What do you think of women who put me...
mich

Waterbury, CT

#21 Dec 10, 2010
Blondie wrote:
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If the woman is just not letting the father see the kids to be vindictive, she should receive severe sanctions, I agree.
However, if the mother withholds visits because the father is abusive, childish, unstable, has poor judgment, etc--she is
just being a good mother! There is a huge difference there.
(For example, my ex saw our child last week, and within 15 minutes--he inflicted laughter, sadness, despair, and abandonment
on our child. In a few minutes he came back and brought a stuffed animal for a bribe for our child out of guilt for leaving her crying for him in the window as he drove away, and made her feel happy again. Then, he walked out the door without even telling her goodbye. This is emotional abuse, and he wont be inflicting this on my child EVER AGAIN.
Not trying to sound rude, but that is not for you to decide.. Take him back to court, and let someone decide that who is a mediator, someone who is neutral. If any woman is keeping their child from the father, they are just as much to blame as the other..
John

Glendale, AZ

#23 Dec 10, 2010
And yes i have known men who paid child support and the women hid her children..and in allot of cases the woman used the money for drugs...and the child still goes without...
human

Columbus, OH

#24 Dec 10, 2010
Well if you really love your child and want to be a part of their life there is not a cost that will keep you from doing just that! It may not seem fair to you but the only one that is being cheated is the child.
Single mothers has a tough job as well, up all night when a child is sick, never taking a eye off their every move. Its a lot of work that never ends.
So child support may have hit your pocket, but a caring father stands by their child no matter what the cost is.
Believe me when it comes to raising a child it goes far beyond just the money, stick around long enough.. You will understand

Since: Oct 10

United States

#25 Dec 10, 2010
There needs to be something put in place for those who abuse the child support system. There are plenty of men out there that are dead beat and the system is perfect for them. I have no respect for any man that don't take care of their child(ren) and leave the mother to raise the child(ren) on their own. Family is what's missing in America today, most fathers are not in the home for whatever the reason: Death, prison, irresponsible, or just don't give a damn. But for the men out there that have children and are being fathers, my hats off to you. And to the men out there that have children and can't be in their lifes for reason beyond you control, I feel you pain and I pray for us and the mothers that use these children as pawns. Nothing good will come of this, the children will only grow up to hate the mother and may develope unhealthy habits to fill the void in their lifes that was left when they were kept from their fathers. It takes both a Man and a Woman to raise children. But until some of us grow up and stop being selfish and realize that it's not about just us, it will never get any better. To my children, until things get better, I will continue to call, check on you in school, show up at every event, and give you all my heart and soul that I can.
democrat i am

Cambridge Springs, PA

#26 Dec 11, 2010
it take two people to decide, if the marriage ends or not.
most of the time they do not think about the little ones before they decide.
it's i don't love you. get the hell out of here now. out of anger.. it's you cheated on me. you hurt me, get the f out
then the games start to be played. if you don't do what i want... you don't see the little ones

the one who has the kids has the control.. that is why people need to take the other one to court and let the judge to decide..

the courts can play the game very well and work things out for both parties..

this should never happen as far i am concern.. when two people call its quit.. they should never put them self first..what is best for the little one.. sit down and work out a good deal and a fair deal for the little ones..

regardless the little ones always get hurt.. because they love both of you. even if you hate each other. the little one wants both of you together so they have both of you all the time

but when you pull the plug on each other. did you decide, what is best for them.. some time it the best if you are not together for each other because of the the hate or abused can do more harm if you are together.. to the little ones.

but neither side should every used the little one as a weapon to get even..
if a parent is abuseive to the little one,, then the court decide if that person gets to see the little ever or have someone baby sit that person..

i have seen good parents split.. i have seen both side when this is done.. the good they put the little one first what best and bad using the little ones has pawns to beat the other one down..

regardless the who has the kids needs support. the other ones needs to pay it...

the little ones didn't ask you... to come into this world.. you decide to create them and you did..
then you need to take care of them if you are with them or not..

“Is that all you've got?”

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#27 Dec 11, 2010
Child support is mandatory in this country. Kids gotta eat.
There are women who pay child support for children living with exes so get over the persecution complex guys.

Since: May 10

West Plains, MO

#28 Dec 11, 2010
nanoanomaly wrote:
Child support is mandatory in this country. Kids gotta eat.
There are women who pay child support for children living with exes so get over the persecution complex guys.
Thats not the problem . The Problem is that those that have custody Just keep going for more and more . Now I know that kids need things all through school and need clothes and all that but do they really need $1OO shoes or jeans or a new shirt No the don't ! And there lies the problem because both Mommy or Daddy want to put on airs and make the other parent out to be the bad guy when in fact it's the Custodial Parent that because they for one reason or the other can't let the other Parent have a life and move on and bee happy so the use the system to make life hell on the other one !

“Vote Republican”

Since: Aug 08

Wyandanch, NY

#29 Dec 11, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
The child support system was put in place for a very good reason. But what happens when you have a father that is no longer with the mother of his child(ren), but he was still doing everything for his child(ren) and the mother puts him on child support anyway to be vendictive? Now this mother will not let this father see his child(ren) but every three years she runs to the child support office requesting an increase in support. What do you think should be done?
Nothing, if they were amrried this would not be an issue...
Pool Shark

Carson, CA

#30 Dec 11, 2010
nanoanomaly wrote:
Child support is mandatory in this country. Kids gotta eat.
There are women who pay child support for children living with exes so get over the persecution complex guys.
The problem is that most of the money doesn't go to the kids. It's spent on clothes, nails, shoes, makeup, hair styling etc. There should be a law that you have to provide reciepts for every penny of child support money that is spent. If you don't, the money gets reduced each time.
andet1987

Lyons, IL

#31 Dec 11, 2010
why is child support mandatory in USA ? in our country in Asia, there is no such thing. this is not a big issue. the single mom and the child can still survive with the help of relatives. and the guy ? who cares if he supports or not ? i wonder why this is a big deal in USA ??

if he helps, then good. if not, who cares ?
andet1987

Lyons, IL

#32 Dec 11, 2010
Pool Shark wrote:
<quoted text>The problem is that most of the money doesn't go to the kids. It's spent on clothes, nails, shoes, makeup, hair styling etc. There should be a law that you have to provide reciepts for every penny of child support money that is spent. If you don't, the money gets reduced each time.
probably some of the money is spend on male strippers or maseurs

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Pool Shark

Carson, CA

#33 Dec 11, 2010
andet1987 wrote:
why is child support mandatory in USA ? in our country in Asia, there is no such thing. this is not a big issue. the single mom and the child can still survive with the help of relatives. and the guy ? who cares if he supports or not ? i wonder why this is a big deal in USA ??
if he helps, then good. if not, who cares ?
Well, the kid should get some money from the other spouse, but there should be some kind of a cap on it. Not just a flat percentage based on the other person's income. There should be a minimum, like there is now, I think it's something like $300 a month in California. So $300 a month is okay for one kid, but if the other person is making $200,000 a year, he has to pay $3000 month? Not fair.
Pool Shark

Carson, CA

#34 Dec 11, 2010
andet1987 wrote:
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probably some of the money is spend on male strippers or maseurs
http://www.undergear.com/
That too.
andet1987

Lyons, IL

#35 Dec 11, 2010
Pool Shark wrote:
<quoted text>That too.
ha ha ha :)
the Originalifes a beach

Harrisburg, PA

#36 Dec 11, 2010
Pool Shark wrote:
<quoted text>Well, the kid should get some money from the other spouse, but there should be some kind of a cap on it. Not just a flat percentage based on the other person's income. There should be a minimum, like there is now, I think it's something like $300 a month in California. So $300 a month is okay for one kid, but if the other person is making $200,000 a year, he has to pay $3000 month? Not fair.
How is that not fair? Please elaborate? So the wealthier you are as a father the greedier you get to be? Why wouldn't you WANT to give your children as much as you could...?!
Pool Shark

Carson, CA

#37 Dec 11, 2010
the Originalifes a beach wrote:
<quoted text>
How is that not fair? Please elaborate? So the wealthier you are as a father the greedier you get to be? Why wouldn't you WANT to give your children as much as you could...?!
Your key word is WANT. If you choose to give more, fine. But a flat percentage, again, is not fair. We don't know the mother's circumstances. Who's fault is it that they are not together? Is she a drug addict or an alcoholic? There is no accountability. It's just a check handed out, and God knows where the money is actually going.
dr feellgood

Perry, GA

#38 Dec 11, 2010
most women in us are lesbain or just stuck on there dum selves dont amrry a american white woman they all dumm and dead lays in bed get you a real woman mexican,russian, thems are the best with respect and dont cheat with there cousins and black folks or any other swinging crack head
Pool Shark

Carson, CA

#39 Dec 11, 2010
dr feellgood wrote:
most women in us are lesbain or just stuck on there dum selves dont amrry a american white woman they all dumm and dead lays in bed get you a real woman mexican,russian, thems are the best with respect and dont cheat with there cousins and black folks or any other swinging crack head
Most women in the U.S. are lesbians?
They are dumm?
Thems are the best?
Well Doctor - I think that you have been hittin' your patient's medications.
dr feel lgood

Perry, GA

#40 Dec 11, 2010
Pool Shark wrote:
<quoted text>Most women in the U.S. are lesbians?
They are dumm?
Thems are the best?
Well Doctor - I think that you have been hittin' your patient's medications.
well pool shark that name you got yea you can get one of the skreet and do just as good these american women think they are hot and they are not just plain old dum baracuda all they want is some man or dummy to support them ,they aint no more real american women get you russian woman and you will nver touch anothe american woman they are just el sicko and been watching to much miss america and tv show me a good american woman and i will show you a million dollars i think these american women are lesbains or on ols crack ot just born dum as a roach in heat

“Is that all you've got?”

Since: Jun 10

Location hidden

#41 Dec 11, 2010
Pool Shark wrote:
<quoted text>The problem is that most of the money doesn't go to the kids. It's spent on clothes, nails, shoes, makeup, hair styling etc. There should be a law that you have to provide reciepts for every penny of child support money that is spent. If you don't, the money gets reduced each time.
Gee, I wonder what guys who get child support from their ex-wives spend that money on? Who gives a [email protected], really, either way? There's nothing you can do about it but whine. I hope you don't bitch about that in front of your kids and make them feel resented by you. If the ex isn't spending it on the kids they'll figure it out on they're own as soon as they're old enough to add and subtract and they'll do their own judging of mom and dad's selfishness. Kids aren't as dumb as you think. They'll notice if mom is indulging herself.

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