Certainly the church is to blame, but in my opinion, so is the individual that accedes to that training.
As the Christians are quick to point out, we are not robots. We are free to choose, and we should be held accountable for our choices. As it is with the matter of respect, I don't see why I would give them more than they offer.
I understand that as well.I don't totally disagree with you but I understand it is difficult to break with the things one has been indoctrinated into since birth.
Still, I have to hold the Christians to the same standards that they hold the rest of us: we are not robots. We make choices, and we are at least in part responsible for those choices.