Ok, that was random. You should know by now that I'm apathetic towards gay marriage or any marriage. I really don't care what they do, so why you call that "my" open-mindedness I have no idea.
That's fine. All I'm saying is that they shouldn't want to build a mosque 2 blocks from Ground Zero, that's thoughtless to the victim's families. Not that all Muslims are bad people, but you know as well as I do that most people will see the Muslims and be reminded of terrorism.
And when it comes down to it, who cares what the reason if it is hard on the victims?
I hold myself to the same standard
Example: A good friend of mine who I went to school with, lived with on and off, went to NA/AA retreats with, whose father was my sponsor, etc died of an OD a few years back.
He and I were considered two peas in a pod. Most people considered us very bright with good senses of humor but also too smart for our own good at times, stubborn, and self-destructive. People really liked us but it made them heart-sick to see all the potential go to waste. We always hung out together and seeing one was pretty much a reminder of the other even for casual acquaintances. Much more so for his parent whom I used to visit even when he wasn't there and that knew me very well.
So when he died, I stopped going to a particular NA meeting that I love because his father goes there. His father had just lost his wife to cancer a month before my friend ODed. I asked my brother if I should try to talk to his dad and he said he thought it would be way too hard on him as the dad could barely look at my brother who is a reminder of me who is a reminder of his son. So seeing me personally would be very hard on him. Especially since I loved the meeting because of the cool people and girls I hung out with there and we would all laugh and go out together after, etc. I knew him seeing me laughing and just living life would be very hard as how could it not just jam a reminder in his face that I lived and his son didn't?
So I stopped going to that meeting. It wasn't my fault his son died. I stopped hanging with him or using years prior and only saw him if he showed up at a meeting. I had every right to be there if i wanted. But there are meetings all over town. Who cares if that was my favorite place? I knew my being there would be very hard on his dad so I didn't go.
It's what someone with empathy does. They don't demand to build a reminder right where in the area where 3,000 people were murdered and then to top it off say the people that murdered them aren't as bad as our own country. The victims or their families never asked to be embroiled in some political war. It isn't on them to have to defend the government or debate politics with some Muslim activist that seems intent on making a point. All they want to do is visit the site where they lost loved ones in peace. Everybody should leave them the heck alone if their presence would bother them. But especially people celebrating the very reason being used to killed them. Its just common sense and common decency