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Since: Aug 13

Manchester, UK

#1 Aug 7, 2013
Ladies ladies attention attention. Well you see this topic will forever be discussed as long as these people that are described in this topic are still about. Then oh yes we shall speak and speak and forever speak. So here goes.why you should not date naija men or if you dare date one well that is your own oo. But just look out for these signs.

1) if you have never been to his house. Some dudes will take you to expensive restaurants just to cover up that they don't want to take you to their house. And. Some ladies won't even ask I mean as long as his showering you. Please ibeg ask you want to see his house.

2) now dudes are clever they have probably beat you to it already. Because they don't want you to be asking about their home. So instead they take you home. Ehh you see if the house looks like nobody lives in there, with one chair in the corner and an empty fridge Trouble, you know how men like to pile up their fridge and decorate their homes, well you know why that house looks like that, because that's his second house in fact you are most probably not the only one who visits that house. There is you, Sarah and that other girl from the different city.

3) they are very secretive. Never speak about their personal lives. You don't know if they have any sisters, brothers or friends. They just don't want to speak about who they know. Or they never told you where they work. Hmm if they do work..basically they just don't want to talk about their lives because you ain't going to be in it for long.

4) okay now when you are not around, dude talks about how he been chilling with friends, family, going out for drinks etc well basically everything you never do with him. Or and then to top that one you have never actually met any of them. Lol on you my girl. Run run oo.

5) so whenever you are with him, his phone rings, if it is some one that he does not want you to know, he will do one of these things, either lower his voice and give one word answers, or put the phone down and claim its somebody just annoying him. Or another funny one when dudes phone never ever rings. Lol yeah because he has you on a different line. The other one is off.

6) see how he gets offensive when you accuse him of cheating, lieing or any of that. In fact he will even make you think it's your fault. Very smart people. You have to be twice as smart to date.

7) if he claims he is a devoted Christian and goes to church every Sunday. Where as if you spend a full weekend with him and he claims he can't attend church that Sunday because you are around. Lies tell him you want to follow him. Infact before you even see him make sure you pack your church clothes. They tend to usually have their fathers, mothers, wives/girlfriends attend that church, so he will be very careful with where he exposes you.

8) smooth talkers. They will tell you everything you want to here girl. They will lie with everything they have. In fact he will even look you deep in yours eyes and swears he loves you. Even promises you marriage. Whatever, he will talk. Please don't believe him. Until you see that ring. Even when you see the ring. Don't trust.

9) when they always asking you about your friends. Because they have friends who wants girlfriends. Wetting concern u, be like seh u be match maker abi. He does not want to date you, he basically has told he's friends all bout you. And they want something close to you too. Am sure those he's friends can find girls on their own. But because he brags about how he can just sweet talk you, his friends believe your friends are like that too.

10) finally, he never wants to meet your family, always making excuses about attending things with you.

So make sure if you are dating one of these described, grenade for you. But not to worry just be smart before you fall deep. Because they do know how to make you feel like you are the only girl in the world but in reality it's you, Sarah and the other Chinese girl he met when he went to china. Sorry eh.
lola

Dallas, TX

#2 Jan 29, 2014
very interesting for the person who wrote this. I am dating a Nigerian man . He claims all this but I have never been to his house he lives with a relative. The relative drops him off at a public place then he goes to my home then they pic him up. I have met his brothers and sister then he said his aunt. He better not be lying to me because he wont ever want to be dating an American if he does. lol.

So he tells me I can meet his family in Nigeria . Yet I haven't gone that way yet. He often says he loves me but has never bought me anything. Claims he will get a job and support me but I haven't seen it yet. Last but least he said I can go to church with him but has never taken me and when I talk to his family because I do call at all hours of the day his family talks and says yes we are going to the store bye now. which is really strange but they better stop it because its pissing me off all together. So how do I really know if he loves me
pen

Osceola, MO

#3 Jan 29, 2014
Portland Dave

Portland, OR

#4 Jan 29, 2014
Sigh. Racists are just so sad and pathetic!
anobserver

Hanoi, Vietnam

#5 Mar 15, 2014
Accept the fact and move on. There is no LOVE there. and in general Nigerian men love you if and only when they see you can benefit them at certain things. Try having nothing, or helpful nothing...You will see his real face. Nigerian men say LOVE most likely, a baby say love to his mother or master,''i love you'' and it is either because you feed me, you help me, or i am going to get something from you.\
sorry but it is sad ugly true
lola wrote:
very interesting for the person who wrote this. I am dating a Nigerian man . He claims all this but I have never been to his house he lives with a relative. The relative drops him off at a public place then he goes to my home then they pic him up. I have met his brothers and sister then he said his aunt. He better not be lying to me because he wont ever want to be dating an American if he does. lol.
So he tells me I can meet his family in Nigeria . Yet I haven't gone that way yet. He often says he loves me but has never bought me anything. Claims he will get a job and support me but I haven't seen it yet. Last but least he said I can go to church with him but has never taken me and when I talk to his family because I do call at all hours of the day his family talks and says yes we are going to the store bye now. which is really strange but they better stop it because its pissing me off all together. So how do I really know if he loves me
Ana

Dublin, Ireland

#6 Apr 8, 2014
well.... not every man is the same. I was dating one for a long time and he was not a good man, cheating and taking everything he can from me, very bad experience... Said I never go for a nigerian man again..And see there am dating another one. He's loving, caring and kind. He's there even though I have nothing to give. I know about all his fones and he always answers the fone when am around, no matter which one is ringing. I know all his family and they all love me and care about me. He's always there for me and even if he has to cancel his night out with friends, his gym or even work, he would never leave me on my own if I need him. He loves and talks to my family regulary.
I know that kinda nigerians u better don't fall in love with.. but there are good ones out there as well. If u pick the right one u gonna find one who will love you and treat u like a queen!
zee

Europe

#7 May 27, 2014
I m 4rm S.A n m dating a Nigerian guy...oh father Lord I love hm although we hv nvr met...we stay up ol night chatting on whatsapp...the thngz he says abwt me on f.b u could swear Hz madly inlv Wth me
Missy

Perth, Australia

#8 Jun 16, 2014
Hi there, I am currently dating a nigerian guy. We have only known each other for a few weeks. He seems really sweet and very keen when I first meet him, told me that he has been waiting for me and that he going to wed me one day which I thought was so quick. His family are in Nigeria, so I havent met them yet. I have met his friends and he told me that he doesnt introduce a girl to his friends unless he is really serious ahout them. I have been to his house too. He seems to have backed off abit now and it is almost as if he is not that keen anymore. So I am not sure if he is playing games with me
path

Johannesburg, South Africa

#9 Jun 18, 2014
Dated a nigerian guy and completely fell for his sweet words, proclamtions of love and always talking about our future... Found out he was married and had a child. The childs mother was always travelling to check on her terminal mother, and whenever she left, he would invite me over. Until oneday, i suppose, she got my number from his fone and called me..
Jay jay

Toronto, Canada

#10 Jul 6, 2014
I dated a Nigerian man for the first time in my life and I got hurt soo bad. We were only together for 2 months and I never ever wanted him but he chased me like it was nobody's business. He just wouldn't let me be. He took me out, introduced me to his friends, cooked for me, bought me expensive gifts and then boom I find out that he has a girlfriend of 8 years and she has his bail. I confronted him and he said it was true but that he didn't love her like that anymore and that they're not together and that he didn't want her to pull his bail and end up back in jail. BULLSHIT!!! I feel like a complete jerk and here I am in massive tears. I always knew Nigerian men are the worst men to date but I didn't always want to judge a book by its cover. I am soo hurt. I can't believe in 2 months I can love soo much like this. I feel like drinking and slitting my wrists because the pain is soo unbearable and hard to take. God help me through this tough period. I'm soo stupid. I can't eat, sleep. Nothing at all. God help me. Everyone please pray for me.
Monchichi

Baltimore, MD

#11 Jul 8, 2014
WOW! At all the posts. I have been talking to a dude that is Nigerian for a couple of weeks. We get along well, he hasn't brought me anything expensive, he has two kids and said their mum was in NY and a good job. Idk what to make of it all. We have not had sex yet though. Seems I should run for the hills and be done with this here!
LISARAYE

Bury, UK

#12 Jul 15, 2014
well a few weeks is not enough to know he's clear intensions! but wait he said the mother of the kids is in ny, and I am asuming that the woman is just a baby mum/Ex right? if you don't know that then you probably want to start from their coz what he could really be saying is that he's wife is in NY working etc men give out signals in the way they speak so you have to be smart to be able to read those red flags. however I aint suggesting anything but you don't really know this man that well enough so just hope he is real

Monchichi wrote:
WOW! At all the posts. I have been talking to a dude that is Nigerian for a couple of weeks. We get along well, he hasn't brought me anything expensive, he has two kids and said their mum was in NY and a good job. Idk what to make of it all. We have not had sex yet though. Seems I should run for the hills and be done with this here!
lisa

Saugus, MA

#13 Jul 24, 2014
I am a nigerian i agree with some of you, it might sometimes be stressfull to date them . You don't know how it will end. I get scared when i am dating my country me.
Doctor REALITY

Little Rock, AR

#14 Jul 25, 2014
If you date the average Nigerian man......your chances of catching a deadly sexually transmitted disease will SKYROCKET..
sandy

Durban, South Africa

#15 Jul 26, 2014
Not all Nigerian men are bad ,I have been dating this Nigerian guy 4 six month now ,nothing bad and I love him,he is caring,loving and understanding,don't judge a book by it's cover
Naija Man

Lisle, IL

#16 Jul 29, 2014
Not sure what this site is about....but there are all sorts of people in every country or group. People mostly attract or find those similiar to them...seems most that have made comments here found the few bad apples like them.
I'm a nigerian man...and all the nigerian men I'm previledged to know are not like what has been described. Might be best for all of you to change where or how you are meeting men....
Doctor REALITY

Little Rock, AR

#17 Tuesday Jul 29
Million of black men in Africa are some of the nastiest , most indiscrete males in the world. Many of them sexually assault both woman and child with no conscious. Many of them hate themselves, and the world around them because they hate the way they look, and they feel they have a right to be angry and violent. Many of them would have been better off having never been born.
taytay887

United States

#18 Sunday Aug 3
zee wrote:
I m 4rm S.A n m dating a Nigerian guy...oh father Lord I love hm although we hv nvr met...we stay up ol night chatting on whatsapp...the thngz he says abwt me on f.b u could swear Hz madly inlv Wth me
.....what's his name if you don't mind me asking? I have a suspicion it's the same guy I am chatting with.
Let Him Go

Riverside, CA

#19 Sunday Aug 10
Been 7 long years. I met him online, then travelled to Ibadan 2007, met his family and several friends, travelled again in 2008, and lastly to London 2012...

At this point, I'm giving up on our future together. I realised, too late, the good Naija man I fell in love with will always be wanting someone to pay his bills.

I tried my best to set him on his own two feet, but he won't ever change.

Broke my heart to admit failure...
Lia

Dublin, CA

#20 Sunday Aug 10
I do not date Nigerian or men from Africa, their interests clash with mine plus I have seen how they treated my aunt to know they look down on her. My aunt dated an Ethiopian he wanted many wife's and ordered her around. She hated being very very light brown so she cracked and only wanted Africans. Dumb on her part. The Ethiopian guy was cocky, abusive and swore we all had to be Ethiopian because of our features. He also tried to make her a slave, screaming at her, he tried to hit her, they divorced. The Nigerian she dated was a racist toward black people who was brainwashed fully by his embassy and beat her once. He said he was pure and we were a bunch of washed out people who were not really black so we were inferior. He was violent. They divorced. So after seeing this, I shall never dabble with men from that land, some or quite nice as friends but relationship wise they are truley awful. People from "western" cultures are easier to date, France, Canada, US, and even people who are second generation people born in Europe. I will not date men from Africa.

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