How can i get revenge on my cheating ...

Since: Jul 07

San Pedro,CA

#22 Apr 24, 2009
johnpain wrote:
The boy is a gym trainer, I dont know the ins and outs of his qualifications but I know he works in the gym with clients because friends of mine that go there say hes worked there since last year.
As far as my wife's weight goes, she did indeed have some excess skin but only around the thigh area, everywhere else was perfect and beautiful.
Except at home with you. What is your role in this? What did you do/ornot do that lead to this?

This is classic alienation and desperate behavior.

Turn your anger into adult behavior. Try to reconcile and FORGIVE her for whatever you did to cause this OR

Separate and divorce her.

Regardless, MAN UP and face the consequences as an adult.

Under no circumstance threaten or cause any mental or physical damage to this person.

Ask God to direct your head and your heart in all matters concerning this. He will answer your call.
johnpain

Leicester, UK

#23 Apr 24, 2009
i tried to be a good husband by doing everything she wanted- i bought things for her mother, listened to her and my son and I encouraged her to lose weight, my son is absolutely distraught about the whole situation because the boy who has been sleeping with my wife is the younger brother of my sons ex girlfriend.

“Si vis pacem, para bellum”

Since: Dec 07

Former US of A

#24 Apr 24, 2009
This is really sad. I wish I could say I was shocked. This kind of thing happens a lot more than most would like to admit.

You want revenge? The best revenge it to be happy, healthy and find a woman that can appreciate you. That pisses them off more than anything else could!

Since: Jul 07

San Pedro,CA

#25 Apr 24, 2009
johnpain wrote:
i tried to be a good husband by doing everything she wanted- i bought things for her mother, listened to her and my son and I encouraged her to lose weight, my son is absolutely distraught about the whole situation because the boy who has been sleeping with my wife is the younger brother of my sons ex girlfriend.
JOHN, The actual tragedy in these sort of things is the innocent ones whose entire lives may be marred irretrievably if someone fails and not deal as a responsible ADULT.
There is professional help.
Find it. Act now.
Let professionals deal with the particulars.
Do your best to not be a control freak now.
God will help you if you ask.
I'll keep you in my prayers starting now.

Give up every fantasy about revenge.
Kill the seed of such a thought immediately.

Since: Dec 07

Ashburn, VA

#26 Apr 24, 2009
Ms Oleo wrote:
<quoted text>Hey Buddy--how are you?
Hiya. It's just fantastic seeing ya posting again. Hope life is excellent.
Hugs.
:)
andet-cropduster

United States

#29 Apr 24, 2009
Gatormeister wrote:
<quoted text>
Hiya. It's just fantastic seeing ya posting again. Hope life is excellent.
Hugs.
:)
hi Gatormeister,

i believe Ms Oleo is someone i knew before. she is probably my previous buddy too.

andet1987

“SAY HELLO TO MY LITTLE FRIEND”

Since: Jun 07

everywhere I'm needed.

#30 Apr 24, 2009
Gatormeister wrote:
<quoted text>
Hiya. It's just fantastic seeing ya posting again. Hope life is excellent.
Hugs.
:)
Excellent avatar pic.
andet-cropduster

United States

#31 Apr 24, 2009
HIT-MAN wrote:
<quoted text>
Excellent avatar pic.
yes, i agree.:)
sassyme

Chicago, IL

#34 Apr 26, 2009
johnpain wrote:
The boy is a gym trainer, I dont know the ins and outs of his qualifications but I know he works in the gym with clients because friends of mine that go there say hes worked there since last year.
As far as my wife's weight goes, she did indeed have some excess skin but only around the thigh area, everywhere else was perfect and beautiful.
Gyms are NOT going to hire a 17 year old trainer. He's older than you think or this story is a fantasy of yours. Do you know how nasty the plastic surgery is on those weight cases? A teen is NOT going to want to bang that when he can get something so much better looking.
sassyme

Chicago, IL

#35 Apr 26, 2009
johnpain wrote:
i tried to be a good husband by doing everything she wanted- i bought things for her mother, listened to her and my son and I encouraged her to lose weight, my son is absolutely distraught about the whole situation because the boy who has been sleeping with my wife is the younger brother of my sons ex girlfriend.
Someone may be feeding YOU a lie because teens can't be employed as trainers. I would get some professional help so you can deal with this real or imaginary situation. Talking about revenge is the last thing you should be thinking about right now.
Gone from your looney bin

Salt Lake City, UT

#36 Apr 26, 2009
JohnPain wrote:
<quoted text>
im from the Uk and did not post on here before
Just some thoughts here. First? Your words are American spellings...not proper english. Might want to fix that. And then?? Well, it's not called a gym in the UK. Might want to learn proper terminology too.

If you're this bored to do this then you might want to get bored enough to find out how to do it properly.

“Look it's Colleen!”

Since: Jun 08

NYC

#37 Apr 27, 2009
andet-cropduster wrote:
<quoted text>
hi Gatormeister,
i believe Ms Oleo is someone i knew before. she is probably my previous buddy too.
andet1987
Yeah=--it's me. What's going on
Too funny

Salt Lake City, UT

#38 Apr 27, 2009
This story is just to get some reaction...someone is really bored!

Since: Apr 07

Burleson, TX

#39 Apr 27, 2009
QUOTE who="johnpain"thanks for the advice guys but she left me today, we're getting a divorce, she found out that I knew about her and wants a divorce.

She cheated on you, sorry about that. But don't let her take you to the cleaners...
Robo

Ryde, Australia

#40 Feb 11, 2010
Why don't you just hang in the closet and watch while they do it.
goforbroke

El Paso, TX

#41 May 27, 2011
film her and her lover...take the film to his job to get him fired and use the film as evidence and divorce her...get rid of the trash--if she cant see what she has at home--then let her go--anyway--she will ballon up again but twice as big...
Whiskey Tango

Las Vegas, NV

#42 May 27, 2011
Hope things are well for you some couple years later and hope you found your answer.

Addressing some comments:
First of all, he's in the UK and the rules may be different there than here in the US. Second, maybe he's not a trainer but a towel boy or clerk. I know that even here in the US, they hire 17 year olds not to be trainers but for other jobs. Usually these kids are set to attend a community college where they are focusing on physical fitness, nutrition, or on track to be a physical trainer. Third, although the OP didn't state this, it's perfectly possible for somebody to lose alot of weight and undergo corrective surgery. The UK has a universal health care system that would pay for this providing there's a health risk issue (and in this case, it would).

Now to the solution:
It seems that your (now ex-) wife has found a new sense of freedom and attention. This is the nightmare of what happens when you find yourself with somebody that puts the effort into improving themselves. I've seen this happen to people (both men and women) who go and get their degrees, find a better high-paying job, and improve their health (as in your case). The person who made the changes has risen to a level in which they feel that they're better than you. Sometimes, it's simply that your part of a life that harbors lingering bad memories and she wants to move past it.

How you handle it is up to you. Assuming that the divorce went through, your only bit of one-up-manship is to trade up yourself. Show her that you can rise to her level of expectation without having to consent to her. Showing her this will show her that she made a mistake by leaving you just because she could. It will also show her that you were capable of meeting the challenge of raising the caliber of your lives. Will it change things between you and her? Not likely, but you'll feel better about yourself and she'll know that she messed up.
justme

Lafayette, IN

#43 May 27, 2011
I was reading a book one day and there is was in print on those old pages. The way I've always felt about life and relationships but never thought the answer could be so simple and telling. I'm sure everyone of any age has had relationships, marriages, maybe even living arrangements with someone you think or thought you loved only to after sometime have that empty feeling in your heart. I'll try to recreate what I read.

This is what the man asked her (a married woman).

Man: "You his woman?"

Woman: "We are married."

Man: "Wasn't what I asked. I wanted to know if you was his woman? It ain't always the same thing."

To me, it was the answer and there is a difference between being someone's wife or being their woman. Only if you have ever been in a situation like that could you understand, but it takes so long and many bad relationships to figure out the difference. So, men marry your woman, save the heartache with just marrying someone to be your wife.
andet1987

Beloit, WI

#44 May 28, 2011
my bf left our apartment because he wants to stay in a much bigger studio, 3 times bigger than we used to stay. he still calls me and i call him. if he decides to leave me, that is ok with me.

if something is lost, something is gained.

but we will meet this Sunday for a lunch date somewhere. we have been together for a long time. love will keep us together.
andet1987

Beloit, WI

#45 May 28, 2011
JohnPain wrote:
I recently discovered my wife has been cheating on me with her 17 year old gym trainer who is a close friend of my son, how can i get revenge.
Basically, my wife is 6 years younger than I, i am 36 and she just turned 30 and our sex life is fantasitc, we're both very fit now but she weighed 239 pounds when we met and my son from my first marriage encouraged her to go to the gym, she now weighs 90 pounds and is smoking but a friend of mine who works at the gym says that one of the younger gym trainers has been boasting that he has been "tapping the ass" of Mrs.Cummings (my wife.)
I dismissed it as being a silly joke but I recently hacked into her email account and saw that he had sent her explicitly sexual emails. What should i do to get that bitch back.
try a different position. a doggie fashion probably.

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