Cingone

Watertown, NY

#1 Sep 28, 2012
It is a funny time to be writing about the way that the world is. I was just listening to Kiss From A Rose on the radio. To me, it is a perfect indicator of the way that the world is. It is a beautiful song, but I don't really know what it is about, except that it seems to be a love song. In the same way, we have the Presidential election where President Obama seems to be ahead and going further ahead. Why is this? Those opposed to him would seem to have a good situation to win. And that certainly seemed to be the result in 2010. But look where we are! It takes me back to The City On The Edge Of Forever and Back To The Future. There were elections that would have been taking place around them, but you don't know anything about it. Because those traveling through time know things and are separated from everyone else, the issues of the time they find themselves in just don't have much impact. Enjoy Better!
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#2 Sep 29, 2012
It's been a funny day. What have I learned? I think I continued to learn how difficult it is in this day and age to manage. We all are what we are. The thing is, though, that some are born under a lucky star. And the cruel joke that is manifested is that we can all become great if we try hard enough. But I, for one, don't believe it. A key to life is to learn to be happy as you are, difficult as that is made by others, for good or bad reasons.
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#3 Oct 1, 2012
Every now and then I read something so heartwarming that is brings me to tears. It doesn't happen often, but once and a while. And considering how much there is to bring you down in this world, it is great that something like this does happen.
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#4 Oct 6, 2012
I've been looking some tonight at temperments. I think many of us who don't have that exciting, partying temperment end up being envious of those who do. After, considering all of the suffering that you do and they don't, how can you not? Despite not having that kind of personality, I've survived so far. I think that is about the best that someone like me can ask.
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#5 Oct 14, 2012
This ended up being a big weekend for watching baseball games. It is funny how little I get to watch them during the regular season, but when the playoffs come around, I start watching more and more. I guess it is the tournament format that makes it so interesting. I did a little reading of plays. They are always interesting to read. And then there is politics, especially presidential politics. The big thing to me is that if Romney wins, Obamacare will be repealed. This will make it so that tens of millions who would have had health care will not have it. It is sort of like The City On The Edge Of Forever. When Edith Keeler lived, millions who would have lived ended up dying. But this was, of course, fiction. This would be real. I think that is the saddest thing. The President can't defend Obamacare by saying that tens of millions will be covered who wouldn't be covered otherwise. It apparently doesn't work politically. Anyway, after the first debate, Romney is looking good, although the Intrade odds still have Obama the favorite. Only a few weeks left!
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#6 Oct 24, 2012
As time goes on, life kind of seems stranger and stranger. It is funny how, as I have gotten older, I still haven't really outgrown the issues of those earlier years. I am reminded of the Judy Collins song Both Sides Now. Its lifes illusions I recall. In some ways I don't know how people manage. Of course, that is what I like about personality and temperament. That is what explains how people can manage. Despite all of society that we have developed, we are all still kept within the bounds of whatever temperament we have and the circumstances under which we were born and raised. For myself, I look back and wonder if things would have been much easier under some slightly altered circumstances. But, of course, you can never really know. But thats all right. I need to just keep on trying to carry on!
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#7 Feb 10, 2013
It has been a middling to rough winter. Two days ago was the big blizzard in New England. It absolutely froze everything in place there. They are still digging out. But it seems like life goes on. Perhaps the biggest thing is that the traditional middle class lifestyle seems to be receding further and further. There was a story that came out recently talking about the drop in applications to law school. This followed the article last year that said that only 55% of graduating lawyers were getting jobs as lawyers out of law school. And then, of course, there was the story that the birth rate in the United States has dropped to 1.92, or something like that. The bottom line is that people aren't needed. There is room for competition. If you get a 4.0 and you are an extraverted self starter, then there is plenty of room for you. But otherwise, you might as well find a grate on the Bowery and take up residence.
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#8 May 22, 2013
It's been a while. The big thing now is the horrible tornado in Oklahoma. This is in contrast to the February blizzard in New England. It seems more and more hopeless to have an idea of how I could help people. I have neither the insights nor the extroversion to get important things done. I feel just like the narrator from A View From The Bridge. You see the terrible things that are going to happen, but there is nothing you can do. I was looking at a recent speech by Ben Bernanke. He pointed out that while things can look pretty grim for the future, you are allowed to take the lottery tack and say hey, you never know!
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#9 Jun 8, 2013
It seems like it is getting more and more difficult not to feel a sense of despair. One of the things I have been looking up is the question of whether there is any hope for shy guys. Guys in general are not doing so well, as the girls just take over. One thing that just came out was a study that showed that an increasing percentage of women are the primary breadwinners in their families. A decent percentage of this is single mothers. I suppose they don't mention simply single, non-mother women, but I guess they probably defined the simply single, men or women, out of the study. But indirectly affecting this is two directions of adulthood. Their used to be five indicators of adulthood. I have recently come the conclusion that it can be reduced to two, job and family. More specifically, vocation and a husband or wife, or at least a boyfriend or girlfriend. But for shy guys today, it seems that they can't succeed on either front. On the job front, the world is very entrepreneurial. You have to be out front, take risks easily and cavalierly, to get anywhere. Otherwise you are just ignored. Hopefully, you can get some sort of job and survive, but that seems to be it. And then the hope of the shy guy for, as Freddy Mercury said, someone to love, is really difficult. Under such circumstances, the only thing to try to do is turn inward, but I don't know if people have the inner peace to be able to do that successfully. So we all soldier on, day after day, week after week. It's like Jean Shepherd said, people wonder how it all got away from them while other former babies are standing before banks of microphones, with supermodels looking admiringly into their eyes. As he kind of implies, it is really all in the stars. I say the genes, but it amounts to the same thing. Those who were "born to run" would say to just will yourself through it, to say, "I defy you, stars!" But alas, I don't think so. I think the best you can do is what Mel Brooks said, "Hope for the best, expect the worst!"
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#10 Nov 22, 2013
We are moving closer to the Winter. But today is the 50th anniversary of the assassination of President Kennedy. In the material they have been showing, what is perhaps most amazing to me is how composed Jacqueline Kennedy remained throughout the entire ordeal. And she was only 34 at the time. She was very special.
Cingone

Watertown, NY

#11 Dec 10, 2013
Looking back at the whole question of love and marriage is a scary thing. If you have the looks and/or the personality, then the whole thing has got to look a lot different. Then, I guess it never occurs to you that you could be unwanted and unloved for a long time if not for all your life. But the thing is that there is not really anything that you can do about it. You emerge from childhood and you are simply there. And at that point you have to adjust to the way things are. It almost seems like a dirty trick. Maybe it shouldn't be surprising that there has been a proliferation of dating websites. Of course, the dirty little secret is that they greatly favor the females. And there are no books that I have seen that seem to really help the situation. They are usually based on the development of personality characteristics or self confidence that, if you had them already, would not leave you with this problem. But in the meantime, you get up every day. You have to deal with all of the other issues of vocation and avocation. Jean Shepherd again has the idea. We are all bailing with a leaky bailing can. We all think that no one else has this problem. We are all right!
Cingone

Rome, NY

#12 Apr 10, 2014
It was a long winter. But as far as the nature of the world, nothing has changed, not that anyone should expect it. The thing is that I don't think that most people have this overbearing sense of self awareness. Most people are just going through their lives on impulse. In a lot of ways, life is like a big audition. I always get a kick out of these announcements, one of which I heard today, of how one or another famous actress or actor is "considering" whether to do this part in a movie in which they will make millions. Of course, the reality is that once they have made it, they do have to choose. They have multiple opportunities, but they can only do one thing at a time. But for all of those who would love to be able to do any of these things, it is virtually inconceivable to have the chance to make such a choice. Most of us, if we went to an audition, would get rejected, just like happens when applying for jobs, or asking someone out on a date. The majority of the time you are rejected. Realistically, you hope that somewhere along the way, someone will say yes. But until that happens, life can be very painful. But hey, at least we made it to Spring!
Cingone

Rome, NY

#13 Apr 27, 2014
I was recently reading about a musical called "Avenue Q" which actually won the Tony Award for best musical about a decade ago. What interested me was that it was, at least in part, about the falsehood that is told us that we can be anything we want if we just try enough. This is, of course, nonsense, but the real question is just how much nonsense it is. Theoretically, you could never make it at all. At the basic level, you could die. We all hear about poor children who get a fatal disease at a young age and pass away. It is always very sad. But you could also go through high school or college as a mediocre student, and under the current economic circumstances theoretically never get a job, at least not something that you trained for. How do you face life after that? You really should not have believed in this fantastic future for yourself in the first place, at least not as a reasonable likelihood, but this is what you are fed while you are going to school. And the amazing thing is that, even if you pointed out to the teachers that they were pushing only a probabilistic future, they would not be likely to agree with you. So the only way you can face the future somewhat realistically is to simply realize it yourself. But that is really hard. You would just have to be lucky to have that kind of insight at a young age. Otherwise, you are simply set up. If you are lucky, everything works out and you never even realize that you could have been one of those going nowhere. If you are not lucky, you are faced with this growing realization. Fortunately, many are of a kind of partying temperament that allows them to go on without realizing what has happened. But for some, such as is suggested in "Avenue Q" this comes out as a terrible shock. And you then have to deal with the question of how do you live some sort of satisfying life under those circumstances. For myself, I have ultimately been lucky. But what would I have done if things had not worked out. And I can see that it was far from inevitable that things did work out. It reminds me of the line from the one Star Trek episode, "What of Lazarus?"
Cingone

Rome, NY

#14 Dec 12, 2014
It has been a while since my last comment, but it is funny that nothing has really changed in my outlook. I still see the world as being a difficult place to manage in. I think that one of things that I have been thinking of lately is the fact of the way we all end up in the world. As I mentioned the last time, ultimately you could be successful without realizing the nature of how fortunate you were. This relates to the idea that none of us ask to be here in the first place. What happens is that, at some point, we have a realization of our own existence and that we are at some place in the world, and kind of move on from there. The sad thing is that you don't really have insight into this reality. You would need a lot of natural insight to realize this at a young age, when you could really use the concepts to help you in trying to go wherever you may want to go. Instead, you have "advisors" who are charged with helping you, whether they be parents or others. The problem is that they have their own ideas and agendas about what they think you should do. So you are not necessarily going to get the best advice. It reminds me of the situation on the old show, "The Starlost." The Keir Dullea character knew that he didn't fit in well in the agrarian society that he found himself in, partially due to his parents being gone. All of a sudden he emerges into the larger spaceship of which his Dome was only an isolated part. This causes a totally altered perception. The thing that is wild is that in this day of planned parenthood, many, if not most children are planned. So, from the point of view of the parents, the children are quite planned, and most parents probably have some decent idea of how they expect these children to be. But the reality is that the children that are born are individuals with unpredictable traits, so the parents may be happy or disappointed. But more important is that the parents have created this life for their own benefit. They cannot have created the life for the benefit of the child because they have no idea what kind of life that child will have. It is, I think, a huge thing to create a life who will then be left to his own devices, certainly when the parents die. Under these circumstances, it would seem the parents would owe the children total support as long as they live. To do less would seem to be cruel. I don't know how many children would be planned if such a realization were present in many would be parents. And, finally, that is the result from Talley's Folly, where Matt, after having seen some of the ways that the world could be so cruel, realized that he could never bring an innocent child into it. That, of course, leads to the ultimate irony of Talley's Folly, that Sally cannot have children and so Matt can marry her without having to worry about bringing a child into the world.

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