Warm thoughts to you and yours.You are very welcome, Redoran!
Now for another lie that Christians spew...
When I lost my stepdad almost a year ago, I listened to his family saying, "God's in charge of all; just have faith all will be ok." OK? He was dead for petesake, and the implication of their statements was that God caused it because of some plan.
Now, my mother has cancer and will be having surgery in less than two weeks. These people say the very same thing, and I'm about to go ballistic on a couple of them if I hear this crap one more time. What they are basically saying is that God caused my mother, as well as others, to have cancer, but I, and others, should trust this same terrorist to heal our loved ones???? Freaking batshit crazy, is what it is!
What it really boils down to is that we are all subject to nature, in all its glory and fury...not to anthropomorphize too much. My family has a genetic predisposition to certain types of cancer, reproductive, pancreatic, breast and brain cancers are the most prominent. This has nothing to do with any supernatural terroristic entity as the Christians claim. It's nature taking its course, and I'll be counting on the expertise of the surgeons, oncologists and other professionals rather than some twisted supernatural salesman idea of cutting someone then selling them a bandaid if they beg enough. The very idea just sickens me. It is what it is.
Having lost my mother and stepfather within 24 hrs to cancer earlier this month, I believe I can empathize completely. It is an emotional minefield. As Mother was a well-known freethinker (tho' an on-fire Christian in my youth), I can say that no one burdened us with having to smile and nod at such wretched foolishness.
Your proposition is the only rational course. Even as a Christian I could not abide the idea of intercessory prayer (altho' I would acquiesce if an ill person requested prayer, then and now. I don't believe in prayer, but do believe in the efficacy of positive mind-states). It is impossible to wish for God's intervention, and not deal with the implications when it refuses for it's own ineffable reasons. It is a capricious and cruelly whimsical god that would comport itself in such a manner. As a Xtian I resolved, privately, to release God from such archaic chicanery. Since then, of course, I resolved to release myself from such a creature entirely.
Peace to you.