Interracial experience-Mexican men an...

Interracial experience-Mexican men and Black women

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Since: Jul 12

Philadelphia, PA

#1 Jul 12, 2012
I am a Black Woman dating a Mexican guy. Sometimes when we walk hand and hand down the street we get rude comments and looks, all from black men. I am not saying all black men say something rude or look at us weird, but that when it happens, it comes from black men. Some black men could care less. The looks I could care less about. It is when you open your mouth that there is a problem. The way my boyfriend looks at it is "As long as they don't touch us then there is not a problem". I agree, but I am the type of person who speaks my mind and it is hard for me to hold back, because of the disrespect we receive. I did not know there was a problem with a black woman dating a Mexican guy. Just need some insight, experience, and suggestions on how to handle when someone says something rude. Thanks!

PS: Also, he is light skin so he might look like a different race to them, definitely not white though. But either way it is my business who I date not stupid people on the street.

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Atia

Columbus, OH

#2 Aug 13, 2012
I am also a Black woman dating a Mexican man and I also have the same problem. We either recieve stares from Black men or Mexican women. I never knew that it was a problem either, I guess it's more of jealousy on both sides. We went to his friends shop and his friends wife asked him if he was crazy dating a black woman. Of course this was said in spanish which she assumed that I didnt understand. I believe that interracial dating of all kind is beautiful and people will always have their views, I too speak what's on my mind, but on the other hand just love who you love and care less about what people think.

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DannyBoy

United States

#3 Aug 28, 2012
Cboone03 wrote:
I am a Black Woman dating a Mexican guy. Sometimes when we walk hand and hand down the street we get rude comments and looks, all from black men. I am not saying all black men say something rude or look at us weird, but that when it happens, it comes from black men. Some black men could care less. The looks I could care less about. It is when you open your mouth that there is a problem. The way my boyfriend looks at it is "As long as they don't touch us then there is not a problem". I agree, but I am the type of person who speaks my mind and it is hard for me to hold back, because of the disrespect we receive. I did not know there was a problem with a black woman dating a Mexican guy. Just need some insight, experience, and suggestions on how to handle when someone says something rude. Thanks!
PS: Also, he is light skin so he might look like a different race to them, definitely not white though. But either way it is my business who I date not stupid people on the street.
. Don't worry about it lil one it's all just hating that's all. I'm Hispanic 34 my wife is 33 and black we've been together since we were 15 and we still get a few looks . But as long as they keep that bullshit to their selfs won't b no shit
miguel

Dallas, TX

#4 Sep 18, 2012
I've always love black women and get the same problem. It mostly from hypocrits that are in interracial. To me they tell me anything they want but when someone disrespects my black queen they are in big trouble.

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Since: Aug 12

United States

#5 Sep 18, 2012
I actually am ashamed to admit it but I prefer mexican guys over most guys besides indian guys I'm into anything brown. It's just being black my family raised me to believe latinos are fat ugly and short. But I'm the way I am...

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Raylena

Henderson, NC

#6 Oct 4, 2012
When I see interracial couples, I always smile because they show the world, We are in love, with no fear or shame. This takes guts, just read about Richard and Mildred Loving. This couple fought the U.S. Supreme Court to be together openly and WON! So when a Mexican guy asked me out, I said yes. This is the first time I am dating outside my race and so far it is the BEST DECISION I HAVE MADE! I receive rude looks from different people of all race. We just show them we don't care how your feel about us. We Love each other. I can tell you, He shows me he loves me, not just in words but action too. The Black men I have dated, don't show respect for a Black Lady. I am not saying all Black men, just some. I Love My Boyfriend very much. So don't let people dictate who you can and can't see. Be proud You have found the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE! Not many people do.
Nitta

Minneapolis, MN

#8 Nov 1, 2012
Interesting forum. There is an Hispanic guy I met when I was 17 n high school. He was older,homecoming king, v-football etc. We hit it off right away, on the phone from the evening till the 6 n the morning. Head over feet. But,he wasnt ready for anything serious, did his thing,I did mine,however, we still cared deeply for one another. He was the guy my "new boos" would get compared to. To make a long story short bout 10 yrs passed since I saw him. With the majic of f.b.we were able to reconnect and share what we never could say face to face. ERRTHANG good n bad. And I saw him, nnn he looks so good,distinguished,more confident.
Im from the south, n I never knew how prejudice my fam was until we started to date. I believe we only got stares because peop didn't know what nationality he was, middle eastern,indian,etc. Of all the races I've dated, he was sweet to me, no cussing,disrespect,and never preassured me sexually. As a blk woman, the odds seem against us in finding love. Like on the movie "Something New" you have to let go, to see love flow." Lol, corny but true...
Nitta

Minneapolis, MN

#11 Nov 1, 2012
Oh and another thaaang, its mighty funny that the folks givn all the unwanted shout outs n stares cant live your life for you,you have to live with your own decisions and be responsible for your own happiness.
People in love are happy,and can do nothing but smile at the happiness of others, regardless of what race they are choosing to share themselves with. Haters are miserable (pray for them..wink)and misery loves company so stay true to yourself, and you wont have regrets down the line n love.
anjanette

Phoenix, AZ

#12 Nov 16, 2012
I'm in love with a Mexican man and we are so into each other that we don't pay attention to anyone. This is my first interracial relationship and I never see his race only his love.
twinne2

Phoenix, AZ

#14 Jan 6, 2013
I fell in love with a Mexican man. The love that he shown was on a whole different level. He pursue me for about 6 months we always go out in a group but we started going as couple about 3 mths.ago I was uncomfortable at first but I realized once the race issue was put aside I found myself enjoying his company.We since have broke up not because the racial difference but his family issues he have deal. But I learn though him how love again and it doesn't have be a black man
MsEsha

United States

#15 Jan 9, 2013
Im a Black woman and have fallen in love with my Mexican man, he is the sweetest, smartest, most loving guy I have ever met. I dont know if we get stares or not - if so I dont notice it!
LIZZY

Dallas, TX

#16 Jan 20, 2013
Raylena wrote:
When I see interracial couples, I always smile because they show the world, We are in love, with no fear or shame. This takes guts, just read about Richard and Mildred Loving. This couple fought the U.S. Supreme Court to be together openly and WON! So when a Mexican guy asked me out, I said yes. This is the first time I am dating outside my race and so far it is the BEST DECISION I HAVE MADE! I receive rude looks from different people of all race. We just show them we don't care how your feel about us. We Love each other. I can tell you, He shows me he loves me, not just in words but action too. The Black men I have dated, don't show respect for a Black Lady. I am not saying all Black men, just some. I Love My Boyfriend very much. So don't let people dictate who you can and can't see. Be proud You have found the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE! Not many people do.
. Love your respond girly!!!! You'd said perfectlyand you two are still going strong! ;)
Karijhanna

Athens, GA

#17 Jan 27, 2013
It is so hard for people to understand so I thank all of you who have shared you stories!!! I am in love with a Mexican man and we have been together since we were sixteen! We love each other very much but it is so hard because unfortunately people do judge us. It may not be on purpose but they do. When we hold hands in public people stare and one time a lady even shook her head at us! It is very frustrating and I know I should not be bothered by it because it happens to a lot of people but I never thought it would happen to us I guess. I thought I was being paranoid but people can be very judgmental. I love him so much it took a while for my family to accept that I was dating outside of my race but now they adore him. I've even learned how to speak Spanish because his family rarely speaks English. It's hard but I know we will make it work...he is the strongest person I have ever known and I thank him for that because he inspires me to stop caring about what the world thinks!
sheerie_chuy

United States

#18 Feb 7, 2013
I am an African American woman and my fiance is Mexican.......Plus my daughter who is from a previous relationship is half Mexican. I am very fortunate to have found an amazing man who is my soulmate. My family loves him and his family loves me,especially his mom..........the truth is in my tortillas,they puff up. Lol
ESOJ
#19 Feb 18, 2013
im with a wondeful white woman,never dated a black woman but if thatz makes u happy dont listen to the haters, me and my girl get sometimes ugly looks,specialy from mexican women but just laugh and say that they look at us cause we look cute lol
Crystal

Union City, GA

#20 Feb 20, 2013
I love mexican men they are very understanding
Miguel

Perris, CA

#21 Feb 25, 2013
Nice thread
juan cholo

Clayton, NC

#22 Mar 5, 2013
dont ,pay the haters no attention,im married to a beautiful white women,im mexican man,we always get comliments about how such a cute couple we make,i have two kids with her and they have her bright green eyes,i do anything for her.i was always in to white girls,when i saw this one i new she was a keeper.she says that her dad dont mind her dating a mexican man,just not a black man.
Max-Mex

San Jose, CA

#23 Apr 13, 2013
sheerie_chuy wrote:
I am an African American woman and my fiance is Mexican.......Plus my daughter who is from a previous relationship is half Mexican. I am very fortunate to have found an amazing man who is my soulmate. My family loves him and his family loves me,especially his mom..........the truth is in my tortillas,they puff up. Lol
Your man is a lucky man if you can make tortillas that puff and of the right consistency!!! Good luck with keeping the pounds off him.. LOL
Stephanie

Melrose Park, IL

#24 Apr 16, 2013
I'm black and love me so Mexicanos/Chicanos wish there were more of them in Boston lol

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