Why can't I find anyone to date?

Why can't I find anyone to date?

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Since: Jul 08

AOL

#1 Jul 16, 2008
Why does it seem like I can never find anyone to go out with me? It seems like no one around where I live has any of the same interests as me. I've tried numorous dating sites with not a whole lot of luck. It always seems like the guys who go to bars and drink and everything get all the girls. But the thing is, I don't smoke, I don't drink at all (even though I'm 30), I don't do stuff like gambling, so I tend to strike out everytime. I'm not saying I want to hurry up and get married or anything like that, I just hate being the one who has nobody to do anything with. What really gets to me is if I go out with my mom, dad, sister, and her husband, I'm the lonely single guy in the group and it sometimes feels awkward.

Another thing that always gets to me is my sister and her husband both have very good jobs. So whenever somebody brings up the subject of "how's work going?", they start going on about how one of them got this promotion or whatever, or got whatever raise or bonus. One time this happened and I almost had to go into another room to cry. I figure my job, while I my be a lowly factory worker, it pays me enough money to pay my bills so "so what?"

I think the other part of the dating problem is the fact that if I want to go do something on the weekend, I have to check with my mom and dad and sometimes other family members to see if there is anything at all that they need help with or need me to do for them. What I want to do has to take a back seat to everyone else's problems. Most of the time I go to work during the week, do stuff around the house here all weekend and then back to work Monday. That's my life, week in and week out.

I sometimes get a little depressed over it all. It's pretty bad when I'm 30 years old, and have never even had the opportunity to have my first kiss yet.(funny, isn't it) So I guess you can probably figure out I've never done anything else with a woman either. Anyone have and thoughts or insight?
you sound like me

Philadelphia, PA

#2 Jul 29, 2008
WITH THE JOB SITUATION HOW ABOUT GOING BACK TO COLLEGE. TAKE ONLINE CLASSES SO YOU WORK TOWARDS A REWARDING CAREER INSTEAD OF JUST A FACTORY WORKER.
AS A FACTORY WORKER YOU REALLY DONT LOOK SO GREAT DRESS WISE. SO PEOPLE ARE NOT REALLY DRAWN TO YOU. SO WHEN YOU GO OUT YOU HAVE TO WOW PEOPLE. PEOPLE DONT LIKE FRUMPY YUCKY LOOKING PEOPLE AROUND THEM. THEY WANT ATTRACTIVE LOOKING PEOPLE AROUND THEM. SO TRY TO LOOK ATTRACTIVE LOOKING.
ITS NOTHING WRONG WITH HELPING YOUR FAMILY. BUT ALWAYS SET YOU TIME FOR YOURSELF.
DO YOU HAVE ANY GOOD FRIENDS TO HANG OUT WITH?
MAYBE YOU SHOULD JOIN A CHURCH. BECAUSE YOU LIFESTYLE REALLY RESEMBLE A CHRISTIAN LIFESTYLE. YOU DONT DRINK, SMOKE, OR GAMBLE. SO YOU WILL PROBABLY BE A GREAT CATCH FOR A GOOD CHRISTIAN YOUNG LADY.
I WOULD LIKE TO EXCHANGE EMAIL ADDRESSES BC I FEEL WE ARE GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING. SO MAYBE WE CAN HELP EACH OTHER OUT. WRITE ME BACK.
andet1987

United States

#3 Jul 30, 2008
have you tried going to a forest preserve ? ha ha ha
R U KIDDING ME

United States

#4 Jul 30, 2008
How about quit being a moron for starters! Quit picking your nose, wipe you a** and take a shower sometime. That's a start!
GLOBAL IDIOTS

Cherry Valley, MA

#5 Jul 30, 2008
Don't be a cheap!

Let me look up my secret notes "Law of Acquisition!" TAKE AND TAKE AND TAKE! Now that's what call being materially rich !

BWAHHAAAAAAAAA
andet1987

United States

#6 Jul 30, 2008
sometimes i see a huge truck parked in a forest preserve. the driver relaxes and enjoy the beauty of nature. later on, a gay guy would join him in enjoying the beauty of nature.
R U KIDDING ME

United States

#7 Jul 30, 2008
I forgot, move out of mom and dad's basement too. Mom and dad as roommates at 30 don't work out for women too well. Hope this helps.
GLOBAL IDIOTS

Cherry Valley, MA

#8 Jul 30, 2008
Secret notes of 'DAting laws of Acquisition'

Be call girl, a hooker, a ho... you get all mens you want and even gays!

If male be a pimp, a Romeo ... you acquire all type females and even gays!

WARNING! STD! MAke sure you have many condoms, be safe!


BWHAHAHHAAAAAAAAA
GLOBAL IDIOTS

Cherry Valley, MA

#9 Jul 30, 2008
andet1987 wrote:
sometimes i see a huge truck parked in a forest preserve. the driver relaxes and enjoy the beauty of nature. later on, a gay guy would join him in enjoying the beauty of nature.
Maybe you find some
red hicks running around the neck of the woody wild wonders! Get it?

BWBAHAHAAAAAAA
GLOBAL IDIOTS

Cherry Valley, MA

#10 Jul 30, 2008
If you want my secret notes on "Dating Laws of Acquisition" it cost you big time! And, I do cosultation at price, it will cost you...
BWAHHAHAAAAA

Wheres are those honey-dew melons, refrigerator empty! Gota shop!
R U KIDDING ME

United States

#11 Jul 30, 2008
One more thing! Quit dating your mom, dad, sister and brother in-law. Going out with them isn't going to ease the pain of the lonely solitude you've found yourself in.
Set aside one night for yourself. Call it pizza and porn night. You will have many girls to chose from and best of all they don't talk, stay or ask for anything from ya..Here's to you rubbing one off my friend with your new life.
Mamokutu

Johannesburg, South Africa

#12 Jul 30, 2008
are u rich ntate hobane if u not sorry you cant helped
Derek

Dover, NH

#13 Mar 16, 2011
So just ignore everyone on here because they are either A. shallow or B. an asshole or C. all of the above.

I would suggest thinking about your self esteem not in terms of what society tells you (having money, a girlfriend, etc) and more on the kind of person you are. Are you a kind, compassionate person? If you are then celebrate that! Hold your head high. You deserve a compassionate woman and I would suggest, if you do have time, to do volunteer work. You might meet someone that way. Also, I would suggest you work on being more brave in just talking to strangers out in public. Just start with "hi, I'm so and so" or a comment on the news or the weather or what is going on around you. Then at the end, if you are interested in her, ask her for her number.

If you are busy and have other obligations, you have to work it into your life to be more outgoing.

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