plus, there are 'glass ceilings' in life for many gals. their own families will NOT consider them full adults until they pass the 4th one. as well as some folks in society will do as well.<quoted text>
Agreed. I'll add another reason; that too many women are still being PRESSURED to have children by family, religious community, or both, and these girls/women purposely are NOT told exactly how HARD motherhood is until AFTER a baby arrives, when it is too late to decide not to have children.
I think girls/women who aren't pregnant yet need to know the hard facts about motherhood NOW, long before a pregnancy happens. If some women decide NOT to have children after learning more facts about it, that's fine too. Not every woman is suited to be a mother, and the choice to be childfree is just valid and responsible as the decision to be a mother. A woman can't abuse what she doesn't have.
1st one menses
2nd one dating
3rd one marriage
4th one pregnancy then motherhood
5th one grandmother
many women set upon themselves the 5th one. meaning they have just pressured their offspring to do the first three to four, depending on the offspring's gender. and the cycle continues thru each generation.
I've personally seen it happen. plus, while at a job once. some female bible thumper asked me if I was a mom, I said "no". she then asked me if I was married.same response. I was then asked "what is wrong with you?" I was only 22 at the time.
as well as the attempt to feel guilty by my dad, brother, sister in law shortly after me getting rid of my first husband to the Feds. they were getting down on me for not providing my brother with a blood niece or nephew. that I was being selfish in being childless.
http://thebritgirl.com/2006/11/19/childfree-w... If youíre from a patrilineal family (Western Christian tradition generally) where the family name is passed on through the son, then the pressure will be on the son to have children. The pressure on women to have children is always there, regardless.
http://www.conceiveonline.com/articles/pressu... For some families, itís a matter of culture:ďThere are cultural backgrounds where itís assumed that parents have a right to continue to influence their childrenís families as much as they want,Ē says Deborah Tannen, professor of linguistics at Georgetown University and author of the forthcoming You Were Always Momís Favorite: Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives (Random House, 2009). Parents may also view a lack of grandchildren as a sign of failure or rejection, Tannen says.
http://www.samefacts.com/2012/05/personal-mom... When kids grow up, their parents often start pressuring them to get married (or de-facto married or whatever equivalent is on offer) and have kids. Those who donít pressure, almost always hint. If the adult children donít feel like marrying, their parents are willing to give ground. The son- or daughter-in-law is optional. The grandkids arenít.