What do you think of women who put men on child support just to be vendictive

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Since: Oct 10

Little Rock, AR

#1 Dec 9, 2010
The child support system was put in place for a very good reason. But what happens when you have a father that is no longer with the mother of his child(ren), but he was still doing everything for his child(ren) and the mother puts him on child support anyway to be vendictive? Now this mother will not let this father see his child(ren) but every three years she runs to the child support office requesting an increase in support. What do you think should be done?

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#2 Dec 9, 2010
Nothing at all!You are man enough to father a child;be man enough to provide support.

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#3 Dec 9, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
The child support system was put in place for a very good reason. But what happens when you have a father that is no longer with the mother of his child(ren), but he was still doing everything for his child(ren) and the mother puts him on child support anyway to be vendictive? Now this mother will not let this father see his child(ren) but every three years she runs to the child support office requesting an increase in support. What do you think should be done?
What should be done is that you get off your duff, get a job, earn money and pay for the children that you fathered. It is not that difficult to understand, is it?

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Since: Mar 08

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#4 Dec 9, 2010
chizmarlan wrote:
Nothing at all!You are man enough to father a child;be man enough to provide support.
I agree 100%.
Kathy

Louisville, KY

#5 Dec 9, 2010
Cheriann wrote:
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I agree 100%.
I agree 110%. If you were man enough to have those children, quit whining. Be a man, shut up, and provide for these children. I seriously doubt if the man who is "whining" has a valid argument about the woman being vendictive, in this case. He probably thought he'd get on here and get some sympathy. If he lived in Louisville, he'd be behind bars already!
Gabby girl

Louisville, KY

#6 Dec 9, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
The child support system was put in place for a very good reason. But what happens when you have a father that is no longer with the mother of his child(ren), but he was still doing everything for his child(ren) and the mother puts him on child support anyway to be vendictive? Now this mother will not let this father see his child(ren) but every three years she runs to the child support office requesting an increase in support. What do you think should be done?
If the mother is having to request an increase in child support every three years, then the father isn't doing a very good job anyway. I don't blame the woman at all for asking for an increase. She deserves it. Nothing like a deadbeat father to ruin your day! I know a lot of women in this same condition and no matter how much child support they get it is NEVER enough since they also have the burden of raising the child, seeing the child gets medical care, and gets an education. The man gets off easy enough with just child support.There is a big difference between fair and vendictive--describe vendictive. Probably some word you invented to justify either your actions or someone close to you.

Since: Dec 10

Armenia

#7 Dec 9, 2010
If you've taken such responsibility on you and decided to become a parent that you should do everything possible and even impossible for your child irrespective of the fact whether you are divorced or not.
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#8 Dec 9, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
The child support system was put in place for a very good reason. But what happens when you have a father that is no longer with the mother of his child(ren), but he was still doing everything for his child(ren) and the mother puts him on child support anyway to be vendictive? Now this mother will not let this father see his child(ren) but every three years she runs to the child support office requesting an increase in support. What do you think should be done?
She has every right to ask for an increase...cost of living is always rising and your children are growing up and need more things.
Are you like my ex-husband, who only paid 25.00 a week. When I asked for a review on my case, it turned out he was making a lot more money...child support increased to 1900.00 a month.
Do you agree that he was doing everything for his kid?
He man

Petersburg, VA

#9 Dec 9, 2010
take her on a date in the mountains.throw her off.she fell.
Bob

Colorado Springs, CO

#10 Dec 9, 2010
Keep you zipper closed and you won't have to worry about child support.

If the kid is your's then you pay.

You play, you pay

Do you expect the mother to pay for the kid's support?
porter

Decatur, AL

#11 Dec 9, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
The child support system was put in place for a very good reason. But what happens when you have a father that is no longer with the mother of his child(ren), but he was still doing everything for his child(ren) and the mother puts him on child support anyway to be vendictive? Now this mother will not let this father see his child(ren) but every three years she runs to the child support office requesting an increase in support. What do you think should be done?
I bet she is an atheist. They tend to be lazy and always want money from the system .

I bet the father is a Christian living up to his responsibilities.

Since: Oct 10

United States

#12 Dec 9, 2010
I see most of you missed my point in asking this question. Lets try this, I love my children and they were taken away from me when there mother decided that she did not want to be with me anymore. I have no problem taking care of them and never will. I have never missed a child support payment, but the thing is I also have visitation rights set forth by the courts, but the mother will not honor this. I've taken her back to court on several occations concerning this matter but the courts only gives her a slap on the rist. Now the thing is that I was taking care of my kids without being put on child support as long as I was single, but now that I have moved on with my life and found someone else she puts me on child support. Now I understand maybe she figures that I would stop PAYING my childrens way, so she secured herself with the order. But why start keeping them away from me because I no longer want her and she knows the only way to get any reaction out of me is through the children. Now back to the original question: What do you thing of women who put men on child support just to be vendictive?

Since: May 10

Ava, MO

#13 Dec 9, 2010
Why should they give the kids to a woman in the first place ? That's What's wrong with kids from a broken home in the first place letting a woman raise boys teaches them nothing about what being a man should be ! Every woman that is vindictive and withholds their children from the Father should loose her Parental rights ! But in turn it should be for both parents . My ex did this several times and now that our children are older she and her new hubby suffer because the kids blame her but I'm the one who gets the blame so I just laugh at them does my heart good to see some pain put to good use on them ! LOL
Blondie

Connersville, IN

#14 Dec 9, 2010
waterdogg wrote:
Why should they give the kids to a woman in the first place ? That's What's wrong with kids from a broken home in the first place letting a woman raise boys teaches them nothing about what being a man should be ! Every woman that is vindictive and withholds their children from the Father should loose her Parental rights ! But in turn it should be for both parents . My ex did this several times and now that our children are older she and her new hubby suffer because the kids blame her but I'm the one who gets the blame so I just laugh at them does my heart good to see some pain put to good use on them ! LOL
If the woman is just not letting the father see the kids to be vindictive, she should receive severe sanctions, I agree.
However, if the mother withholds visits because the father is abusive, childish, unstable, has poor judgment, etc--she is
just being a good mother! There is a huge difference there.

(For example, my ex saw our child last week, and within 15 minutes--he inflicted laughter, sadness, despair, and abandonment
on our child. In a few minutes he came back and brought a stuffed animal for a bribe for our child out of guilt for leaving her crying for him in the window as he drove away, and made her feel happy again. Then, he walked out the door without even telling her goodbye. This is emotional abuse, and he wont be inflicting this on my child EVER AGAIN.
andet1987

Maple Park, IL

#15 Dec 9, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
The child support system was put in place for a very good reason. But what happens when you have a father that is no longer with the mother of his child(ren), but he was still doing everything for his child(ren) and the mother puts him on child support anyway to be vendictive? Now this mother will not let this father see his child(ren) but every three years she runs to the child support office requesting an increase in support. What do you think should be done?
if you only used a condom which costs less than $10, there would have been no child support.
Gabby girl

Louisville, KY

#16 Dec 9, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
I see most of you missed my point in asking this question. Lets try this, I love my children and they were taken away from me when there mother decided that she did not want to be with me anymore. I have no problem taking care of them and never will. I have never missed a child support payment, but the thing is I also have visitation rights set forth by the courts, but the mother will not honor this. I've taken her back to court on several occations concerning this matter but the courts only gives her a slap on the rist. Now the thing is that I was taking care of my kids without being put on child support as long as I was single, but now that I have moved on with my life and found someone else she puts me on child support. Now I understand maybe she figures that I would stop PAYING my childrens way, so she secured herself with the order. But why start keeping them away from me because I no longer want her and she knows the only way to get any reaction out of me is through the children. Now back to the original question: What do you thing of women who put men on child support just to be vendictive?
If she did it, just to be vindictive because you have moved on with your life, then she is in violation of the court order. You need to get an attorney and show your proof of payments, etc. to him/her and take HER to court. I didn't understand the original question and just really thought you didn't want to pay child support. In most all states, the court favors the mother--I am not sure why this is but that is the truth. That is why you need an attorney. Also, keep all your payments and records of things you do with the kids. These can be presented in court. And, take her to court first. Make sure you get to see your children and continue to be a good father-they will definitely remember it when they grow up. I would suggest a woman attorney b/c it is a given fact they pull more weight in the courtromm than a man attorney-they think from a woman's standpoint and can "read" a woman for lack of a better word. I don't think much of any woman or man that is vendictive and uses kids as a pawn and that sounds like what she is doing.Sorry I was so judgmental, but I totally misunderstood why you asked the question. Good luck and may God bless you and your children..
lol

Louisville, KY

#17 Dec 9, 2010
He man wrote:
take her on a date in the mountains.throw her off.she fell.
:)) that was kind of comical, but that isn't what he asked. He may feel like doing this at times, but that is a crime and he wouldn't ever get to see the kids then..
democrat i am

Erie, PA

#18 Dec 10, 2010
like i have told my son.. one night of fun could be 18 plus yrs of pain in the butt..

you better know the young lady before you play doctor.. otherwise you will be paying for a very long time and see a doctor for that few minutes of fun

Since: Dec 08

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#19 Dec 10, 2010
BLACK UNO wrote:
I see most of you missed my point in asking this question. Lets try this, I love my children and they were taken away from me when there mother decided that she did not want to be with me anymore. I have no problem taking care of them and never will. I have never missed a child support payment, but the thing is I also have visitation rights set forth by the courts, but the mother will not honor this. I've taken her back to court on several occations concerning this matter but the courts only gives her a slap on the rist. Now the thing is that I was taking care of my kids without being put on child support as long as I was single, but now that I have moved on with my life and found someone else she puts me on child support. Now I understand maybe she figures that I would stop PAYING my childrens way, so she secured herself with the order. But why start keeping them away from me because I no longer want her and she knows the only way to get any reaction out of me is through the children. Now back to the original question: What do you thing of women who put men on child support just to be vendictive?
This is when you take her to court for custody.
mich

Waterbury, CT

#20 Dec 10, 2010
interesting.. I dont think paying child support is a bad thing, BUT there are plenty of women who rely on that check too much! I have seen woman who dont work, sit on their butts, and yet receive a child support check. It is both the parents responsibility to support the child, and a decent amount of single moms out there dont do a very good job of supporting their kids.

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