RA's post wasn't civil. If he left off the last two sentences calling me a liar it would have been. But then RA wouldn't have posted it at all. LOL<quoted text>Wile it may not be the case in some situations, my own experience from what I have gone thru, seen, and simply feel is that people most often can break from a cycle when new people enter their lives and their learning process is so impacted by the person that otherwise might be the reason they repeated the cycle themselves
For instance, if you dad and uncles were the only authority figures in your life or people you would receive instruction and guidance from, I would think it much less likely your personal morals would develop independently to the point that you would outright reject such a learned pattern of behavior. Normally someone needs someone else in their life to reinforce that they are nut crazy or mistaken for thinking such behavior is wrong. They need someone else that is setting an example they want to follow to see there is a much better way. And someone else bring love and confidence to someone who has been subjected to things helps that person to be their own man
And some people may not need anybody else. Maybe it is as simple as they knew they didn't like it and their own natural sense of morals tells them the basic common sense understanding that if you didn't like it, why would you then do it to someone you loved knowing they wouldn't like it
If you don't mind me prying as I am interested from a sociological aspect as well as personal just from knowing you, what helped you break the cycle? Were their other people in your life that helped you in your opinion to reject these lessons taught from childhood? Or did you do it on your own?
I think we can do it on our own. But I also think its possible to just think we did because if not for having people instill basic morality, we might never think to question it. Even if someone didn't like it, they might think it is just part of life and how things are to be done. Anyway, just curious if you had to really narrow it down, what helped you break the pattern?
I was ready to thank him for an informational post until I got to the knife at the end of his post.
I am beginning to think I am his only reason for coming here. Now THAT is sad.