Too ugly for love

[Ronnnie]

I have been told by many people in my life that I am not good enough for anyone. This has hurt me a lot and because of all the rejection, I now see it as being true. I have seen people who I would describe as being bad people still get love. What makes a person that is a woman basher or rapist etc. better than me? Is there a point where somebody can reach that regarded as being to ugly? Even if that person deep down is good hearted and trys their best to look after themselves, finding somebody to love them is it impossible?

[Traveler]

there is somebody out there for everybody, keep looking and never give up - and you will find someone.

perhaps you're searching in the wrong places

[Larry]

Traveler has given you some good advice. For myself, one of the most attractive things in a woman is confidence (not arrogance). I've heard many women say this also that, confidence is very attractive in a man and that other things can be overlooked with a confident man.

It seems to me you need to work on this area. If companionship is something you want, then I would say work on your esteem issues (if any, I realize I could be wrong) and start today, don't be dicouraged and don't give up. Anything worth having is worth working for. Good luck to you Ronnie.

P.S. Maybe try different things, join a bowling league or pool league or book club, get involved in the community. What you are doing right now doesn't seem to be working for you.

[ITS ALL A GAME]

Traveler wrote:

there is somebody out there for everybody, keep looking and never give up - and you will find someone.
perhaps you're searching in the wrong places

You think? and how the hell would we know where the right place is...you arent supposed to search you are supposed to let things happen and come to you...just fall into place.

[sakara18235]

good looking evil people get treated nice; bad looking nice people get treated like dirt.

[Ronnnie]

sakara18235 wrote:

good looking evil people get treated nice; bad looking nice people get treated like dirt.

You are right, I watch pretty girls do things wrong and just give a nice smile and get away with whatever they did wrong.

[Ronnnie]

Traveler wrote:

there is somebody out there for everybody, keep looking and never give up - and you will find someone.
perhaps you're searching in the wrong places

Thats what people say, Its isn't true some people have millions of people for them. I don't have no one, I ain't good enough for anybody. I'm a loser baby so why don't you kill me.

[Ronnnie]

dimz wrote:

just pay for sex if you're that ugly.

Everything isn't about sex, I would be happy just to be hugged once in a while. When your as hideous as I am people won't even do that. If your as hideous as I am even money isn't enough motivation to have sex with me.

[Ronnnie]

BJB wrote:

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It sounds like you have been around people that are not very nice. I think they are the ones that have major problems, not you. There are alot of mean spirited people in the world and you just have to learn to stay clear of those. For some people beating up on others emotionally seem to make them feel better. When in reality those people are probably jealous of who you truly are as a person. Someone that is kind and would treat a woman with the greatest respect she deserves. So don't give up and start looking elsewhere. There is someone out there that will appreciate all of the wonderful things that are part of you.

I know you are right, but the nice people don't want anything to do with me. People who will give me some company are only people that want to use me and abuse me. Any company is better than loneliness.

[IDIOTA UNOS]

You want ugly! I really miss my friend Willy, i miss him, I wonder if he will ever return in my lifetime. I miss my friend, Willy see his youthfull , playful ... jumping up and down! <Crying!>

[dink]

Ronnnie wrote:

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Everything isn't about sex, I would be happy just to be hugged once in a while. When your as hideous as I am people won't even do that. If your as hideous as I am even money isn't enough motivation to have sex with me.

I'll be the judge of that. How much money do ya have?

[sakara18235]

check out free phone chat lines; i tried to give you some numbers but this site won't allow it. will have to do a lot of checking on web cause phone chat being replaced by internet chat. this not an ad: jasmin site for free women cams (nudes do cost), tho most there seem like russian sex slaves. at least with phone chat you can just listen if don't want to talk, and the russian site women do sometimes type back (especially if you get them mad).

[Ronnnie]

BJB wrote:

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Then you are not hanging out with nice people. Because nice people will have something to do with you. And don't let anybody use you or abuse you. Those people are not nice. I will be your friend. So if you ever want to talk let me know. I will be here for you.

You really believe that. Everybody rejects people for one thing or another, it doesn't make them a bad person. I am nice to everybody I meet but I do reject people. For example I will be in the park eating and some dude comes up talking to me and then asks for money. I will like feel sorry for him and give him some change but I don't want anymore to do with him. Does that make me a bad person?

Anyone wanna talk you can email me at [e-mail]

I will reply to everyone.

[Erised]

Ronnnie wrote:

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Thats what people say, Its isn't true some people have millions of people for them. I don't have no one, I ain't good enough for anybody. I'm a loser baby so why don't you kill me.

Don't sweat it! For YEARS I felt exactly the same way! I'm not exactly the most attractive female in the world and I tend to be a bit of a geek since I am a total gamer and anime freak.
But God had better plans for me. By pure chance Steve and I were set up on a blind date and now we are married with two children.
It may look bleak now but the way I see it. If I can find love ANYONE can.

[Ronnnie]

Erised wrote:

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Don't sweat it! For YEARS I felt exactly the same way! I'm not exactly the most attractive female in the world and I tend to be a bit of a geek since I am a total gamer and anime freak.
But God had better plans for me. By pure chance Steve and I were set up on a blind date and now we are married with two children.
It may look bleak now but the way I see it. If I can find love ANYONE can.

Well I am truly happy for you. I have to admit things use to be bleak now there beyond that. I think 30 is a milestone, if you reach that point and can't find some one to love you then the odds of ever finding anyone are probably zero. If I was a normal guy with average looks then I would feel hope. Being a weirdo that is extremely ugly, makes me feel hopeless. I know I would be better of dead. No happiness for me in this world. Only more heartache and pain. I have been an outcast all my life, I'm sure things wont change now.

[The Stranger]

Ronnnie wrote:

I have been told by many people in my life that I am not good enough for anyone. This has hurt me a lot and because of all the rejection, I now see it as being true. I have seen people who I would describe as being bad people still get love. What makes a person that is a woman basher or rapist etc. better than me? Is there a point where somebody can reach that regarded as being to ugly? Even if that person deep down is good hearted and trys their best to look after themselves, finding somebody to love them is it impossible?

I gave up on love along time ago. I don't know the answer to your Question....rapist, woman bashers, They wear a mask. Many are born with beauty, so much so that no one stops to look at the inside. There are others that are not attractive, yet they are great pretenders who mask themselves with a personality of Gold. It is unfortunate that life is so cruel, but I still see beauty in it all. Lately I've only been a spectator, watching people find happiness while others disappear into hopelessness, and despair. Don't give up.

[Erised]

Ronnnie wrote:

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Well I am truly happy for you. I have to admit things use to be bleak now there beyond that. I think 30 is a milestone, if you reach that point and can't find some one to love you then the odds of ever finding anyone are probably zero. If I was a normal guy with average looks then I would feel hope. Being a weirdo that is extremely ugly, makes me feel hopeless. I know I would be better of dead. No happiness for me in this world. Only more heartache and pain. I have been an outcast all my life, I'm sure things wont change now.

Come on now! Nobody is THAT ugly. You are just exagerating. And if you keep up this attitude then mo you will not find love. Women want a man with confidence not self loathing

[Ronnnie]

Erised wrote:

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Come on now! Nobody is THAT ugly. You are just exagerating. And if you keep up this attitude then mo you will not find love. Women want a man with confidence not self loathing

I wish I was exaggerating, I speak the truth. Some of the things that has happened to me I would not wish on anyone. One time I was out and this dude had a video camera and came up and filmed me saying "look at this freak", does that sound like somebody exaggerating? Does that kind of thing happen to normal people?

[The Stranger]

Ronnnie wrote:

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I wish I was exaggerating, I speak the truth. Some of the things that has happened to me I would not wish on anyone. One time I was out and this dude had a video camera and came up and filmed me saying "look at this freak", does that sound like somebody exaggerating? Does that kind of thing happen to normal people?

Things like this have happened to me. Do Not Give Up !

[Ronnnie]

BJB wrote:

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Quit talking like that. You are not better off dead. I don't like to see you so down on yourself. You need to quit worrying about what others think of you. It should only matter what you think of yourself. The most important aspect anyone can have is kindness and caring about others. Surface beauty only lasts so long. It fades over time. But true beauty from within lasts a lifetime. Being able to laugh and find true beauty in and around you. That is the true gift. Someone can be surrounded by many friends and family and still be alone. You have to find peace from within yourself first or it won't matter whether there are people around you or not. You will continue to be alone.

Its easy to say "to quit worrying what other people think of you", after a while of hearing people saying the same things you begin to see truth in what they are saying. I used to believe they were wrong and I can prove them wrong. Its not that way, people say those things even though there horrible they are true. Maybe its better to be honest and not to try and trick yourself into a path that is only going to lead to greater pain.