do you think my husband is bi-sexual ??

do you think my husband is bi-sexual ??

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Amy D

Farmington, MO

#1 Nov 16, 2010
I have been marriend for the past 33 years and I have heard from several years that my husband might be bi-sexual. We have 3 children together and we still have sex all the time, but I recently found a stash of gay movies and a "toy" in this closet. I've asked him about it and he said he found them in my daughters bedroom. It just got me thinking IF he found them why didn't he get rid of it? He has several "GAY" male friends also that he talks to on a daily basis. How do I confront my husband without him getting mad and fileing for divorce? He has also asked me one time while we were in bed if he could explore other parts of my body. I'm a 48 year old woman and nothing goes in that spot that don't belong there. Am I over reacting about all of this?
been there

Saint Louis, MO

#2 Nov 16, 2010
I was married for 10 years ...after 4 he tells me about a gay encounter he had at 15..then for the next 6 tried to push me into threesomes with him and other men...needless to say we are divorced. I later found out that he has been having these encounters for years..Im telling you , your prob right ..hope he has n ot brought home a disease for you.
Amy D

Farmington, MO

#3 Nov 16, 2010
Thank you (Been There) for your input. I just don't know how to go about asking him. You know when we first got together everyone always told me that they thought he might have alittle "sugar" in his tank. I guess I never seen it, just cause he didn't hunt or work on cars any of that kind of man stuff didn't mean he was gay. But I guess the longer we've been together he just stopped caring if I found out. I looked around some more today and I found other stuff. This makes me ill! I know topix isn't for all this, but I needed some advice on how to handle this. I just don't understand why after all these years am I just seeing this. How can he keep this in the closet for so long? But then I might be over reacting cause he is so against gay people.
been there

Saint Louis, MO

#4 Nov 16, 2010
I know what you mean. I thought the same thing as well, why didnt I see it before. We have been divorced for years now and I still find out things. He was planning meetings with other men online, and had joined these swingsites online stating he was bisexual..you may check and see if he has any "weird emails". If you dont snoop you wont find out unless you just ask him if he has had a bisexual encounter or if he would. He may lie to you if he thinks he knows YOU well enough to know how you would feel. If your finding these things..my guess is your right on. It happens more than you know. It isnt fair to the spouses who are straight and committed to the marriage.
StlGuy

Minneapolis, MN

#5 Nov 16, 2010
Looks like your husband is probably not bi but gay. I fought the lifestyle for years, living with a woman, that I think the world of still and we had sex often. I thought I was doing the right thing for my parents. Finally I woke up and stopped stringing the poor lady that I was totally ruining things for along. I don't think your husband may be doing this to you, but if he is so "against" gay people, it is usually those that are truly gay. Did you not watch Glee this past week? If not, check that episode out, it may answer a question or too for you.
mEAT me in st louie

Saint Louis, MO

#6 Nov 16, 2010
Just because he gets alittle FREAKY... hey ...it's not a perfect world...

If you love him and he loves you ...and you can come to some understanding.
we'll some people just go on with their lives...and there are women I can tell you this...that don't have a problem with that...as long as there is honesty...( I wouldn't go for the treesome thing anyway,that was big in the 80's)...we're all alot older now...so I wouldn't just throw the baby out with the bath!!!!

There are all kinds of situations out there...and not all of them have that much to do with love...just look at your neighbors...so take a breath and sit back and see what happens.

Funny thing about life and relationships is that EVERYTHING will change...and you hope that you can accept and handle the changes as they come along.

It might be a life changing moment if some night...you both watch some gay porn together...who knows???? You just might like it too!!!!

Life ain't perfect
DEAL WITH IT!
Blanc

Saint Louis, MO

#7 Nov 16, 2010
As Andrew Dice Clay said:
"Either you suck d%$k or don't suck d&%k".
He's a homo.
aHHa

Ballwin, MO

#9 Nov 16, 2010
fckn qu ee r alright!
mEAT me in st louie

Saint Louis, MO

#10 Nov 16, 2010
aHHa wrote:
fckn qu ee r alright!
Funny you're calling someone "fckn qu ee r" especially since you've got your head so far up your ass you can chew your food twice.
Been there

Saint Louis, MO

#11 Nov 17, 2010
mEAT me in st louie wrote:
Just because he gets alittle FREAKY... hey ...it's not a perfect world...
If you love him and he loves you ...and you can come to some understanding.
we'll some people just go on with their lives...and there are women I can tell you this...that don't have a problem with that...as long as there is honesty...( I wouldn't go for the treesome thing anyway,that was big in the 80's)...we're all alot older now...so I wouldn't just throw the baby out with the bath!!!!
There are all kinds of situations out there...and not all of them have that much to do with love...just look at your neighbors...so take a breath and sit back and see what happens.
Funny thing about life and relationships is that EVERYTHING will change...and you hope that you can accept and handle the changes as they come along.
It might be a life changing moment if some night...you both watch some gay porn together...who knows???? You just might like it too!!!!
Life ain't perfect
DEAL WITH IT!
Ok, marriage isnt about "I want other people" so learn to find a way to deal with it. If this is what you think you seriously need to learn what the word Marriage means. Its thinking like this that causes marriages to run a muck and loose all respect for each other. What if this man all of sudden started to hit her, you gonna tell her to deal with that too becuase its a change? Cheating is cheating plain and simple , if one chooses to forgive and work on thier marriage without any further cheating thats one thing, but to say watch gay porn together and deal with it is sick and wrong and you need to grow some morals and a backbone. Deal with that.
Rick James

Irving, TX

#12 Nov 17, 2010
mEAT me in st louie wrote:
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Funny you're calling someone "fckn qu ee r" especially since you've got your head so far up your ass you can chew your food twice.
I'm Rick James Bytch! The best lookin mfer around! That's why I only wish I had another sets of hands to give your wife's tittties four thumbs down!
Put Up or Shut Up

Saint Louis, MO

#13 Nov 18, 2010
Been there wrote:
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Ok, marriage isnt about "I want other people" so learn to find a way to deal with it. If this is what you think you seriously need to learn what the word Marriage means. Its thinking like this that causes marriages to run a muck and loose all respect for each other. What if this man all of sudden started to hit her, you gonna tell her to deal with that too becuase its a change? Cheating is cheating plain and simple , if one chooses to forgive and work on thier marriage without any further cheating thats one thing, but to say watch gay porn together and deal with it is sick and wrong and you need to grow some morals and a backbone. Deal with that.
Who said ANYTHNG about cheating????

What's wrong with you?

You need to get a grip...and where did this hitting shit come from...you've got your own issues and they have nothing to with what she is having to face.!

You need to start your own thread, or go on Jerry Springer!
Elvis in a UFO

Saint Louis, MO

#15 Nov 18, 2010
You know...while that might not be the best thing that could happen...it might not be the worse...and if you stay committed to each other...well who's to say what is right and worng.

Nothing is perfect...and look at what happened to Been there...a bitter, harden, screwed up, unhappy, miserable loser...who still can't move on.

Sometimes our battles are not with our partners...but with ourselves...but true love does conquer all...and isn't life more about finding ways to accomodate...but that's only if you love them...and grow bigger...and hopefully wiser...

life is messy...sorry but the messier, the fuller the life that you've lived, don't have regrets and bitterness like Been three.

So if he's not exactly perfect...are you?
what do you have in your life you don't want anyone to know...if you want him to come clean...how about you?
AhHa

Irving, TX

#16 Nov 18, 2010
Elvis in a UFO wrote:
You know...while that might not be the best thing that could happen...it might not be the worse...and if you stay committed to each other...well who's to say what is right and worng.
Nothing is perfect...and look at what happened to Been there...a bitter, harden, screwed up, unhappy, miserable loser...who still can't move on.
Sometimes our battles are not with our partners...but with ourselves...but true love does conquer all...and isn't life more about finding ways to accomodate...but that's only if you love them...and grow bigger...and hopefully wiser...
life is messy...sorry but the messier, the fuller the life that you've lived, don't have regrets and bitterness like Been three.
So if he's not exactly perfect...are you?
what do you have in your life you don't want anyone to know...if you want him to come clean...how about you?
You and your mom have been reported!
AhHa

Saint Louis, MO

#17 Nov 18, 2010
AhHa wrote:
<quoted text>You and your mom have been reported!
Any similarity between you and a human is purely coincidental!
AhHa

Saint Louis, MO

#18 Nov 18, 2010
Rick James wrote:
<quoted text> I'm Rick James Bytch! The best lookin mfer around! That's why I only wish I had another sets of hands to give your wife's tittties four thumbs down!
After reading your posts, I've decided I am in favor of abortion in cases of incest.
AhhA

United States

#20 Nov 18, 2010
AhHa wrote:
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After reading your posts, I've decided I am in favor of abortion in cases of incest.
i GUESS IT'S TRUE GAY guys really do stick together....Chineese riddle for ya LOSER! From the ReaL AhhA!
AhhA

Saint Louis, MO

#21 Nov 18, 2010
AhhA wrote:
<quoted text> i GUESS IT'S TRUE I'm GAY ....Chineese riddle for ya LOSER! From the ReaL AhhA!
I've come across decomposed bodies that are less offensive than you are.
Mr Obvious

Irving, TX

#22 Nov 19, 2010
The imposter really needs new material, He's stinkin up the joint.
Mr Obvious

Saint Louis, MO

#23 Nov 19, 2010
Mr Obvious wrote:
I really need new material, I'm stinkin up the joint.
They say space is a dangerous place ... especially if it's between your ears!

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