WAS GONNA GET! YOU WOULD BE MAD TOO IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER FOOT YOU DOING FOR YOUR CHILD AND ALWAYS WILL SEEING HIM/HER ALL DAY EVERYDAY THEN YOU MET A GUY FALL IN LOVE BUT YOU STILL TAKING CARE OF YOUR CHILD NO MATTER WHAT BUT OUTTA NO WHERE YO BABYDADDY GET MAD CUZ YOU MOVED ON AND PUT YOU ON CHILD SUPPORT FOR NO REASON AT ALL JUST CUZ HE MAD THATS WAS THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST ITS NOT ABOUT HIM COMPLAINING HE PAYING IF HE PAYING HE PAYING BUT ITS WOMEN OUT HERE COLLECTING STATE AID WHO LIE ABOUT WHO THEY BABYDADDY IS JUST TO GET THE MONEY BECAUSE THEY DONT REALLY WANT TO PUT HIM ON IT THEY JUST MONEY HUNGRY IM TIRED OF WOMEN ALWAYS TRYING TO DOWN GRADE A MAN LIKE THEY BETTER ITS WOMEN OUT HERE WHO DONT EVEN NEED THEY KIDS HOW YOU GON SPEND YOUR CHILD'S CHILD SUPPORT GETTING YOUR HAIR N NAILS DONE CLUBBIN AND DIRNKIN N SMOKIN N YO KIDS RUNNING AROUND LOOKIN A HOT MESS! MY FATHER WAS A SINGLE FATHER HE RAISED TWO KIDS AND PAID CHILD SUPPORT THE THE THIRD ONE NOBODY EVER ASKED HIM ABOUT PUTTING MY MOTHER ON CHILD SUPPORT IT AINT ABOUT THE MAN OR THE WOMAN ITS ABOUT THE KIDS AND SOME WOMEN DONT UNDERSTAND THAT
If it benefits the kids in the longrun (and isn't misused) then who cares about the woman's motives?

Since: Aug 08

Kingsport, TN

#68 Dec 15, 2010
REDLEI wrote:
<quoted text>
obv u missed the entire point! nobody said anything about nothing what you talking about! what i said is simple as this if a man is taking care of his child and has always been and moves on with his life BUT STILL TAKES CARE OF HIS CHILD! and a woman out of jealousy not liking his new girl puts him on child support that is wrong! that's not doing it for the child thats doing it because she is in her feelings maybe you need to reread what i said im tired of women always trying say if u on cp y u complaing that's not the dam point at all!!!!! if he was still f'n with her she wouldnt even be thinkin about puttin him on child support there are women out here who actually need it and dont get it! you trying to justify the fact they his kids and its his duty to do it but it aint bout what he saying at all ITS ABOUT WOMEN WHO DO IT OUT OF SPITE THEN GET MAD CUZ THEY NOT GETTING AS MUCH AS THEY THOUGHT THEY WAS GONNA GET! YOU WOULD BE MAD TOO IF THE SHOE WAS ON THE OTHER FOOT YOU DOING FOR YOUR CHILD AND ALWAYS WILL SEEING HIM/HER ALL DAY EVERYDAY THEN YOU MET A GUY FALL IN LOVE BUT YOU STILL TAKING CARE OF YOUR CHILD NO MATTER WHAT BUT OUTTA NO WHERE YO BABYDADDY GET MAD CUZ YOU MOVED ON AND PUT YOU ON CHILD SUPPORT FOR NO REASON AT ALL JUST CUZ HE MAD THATS WAS THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST ITS NOT ABOUT HIM COMPLAINING HE PAYING IF HE PAYING HE PAYING BUT ITS WOMEN OUT HERE COLLECTING STATE AID WHO LIE ABOUT WHO THEY BABYDADDY IS JUST TO GET THE MONEY BECAUSE THEY DONT REALLY WANT TO PUT HIM ON IT THEY JUST MONEY HUNGRY IM TIRED OF WOMEN ALWAYS TRYING TO DOWN GRADE A MAN LIKE THEY BETTER ITS WOMEN OUT HERE WHO DONT EVEN NEED THEY KIDS HOW YOU GON SPEND YOUR CHILD'S CHILD SUPPORT GETTING YOUR HAIR N NAILS DONE CLUBBIN AND DIRNKIN N SMOKIN N YO KIDS RUNNING AROUND LOOKIN A HOT MESS! MY FATHER WAS A SINGLE FATHER HE RAISED TWO KIDS AND PAID CHILD SUPPORT THE THE THIRD ONE NOBODY EVER ASKED HIM ABOUT PUTTING MY MOTHER ON CHILD SUPPORT IT AINT ABOUT THE MAN OR THE WOMAN ITS ABOUT THE KIDS AND SOME WOMEN DONT UNDERSTAND THAT
Men always say its out of spite, thats why you go through court, they can demand a paternity test, the money goes through court so neither can say they didn't pay, there will be a record. If a man is taking care of his child why does it matter if it goes through the child support system? If your Dad didn't ask for child support that was his decision. If abuses are going on get evidence and report it.

“IMAGINE no religion!”

Since: Feb 09

usa

#69 Dec 16, 2010
Support wrote:
I have 2 children that yes their father is to pay support on. But now the kids are going on 18 and 16 years later. The child support has became backed up on total balance due of $28,000.00
I never pushed the issue on receiving support and raised my kids as if they were not missing out on anything. It is not my kids fault their father wasn't paying support!
Sure it would have been nice to get help from the man I had kids with back then. But they are great kids and I can only thank him for giving me these 2 in my life.
Even today I do not hate him, He just made himself hard to find when the kids needed him in their life up to this day it remains the same.
Being mom and dad to my kids has been a joy. Supporting them was worth every penny. As for support I will never miss what I never had. Money isn't everything but at times it does help.
Every passing day my kids grew up rather the support was there or not and I "Mom" was with them every step of the way
^5

you go gurl!!!!!!!!!!

and when people say what great people, your children have become.....you and you alone know who is responsible!
mich

Waterbury, CT

#70 Dec 16, 2010
whats worse is when the woman takes the man to court for child support, and she is also on state assistance.. because now the father also has to pay back a portion of her state assistance, and that is what a portion of his check will go to- back to the state to help pay off her debt. I didnt feel the need to take my huband ( split for a while ) to court, as long as he is a good father, and does what he can to support her, then why would I take him to court? Some women are very bitter about being alone.

“IMAGINE no religion!”

Since: Feb 09

usa

#71 Dec 16, 2010
REDLEI wrote:
<quoted text>
obv u missed the entire point! nobody said anything about nothing what you talking about! what i said is simple as this if a man is taking care of his child and has always been and moves on with his life BUT STILL TAKES CARE OF HIS CHILD! and a woman out of jealousy not liking his new girl puts him on child support that is wrong!.........
this is simply your opinion.

it was also pointed out that perhaps the mom felt that for some reason [perhaps someone put the idea in her head] that now the dad had a new person in his life, support MIGHT stop and the best thing for the children would be for her to get it court ordered.

perhaps the mom was just.......oh i do not know..........concerned????

ya think?
mich

Waterbury, CT

#72 Dec 16, 2010
the Originalifes a beach wrote:
<quoted text>
If it benefits the kids in the longrun (and isn't misused) then who cares about the woman's motives?
a portion of women out there do misuse it, I think that is the point. If you couldnt get your nails done on a weekly basis prior to child support, then you shouldnt be getting them done after you get a check either. I see too many single women on state assistance who receive child support walking around all decked out ( nice nails, expenisive shoes) but all the while, their kids look like crap- explain that one to me..The check should be used to buy grocery, cloth the child, and put money aside for future things for that child.. I have seen some very very bitter women who will do anything to make a mans life miserable. jmo
the Originalifes a beach

Harrisburg, PA

#73 Dec 16, 2010
mich wrote:
<quoted text>a portion of women out there do misuse it, I think that is the point. If you couldnt get your nails done on a weekly basis prior to child support, then you shouldnt be getting them done after you get a check either. I see too many single women on state assistance who receive child support walking around all decked out ( nice nails, expenisive shoes) but all the while, their kids look like crap- explain that one to me..The check should be used to buy grocery, cloth the child, and put money aside for future things for that child.. I have seen some very very bitter women who will do anything to make a mans life miserable. jmo
Yes, I absolutely agree- receipts are a good thing. And that's why both men and women should be very careful with whom they choose to have children with- it's a life long decision.
redlei

Lawrence, KS

#74 Dec 16, 2010
moonshinegrrl420 wrote:
<quoted text>
Men always say its out of spite, thats why you go through court, they can demand a paternity test, the money goes through court so neither can say they didn't pay, there will be a record. If a man is taking care of his child why does it matter if it goes through the child support system? If your Dad didn't ask for child support that was his decision. If abuses are going on get evidence and report it.
you dont kw what happened with my dad thats number 1 and number 2 the woman's motives means alot duh! when ppl go to jail isnt the motive for why they did what they did the main purpose of the investigation and catchin them? you really are clueless but ppl never understand anything until they walkin in someone else shoes! you dont put a man or woman on child support for you own personal reason's you dont put a man or woman on child support because you mad he moved on you do it FOR THE KIDS AND THATS IT DUHHHHHHHHH SO IF YOU AINT DOING IT FOR THE KIDS YOUR MOTIVES DO MATTER. if you have never had something done to you out of spite of you woulnt understand and a man and a woman know when its out of spite because 9 outta 10 times the females will tell him imma put yo ass on child support cuz i hate u or cuz u chose a B**** over us girl please stop actin like you dont kw

Since: Oct 10

United States

#75 Dec 16, 2010
moonshinegrrl420 wrote:
<quoted text>
If the dad is all that and cares so much why would he complain because he has to pay child support? Doing it through the state just assures it is paid on time and the dad gets credit for payments. See you men think its all about you guess what its not some women really care about their children, if a woman goes to child support court to assure her child gets support good for her
True to a degree, a good father that is not with the mother of his child, for what ever reason, should not be put on child support if he is taking care of them and still have his kids kept away from him because the mother is angry he has moved on.

Since: Oct 10

United States

#76 Dec 16, 2010
Support wrote:
I have 2 children that yes their father is to pay support on. But now the kids are going on 18 and 16 years later. The child support has became backed up on total balance due of $28,000.00
I never pushed the issue on receiving support and raised my kids as if they were not missing out on anything. It is not my kids fault their father wasn't paying support!
Sure it would have been nice to get help from the man I had kids with back then. But they are great kids and I can only thank him for giving me these 2 in my life.
Even today I do not hate him, He just made himself hard to find when the kids needed him in their life up to this day it remains the same.
Being mom and dad to my kids has been a joy. Supporting them was worth every penny. As for support I will never miss what I never had. Money isn't everything but at times it does help.
Every passing day my kids grew up rather the support was there or not and I "Mom" was with them every step of the way
I admire you, but this is the type of man that gets away with not paying child support and sounds as if he does not or did not want anything to do with them. Why is that, the dead beat gets away and the good ones hand is held to the fire..........

Since: Oct 10

United States

#77 Dec 16, 2010
moonshinegrrl420 wrote:
<quoted text>
Men always say its out of spite, thats why you go through court, they can demand a paternity test, the money goes through court so neither can say they didn't pay, there will be a record. If a man is taking care of his child why does it matter if it goes through the child support system? If your Dad didn't ask for child support that was his decision. If abuses are going on get evidence and report it.
You just don't seem to get the point. It is not about paying child support, its about right and wrong. Its wrong to keep the child from his father, knowing he is a good father to the child but still on the other hand, continue to run to the courts and demand an increase and spend half or all the child support money on yourself. Now tell me, what about a woman getting her hair, nails and feet done with the child support money helps the child.

Since: Oct 10

United States

#78 Dec 16, 2010
mich wrote:
<quoted text>a portion of women out there do misuse it, I think that is the point. If you couldnt get your nails done on a weekly basis prior to child support, then you shouldnt be getting them done after you get a check either. I see too many single women on state assistance who receive child support walking around all decked out ( nice nails, expenisive shoes) but all the while, their kids look like crap- explain that one to me..The check should be used to buy grocery, cloth the child, and put money aside for future things for that child.. I have seen some very very bitter women who will do anything to make a mans life miserable. jmo
Damn, you must have met my childrens mother!!!!!!!!!!

Since: Oct 10

United States

#79 Dec 16, 2010
the Originalifes a beach wrote:
<quoted text>
Yes, I absolutely agree- receipts are a good thing. And that's why both men and women should be very careful with whom they choose to have children with- it's a life long decision.
No matter how long you are with a person, you will never know how they will react to every situation.
the Originalifes a beach

Harrisburg, PA

#80 Dec 16, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
<quoted text>No matter how long you are with a person, you will never know how they will react to every situation.
No but you have generally a pretty good idea. It's all about character. I'm not saying there aren't some unfortunate circumstances out there- my brother's ex wife is a real piece of work for example; however, he married her and had kids with her so to some degree he is responsible for his own misery. But he's never been a deadbeat about it either...he accepted it and moved on and that doesn't mean he still doesn't pay because he does, as he should, they are his kids.
the Originalifes a beach

Harrisburg, PA

#81 Dec 16, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
<quoted text>Damn, you must have met my childrens mother!!!!!!!!!!
Men should be very much more discriminatory with whom they impregnant...that's really just what it is.

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