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Ocean56

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#1 Oct 6, 2010
I decided to go ahead and create a new thread for a subject that needs to be discussed a lot more than it has; domestic violence against women. Domestic violence crosses ALL race and socio-economic lines; it is NOT specific to one group. An abuser is an ABUSER, and in my opinion, a lousy excuse for a human being. Any man who would beat a helpless woman or a child for any reason fits that description.

Since it is very difficult for women to leave these horribly abusive relationships after they are seriously involved or worse, MARRIED to these creeps, I think encouraging all women to get information on how to spot abusers is essential to preventing more abusive relationships from occurring.

The information can be obtained from online internet articles (google "warning signs of an abusive man" and you can get many hits) and offline books. One of those books is "Why Does He DO That?" by Lundy Bancroft. Another one is a true-crime story called "Empty Promises" by Ann Rule.

IMO it is best if women get this priceless information BEFORE they get into their first or next relationship. Too often, abusers convince their women victims that it is THEIR fault they're being physically or verbally abused. That's a common tactic of abusive creeps and a big warning sign as well. The more knowledge women have BEFORE getting into a first or next relationship, the sooner they can spot these creeps immediately. Then they can DUMP him right away, before the abuser can do serious damage to them and possibly children too.
Curtis Lowe

Montgomery, AL

#2 Oct 6, 2010
It's illegal to hit gays and blacks now, so what's a guy supposed to do? Besides, with all the Gender rules and Equal Rights rules these days, I am not sure women actually exist anymore. You should shut up and learn to take a punch.
OLD MAN

Tazewell, VA

#3 Oct 6, 2010
Well mr lowe i see you must be one of the men that has a bad outlook on life to abuse a woman is about as low as you can get an i must say i feel you are one of them if you are able to hit a woman them you must have been hit on in your lie an feel it makes you a big man i have yet to see a abuser that would hit anouther man what happen did a woman trund you down did your mother abuse you as i kid i tell you what you just come my way son an hit me i an not gay or black but you will make it your last son
Captain O

Schwerin, Germany

#4 Oct 6, 2010
According to the Bible and Koran it is not only permissable but mandatory to punch a female back into line if she causes any trouble.

“MISSING TN TEEN!”

Since: Apr 10

Location hidden

#5 Oct 6, 2010
Ocean56 wrote:
I decided to go ahead and create a new thread for a subject that needs to be discussed a lot more than it has; domestic violence against women. Domestic violence crosses ALL race and socio-economic lines; it is NOT specific to one group. An abuser is an ABUSER, and in my opinion, a lousy excuse for a human being. Any man who would beat a helpless woman or a child for any reason fits that description.
Since it is very difficult for women to leave these horribly abusive relationships after they are seriously involved or worse, MARRIED to these creeps, I think encouraging all women to get information on how to spot abusers is essential to preventing more abusive relationships from occurring.
The information can be obtained from online internet articles (google "warning signs of an abusive man" and you can get many hits) and offline books. One of those books is "Why Does He DO That?" by Lundy Bancroft. Another one is a true-crime story called "Empty Promises" by Ann Rule.
IMO it is best if women get this priceless information BEFORE they get into their first or next relationship. Too often, abusers convince their women victims that it is THEIR fault they're being physically or verbally abused. That's a common tactic of abusive creeps and a big warning sign as well. The more knowledge women have BEFORE getting into a first or next relationship, the sooner they can spot these creeps immediately. Then they can DUMP him right away, before the abuser can do serious damage to them and possibly children too.
Your post has helped me see the light & I thank you Ocean56! I never even look at Top Stories but for some reason I did today. I'm in a relationship and he IS verbally abusive. When things aren't going right in his life he takes it out on me. I've wondered to myself why I never hear him speak to his family or friends that way. It all makes sense now. He is a coward that saves his hurtful bashing for me, his "everything" that attempts to put all the pieces back together for him every damn time. What a fool I have been. Kicking myself now....
Ocean56

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#6 Oct 6, 2010
Curtis Lowe wrote:
It's illegal to hit gays and blacks now, so what's a guy supposed to do? Besides, with all the Gender rules and Equal Rights rules these days, I am not sure women actually exist anymore. You should shut up and learn to take a punch.
Women DO exist, "genius." But thanks for showing yourself to be one of the abusive creeps I was referring to. And I have NO intention of "shutting up" just to make YOU happy. You just aren't very important.
Ocean56

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#7 Oct 6, 2010
barefoot n it wrote:
<quoted text>Your post has helped me see the light & I thank you Ocean56! I never even look at Top Stories but for some reason I did today. I'm in a relationship and he IS verbally abusive. When things aren't going right in his life he takes it out on me. I've wondered to myself why I never hear him speak to his family or friends that way. It all makes sense now. He is a coward that saves his hurtful bashing for me, his "everything" that attempts to put all the pieces back together for him every damn time. What a fool I have been. Kicking myself now....
I'm glad this thread has been helpful to you. But please, don't kick yourself, I think that's doing just as much harm as what HE was doing to you. Now that you know what he was doing, it is up to you to decide whether to accept it by staying with him or REJECT it by dumping him. Personally, I'd do the latter.

There's another book called THE VERBALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, by Patricia Evans that might be even MORE helpful to you. It may be available from your local library. Good luck and I hope you'll decide to DUMP this chump.:-)
Ocean56

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#8 Oct 6, 2010
Captain O wrote:
According to the Bible and Koran it is not only permissable but mandatory to punch a female back into line if she causes any trouble.
According to my line of reason, it is not only permissible but mandatory to call you an IDIOT, if that's the kind of insanity you really believe.

Since: Oct 10

Wolfeboro, NH

#9 Oct 6, 2010
HEY CURTIS LOWE are you getting help? you are a creep! you must be one of those gay blacks who takes his hits huh! is it with a dick, fist, or stick.... I think DR. Phill can get you help. I sure this Forum is not where you should be. maybe tyler perry will have your movie out next. IDK. just don't do anything CRAZY!

TAKE A PUNCH HUH? IS THAT WHAT YOUR DADDY TELL YOU?
Ocean56

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#10 Oct 6, 2010
Ocean56 wrote:
There's another book called THE VERBALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, by Patricia Evans that might be even MORE helpful to you. It may be available from your local library. Good luck and I hope you'll decide to DUMP this chump.:-)
One more thing you should know, BarefootIT, is that verbally abusive behavior CAN lead to physically abusive behavior in some cases.

PLEASE be very careful that you do not put yourself at risk of such behavior from this guy. My suggestion would be to just LEAVE and never see this creep again.
Captain O

Schwerin, Germany

#11 Oct 6, 2010
Ocean56 wrote:
<quoted text>
According to my line of reason, it is not only permissible but mandatory to call you an IDIOT, if that's the kind of insanity you really believe.
It's no insanity I am speaking of, Ocean. The Bible and Koran contain the words of God/Allah who clearly lets us know through his scriptures and Prophets that woman must always listen to man and in case of misbehavior must be punished. The Koran even allows for men to stone a woman to death if she steps out of the line too far...

Think about it.
Captain O

Schwerin, Germany

#12 Oct 6, 2010
Ocean56 wrote:
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One more thing you should know, BarefootIT, is that verbally abusive behavior CAN lead to physically abusive behavior in some cases.
PLEASE be very careful that you do not put yourself at risk of such behavior from this guy. My suggestion would be to just LEAVE and never see this creep again.
Then she'll end up homeless living under a bridge and being raped by strangers. Do you really want that to happen, Ocean?

Since: Apr 10

Location hidden

#13 Oct 6, 2010
My brother-in law beat up on my sister a few years ago.I caught up with him later that day and stomped a mud hole in his azz. The perfect remedy for an abuser is abuse.......

“MISSING TN TEEN!”

Since: Apr 10

Location hidden

#14 Oct 6, 2010
Ocean56 wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm glad this thread has been helpful to you. But please, don't kick yourself, I think that's doing just as much harm as what HE was doing to you. Now that you know what he was doing, it is up to you to decide whether to accept it by staying with him or REJECT it by dumping him. Personally, I'd do the latter.
There's another book called THE VERBALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, by Patricia Evans that might be even MORE helpful to you. It may be available from your local library. Good luck and I hope you'll decide to DUMP this chump.:-)
My earlier comment didn't post. Long story short...I am NOT with him. Divorced and raising a child alone past ten yrs and have financially support myself as a nurse over twenty five yrs now. I know exactly what abuse is. Just needed an eye opener.
The man I have been seeing that has been verbally abusive and I were discussing detective and crime scene shows last wknd. He wasn't familiar with 'Snapped'. The show about women reaching their breaking points and actually killing. Told him I had to stop watching it.....I was getting too many ideas.
He ranted middle of last pm with a text msg. His thinking was that I would hop to it. I haven't and I won't. Haven't answered his calls or msgs today. Poor baby must be wondering what the hell? His "everything" will no longer accept such a lousy and hateful attitude and tone. Thank you for your concern.

“MISSING TN TEEN!”

Since: Apr 10

Location hidden

#15 Oct 6, 2010
Captain O wrote:
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Then she'll end up homeless living under a bridge and being raped by strangers. Do you really want that to happen, Ocean?
You are a closed minded idiotic piece of shit to have such an opinion when you haven't the first clue about me. I know it is wrong to wish bad things toward others but in this case I make an exception. Due to your pure evilness I hope you end up homeless living under a bridge and being raped by strangers. Honestly that sounds too good for you but I'm not the type of person that is full of hatred and capable of producing scenarios such as you.
Ocean56

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#16 Oct 6, 2010
Captain O wrote:
<quoted text>
It's no insanity I am speaking of, Ocean. The Bible and Koran contain the words of God/Allah who clearly lets us know through his scriptures and Prophets that woman must always listen to man and in case of misbehavior must be punished. The Koran even allows for men to stone a woman to death if she steps out of the line too far...
Think about it.
I don't need to think about it. As far as I'M concerned, you're INSANE if you really believe that ABUSING women is okay just because some faith-based work of collective FICTION justifies it. I'd suggest you get some psychiatric help immediately, but I'm sure you will say THAT's against your religion too.@@
Ocean56

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#17 Oct 6, 2010
Captain O wrote:
<quoted text>
Then she'll end up homeless living under a bridge and being raped by strangers. Do you really want that to happen, Ocean?
And you "know" that for a "fact"...HOW, exactly? This should be good.@@
Ocean56

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#18 Oct 6, 2010
barefoot n it wrote:
<quoted text>My earlier comment didn't post. Long story short...I am NOT with him. Divorced and raising a child alone past ten yrs and have financially support myself as a nurse over twenty five yrs now. I know exactly what abuse is. Just needed an eye opener.
Sorry if I seemed to be making assumptions. I just wasn't sure what your situation was, and the details are really none of my business anyway.:-)

I'm very glad you were NOT living with this guy. I personally think it's a serious mistake for ANY woman to move in with, or WORSE marry, a man she has known six months or less. Even if she has known a man six months to a year, it is still NOT enough time in my view anyway.

IMO a woman's most important assets are her education, her employment, and her own place to live, where she is completely independent. All women need to think VERY long and hard before deciding whether a guy she has only known a very short time is worth giving all of her assets up.
Ocean56

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#19 Oct 7, 2010
Goldenyams20 wrote:
HEY CURTIS LOWE are you getting help? you are a creep! you must be one of those gay blacks who takes his hits huh! is it with a dick, fist, or stick.... I think DR. Phill can get you help. I sure this Forum is not where you should be. maybe tyler perry will have your movie out next. IDK. just don't do anything CRAZY!
TAKE A PUNCH HUH? IS THAT WHAT YOUR DADDY TELL YOU?
I've seen this loser "CurtisLowe" on other threads. He usually posts ONE stupid message then he's off to another thread to do the same thing. From what I've seen previously, he's running true to form here.
Captain O

Appen, Germany

#20 Oct 7, 2010
barefoot n it wrote:
<quoted text>You are a closed minded idiotic piece of shit to have such an opinion when you haven't the first clue about me. I know it is wrong to wish bad things toward others but in this case I make an exception. Due to your pure evilness I hope you end up homeless living under a bridge and being raped by strangers. Honestly that sounds too good for you but I'm not the type of person that is full of hatred and capable of producing scenarios such as you.
Why do you think I'm evil, Barefoot? I was only trying to help you and describe the consequences of leaving your man.

Believe me: Without him, you are nothing -- you have no other choice than to accept him as your supporter and protector.

Please also read the relevant verses of the Holy Bible.
You ARE a follower of the Lord, I would hope.

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