Husband wants me to give another guy a bj while we're doing it doggie style...

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Confused

Porter, TX

#1 Jan 20, 2014
Help....
I love my husband but don't think I could ever give another guy a B.J. Or anything. While we're having sex... he says "would you like to deep throat another guy while I'm fu**ing you"? I am so confused of why he wants this so bad????
I will do this for him in role play only... Will I loose him?
andet1987

Chicago, IL

#3 Jan 20, 2014
ha ha ha :)

ask him if it is ok with him to take another guy from his behind while he is screwing you, and while you are giving another another guy a bj.
Confused

Porter, TX

#4 Jan 20, 2014
Ha ha ha...
I would never lower my self to his standards.... But that's a good reply Andet1987!
On a serious note, how can a partner ask their spouse to do something like this? I can't talk to anyone about this.....
andet1987

Chicago, IL

#5 Jan 20, 2014
Confused wrote:
Ha ha ha...
I would never lower my self to his standards.... But that's a good reply Andet1987!
On a serious note, how can a partner ask their spouse to do something like this? I can't talk to anyone about this.....
you are an ideal wife. if i were you, tell him frankly that you are not a cheap type of woman. tell him that you don't want to act like a cheap wh****ore, etc. you are not that type. you have to be yourself and not a low life b....... tell him that you feel degraded if you act as he suggested.

Since: Jan 14

Bhopal, India

#6 Jan 20, 2014
kya fltu ka saval he ye kuch bhi
sl0j0n

Waycross, GA

#7 Jan 20, 2014
Hello, "Confused".

I don't know how old you are, but you sound like a young woman, maybe even a lady, so I'm going to tell you the truth, as I see it.
I'm nearly 60, on my 2nd marriage, so I've been around the block, so to speak.
One thing I've learned in my time on earth is that some people ain't got no respect, not for themselves, & not for anyone else either.

A so-called 'man' that would ask you to do something like that does *NOT* "love" you, I don't care what he says.
The word 'love' has a meaning, & it ain't doing what pleases yourself.
REAL love means that a person cares,*REALLY* cares about the well-being, the welfare of the person they love.
That's why parents that truly love their children try to protect them, & to teach them right from wrong.
That's where we get the term, "tough love", when we're willing to do what is *best* for the one we love.
A man that *really* loves you will die to protect you from harm, not ask you to do something that is clearly wrong, just 'please' him.

I know that a lot folks nowadays don't know anything about God,
but when he gave his only-begotten son for us,
he was showing what real love is like.
Think about it like this;
if you have an only child that you truly love,
when you be willing to let your child die so someone else could live?
Because that's what God did for us.
And that's the pattern we are supposed to follow, too.
God knew he could raise his son from the dead, but he still had to watch him die.
Would your "husband" be willing to die for you?
From what you wrote, I think you know the answer to that.

BTW, its a medical fact that oral sex causes throat cancer.
Sexual promiscuity causes cervical cancer in women, & prostrate cancer in men.
When God said "You must not commit adultery", its because adultery hurts us, & since God wants what's best for us, he tells us not to do things that will hurt us.
Its like when a person tells a child not to go in the street, because the child could get hurt.
BTW, adultery means having sex with someone besides your husband.

You probably need to think about this, to be sure you know what you should do.
*IF* you really can't decide, maybe you should ask God to help you.
He is always looking for the opportunity to help us do the right thing.

I hope this is a help to you, I know I'd hate to be in your shoes, and not know what to do.

Remember, the King is coming!
wimp

Oldbury, UK

#8 Jan 21, 2014
just do it for him, all men love a slut
andet1987

Chicago, IL

#9 Jan 21, 2014
wimp wrote:
just do it for him, all men love a slut
suppose you love your gf, and you will see her having sex with others, you don't get jealous ? if you do, YOU ARE ABNORMAL !!! ANIMAL !!!

Since: Apr 13

Scappoose, Oregon USA

#10 Jan 21, 2014
Confused this really is not all that unusual fetish for men to have, to want to "share" their gf/wife whatever. I see nothing wrong with it so long as it's just recreational sex and you don't catch feelings for this other guy, because when emotions come into it that's when "cheating" occurs. IMHO anyway. HOWEVER don't do anything which goes against your conscience or value system! If that's the case, just decline and tell him he's going to have to keep that in his fantasy world. Don't do anything for him as a favor if it's going to make you feel guilty or feel bad about yourself! So really, if you want to do it and you think it's okay don't let anyone tell you what's wrong. But if you think it's wrong, don't let yourself get pressured into it.
andet1987

Chicago, IL

#11 Jan 21, 2014
Jenji wrote:
Confused this really is not all that unusual fetish for men to have, to want to "share" their gf/wife whatever. I see nothing wrong with it so long as it's just recreational sex and you don't catch feelings for this other guy, because when emotions come into it that's when "cheating" occurs. IMHO anyway. HOWEVER don't do anything which goes against your conscience or value system! If that's the case, just decline and tell him he's going to have to keep that in his fantasy world. Don't do anything for him as a favor if it's going to make you feel guilty or feel bad about yourself! So really, if you want to do it and you think it's okay don't let anyone tell you what's wrong. But if you think it's wrong, don't let yourself get pressured into it.
I agree.:)

“I want my Mama!”

Since: Dec 13

Kirkwood

#12 Jan 21, 2014
Confused wrote:
Help....
I love my husband but don't think I could ever give another guy a B.J. Or anything. While we're having sex... he says "would you like to deep throat another guy while I'm fu**ing you"? I am so confused of why he wants this so bad????
I will do this for him in role play only... Will I loose him?
the best thing you should do is what your told to do...thats if you cant figure it out for your self...
TheLoveDoctor

Hollywood, FL

#13 Sep 4, 2014
I love reading comments where people say that your husband doesn't respect you or he must not love you if he asks you if you'd like to do something that "most" people think is outside the bounds of "normalcy." Many people do many different things, sexually speaking, and it doesn't mean those people are weird or wrong or that they don't love their partner. Different strokes for different folks. That said, if you tell him you don't want to do it and he forces the issue, then THAT is the problem. Wanting to experiment sexually is not.

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