i think that my husband is a pervert
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Leeza

Colorado Springs, CO

#152 Aug 28, 2011
I think your husband's wife is a nut case and maybe a pervert too.
Kitkat

Honolulu, HI

#153 Feb 6, 2012
Please everyone, I need your opinions.
I have been with my husband for almost 5 years.
We both love each other but there are things that keep bothring me that he does.

1. LIVE CHAT (both females and shemales)

2. Obsessed with satin panties.(he even gets annoyed if i wear cotton panties all the time)
He also has a history of buying used panties on line.

3. He also vistits TOPIX quite often on topics such as "ever sniffed girls panties while..." , "panty trading" and etc.. and contacting them requesting pictures which he makes a certain request with. In the last email i found, he was requesting a guy( yes, a guy!) to wrap himself with panties and take pics and send him.

I have caught him doing live chat and he promised me that he wont do it again. he does much less than before but it seems that he's into this picture trading and enjoying to meet people with the same interest in the TOPIX.

He says he's not gay and I dont't think he is. However, i cannot understand why he has to deal with some men and shemales.

I do not want to tell him that i know all this too because telling him never stopped him. it only makes him smarter to hide.

Can someone please give me opinions..?
gawd

Glen Ellyn, IL

#155 Feb 6, 2012
Kitkat wrote:
Please everyone, I need your opinions.
I have been with my husband for almost 5 years.
We both love each other but there are things that keep bothring me that he does.
1. LIVE CHAT (both females and shemales)
2. Obsessed with satin panties.(he even gets annoyed if i wear cotton panties all the time)
He also has a history of buying used panties on line.
3. He also vistits TOPIX quite often on topics such as "ever sniffed girls panties while..." , "panty trading" and etc.. and contacting them requesting pictures which he makes a certain request with. In the last email i found, he was requesting a guy( yes, a guy!) to wrap himself with panties and take pics and send him.
I have caught him doing live chat and he promised me that he wont do it again. he does much less than before but it seems that he's into this picture trading and enjoying to meet people with the same interest in the TOPIX.
He says he's not gay and I dont't think he is. However, i cannot understand why he has to deal with some men and shemales.
I do not want to tell him that i know all this too because telling him never stopped him. it only makes him smarter to hide.
Can someone please give me opinions..?
And you still love that twisted fk?
Kitkat

El Cajon, CA

#156 Feb 6, 2012
Well, he is a perfect husband without the fetish..
spank daddy

Scarborough, Canada

#157 Mar 16, 2012
is he into spanking?
kinky guy

Scarborough, Canada

#158 Mar 17, 2012
my girlfriend wants me to see her change her kotex pad! and i give her oral sex durng her period!
snowflake

Bedford, OH

#159 Jun 1, 2012
dizzyblonde wrote:
tell me what you think
he is addicted to porn on the net...he talks to other women and he thinks that is ok....i think that he needs to go to porn-anonymous..if there is such a thing...he gets all of these ideas and for the last 4 years has wanted to join swing clubs, have threesomes and foursomes, outrageous things that i will not do...wants to look in neighbors windows, it goes on and on. i hate him
my husband who is 56 will ask girls in their 20's an d 30's to pose on his bike. When we go out to eat I can't keep his attention because he is to busy leering at another women so he can come home and masturbate to her memory. I work out and try to do new things in our sex life to keep it interesting. I get very hurt by his words and actions
moosehead

Morganfield, KY

#160 Jun 1, 2012
dizzyblonde wrote:
tell me what you think
he is addicted to porn on the net...he talks to other women and he thinks that is ok....i think that he needs to go to porn-anonymous..if there is such a thing...he gets all of these ideas and for the last 4 years has wanted to join swing clubs, have threesomes and foursomes, outrageous things that i will not do...wants to look in neighbors windows, it goes on and on. i hate him
no ands, ifs or buts...simply divorce him.
moosehead

Morganfield, KY

#161 Jun 1, 2012
snowflake wrote:
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my husband who is 56 will ask girls in their 20's an d 30's to pose on his bike. When we go out to eat I can't keep his attention because he is to busy leering at another women so he can come home and masturbate to her memory. I work out and try to do new things in our sex life to keep it interesting. I get very hurt by his words and actions
he's no good. why do you stay?
moosehead

Morganfield, KY

#162 Jun 1, 2012
Kitkat wrote:
Please everyone, I need your opinions.
I have been with my husband for almost 5 years.
We both love each other but there are things that keep bothring me that he does.
1. LIVE CHAT (both females and shemales)
2. Obsessed with satin panties.(he even gets annoyed if i wear cotton panties all the time)
He also has a history of buying used panties on line.
3. He also vistits TOPIX quite often on topics such as "ever sniffed girls panties while..." , "panty trading" and etc.. and contacting them requesting pictures which he makes a certain request with. In the last email i found, he was requesting a guy( yes, a guy!) to wrap himself with panties and take pics and send him.
I have caught him doing live chat and he promised me that he wont do it again. he does much less than before but it seems that he's into this picture trading and enjoying to meet people with the same interest in the TOPIX.
He says he's not gay and I dont't think he is. However, i cannot understand why he has to deal with some men and shemales.
I do not want to tell him that i know all this too because telling him never stopped him. it only makes him smarter to hide.
Can someone please give me opinions..?
if he's dealing with men and shemales, then smell the coffee, doll, he's gay. or maybe he actually feels like a woman on the inside, like chaz bono. your marriage might be a cover to mask his homosexuality. to find out, watch a ballgame with him. watch his breathing while he's watching the guys on the field.

Since: Jun 12

Location hidden

#163 Jun 1, 2012
:)

“Forehead wrinkle”

Since: Dec 10

Homefries

#164 Jun 27, 2012
snowflake wrote:
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my husband who is 56 will ask girls in their 20's an d 30's to pose on his bike. When we go out to eat I can't keep his attention because he is to busy leering at another women so he can come home and masturbate to her memory. I work out and try to do new things in our sex life to keep it interesting. I get very hurt by his words and actions
Get a bike yourself and have 20-30 year old men pose on it.....and when you get home go to town on yourself........ See how he likes it.

;-)
Gina

Sacramento, CA

#165 Oct 1, 2012
lwsciencejunkie wrote:
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You have it backwards. FIRST comes the deviancy and THEN comes the porn.
What "sexual addiction" actually is, if there even is such a thing, let alone how to treat it is a huge mystery to the psychiatric community.
I don't think ANYONE should be obliged to live under such conditions in the hope that the deviant partner has a "problem" and needs "help".
The husband is, for whatever reason, a cruel, selfish, controlling individual that is not likely to change, or even see any need for change.
The husband is dangerous, and not worth wasting another tear over. She needs to take what legal control she can of finances and kids (if any) so that she can get the hell away from him as soon as possible.
There are several websites and therapists out there who can help you. Yes, it is called sexual addiction. You need to look for a counselor with the designation "CSAT "Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist." I'm going to one now because my partner is a sex addict and the therapist is right on target with the issue and how it affects the partner. Good luck to you

“Forehead wrinkle”

Since: Dec 10

Homefries

#166 Jul 1, 2013
Gina wrote:
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There are several websites and therapists out there who can help you. Yes, it is called sexual addiction. You need to look for a counselor with the designation "CSAT "Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist." I'm going to one now because my partner is a sex addict and the therapist is right on target with the issue and how it affects the partner. Good luck to you
Just checking in on you.

How is the therapy working out?
BeenThere

Stamford, CT

#169 Feb 1, 2016
It's very important that your husband face the truth not only about what he is doing but about the destruction to your relationship and to you. Men involved with voyeurism often have other obsessive sexual behaviors, some of which are currently hidden from you. They are called paraphilias. Many men with paraphilias are married. Men can go into behavioral therapy and the needed couples therapy. The marriages can be saved if you still love him underneath the helplessness, anger and discomfort that you currently feel.

Men with paraphilias don't change without professional help. The journey is long and is filled with speedbumps. Stay or leave? It depends on your strength, devotion, tolerance when he takes a step backwards, and your sense of self-worth.

Without professional help, you will feel rejected, lose your sexual confidence, and believe that you are not worthy of him. He will find excuses to behave the way he does and the excuse will be something negative about you. It can be devastating. This can happen slowly or very quickly, but he will add on to his current behaviors.
It certainly can kill love and all sexual desire for him. You have to separate loving the idea of marriage from how much you like being in this kind of marriage. If you dont respect him anymore, if you are feeling pressured, if your own feelings aren't important to him and he won't get help, leave. It won't change or get better if it's an obsession. It will take you a long time to rebuild if you don't get out now or get professional support.

I hope you have no children, especially female children. My best to you.
OMG

Foxboro, Canada

#170 Mar 26, 2016
kinky guy wrote:
my girlfriend wants me to see her change her kotex pad! and i give her oral sex durng her period!
Sounds like your name is Justin.
Catoe

Norfolk, VA

#171 Mar 22, 2017
Dear Mr Abby of Onion wrote:
Your husband is a normal, red blooded Man. But, you need to get counseling. It is important for you to address your issues of reluctance. You should be taking part in threesomes and swinging.

The fact that you are not encouraging him to continue online porn viewing and meeting other sex partners indicates a level of abusiveness on your part.

I suggest starting with self-help exposure therapy: both of you can go to adult bookstores starting at 10 minutes in the store and increase your exposure to spending the entire weekend there. Then do the same in swinging/sex clubs.

Your marriage will be cured in no time.
This makes most sense, in my eyes XD
Suze

Charleston, SC

#172 Aug 15, 2017
I've known my husband for 10 years. He is 65, and still looking at porn. He claims he needs to release more often than once or twice a week (with me), and he thinks I should understand. But my gut feeling is he is so desensitized after all these years of his exposure, that I am very fearful of what he may be turning to look at now! If I try to tell him that this hurts us both, he will get upset with me and probably accuse me of being insecure. He is constantly groping me to the point of angry annoyance. He even bothers me when I am stretching. I'm feeling trapped, because I can't leave him. I don't know what to do anymore. Otherwise, he is a great husband.

Since: Aug 17

Orange, CA

#173 Aug 20, 2017
Leave him, he is not worth having you

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