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Since: Mar 09

United States

#1 May 23, 2009
I can't stand my daughter's boyfriend..he is a looooser I can't make her see that he is just using her. What do you kids think? and what about you other parents??

Since: Apr 09

Germantown, KY

#2 May 23, 2009
the more u put him down the more she will want 2 be with him. been there.
coffee break

United States

#3 May 23, 2009
lostnky is right, the more you try to turn her aganist him the more she will want him. That's just the way it works. Is there anyway you can find something you like about him? If you can, focus on that. If he is not abusing her physically or on drugs, you may have to stand back and let her find out for herself what type of guy he really is. Be there for your daughter when she does find out, cause she will need you
true

Paris, KY

#4 May 24, 2009
lostnky and coffeebreak are tellin the truth the best thing to do is to sit back and let her find out her own mistake out about the guy and hope that she will do better next time!
Ben Stone

United States

#5 May 24, 2009
If you don't want them togather then just screw him and let her catch you doing it and she will leave him problem solved.

“Happy being me”

Since: May 09

Mount Sterling, KY

#6 May 25, 2009
I had a problem like that with my daughter. They are right to tell you to not make any waves with this "worthless" guy.
When I shut up about my daughters boyfriend, within a few weeks it was over, But NEVER NEVER tell her "I told you so"
what to do

London, KY

#7 May 25, 2009
Im going through the same thing with my daughter. he is so possessive of her. He wants her to smile all the time when she is with him. he gets mad if she don't say bye sweetie hun or baby when they are on the phone. he talked her into getting rid of her cell phone and letting him add her a new phone to his cell plan. and i know it was so he could keep tabs on her. he calls HER voice mail to see if anyone he dont want her talking to has called. he absolutely hates it because she and I are extremely close. we always have been. they were engaged and he asked for his ring back. that lasted about a month, now they are back together and i know he will make her life a living hell. i love my daughter with all my heart but why cant she see him for what he is. it scares me to death that they will get married and he will alienate her from her family. some things she has told me of how he has treated her has made me want to beat his ass and i would but it would only drive a wedge between me and her and I love her to much to chance that. he dont physically abuse her but he does emotionally and thats just as bad. he is so jealous that he HATES her best friend for fixing her up with her LAST boyfriend. im at my wits end worrying about her.
love master

Barnesville, OH

#8 May 25, 2009
How old is your daughter. I went through the same thing with one of my daughters. Remember that when they start living like an adult it's time to treat them like one. Pay rent, buy their own clothes,Phone,gas,car ECT. If the guy is a dead beat she will soon relize that when the money runs out.
what to do

London, KY

#9 May 25, 2009
He has an excellent job. My daughter works also and has a well paying job. Maybe I've sheltered her to much. She's never given me a days worry (until HE came along). She goes to church on a regular basis and lives her life accordingly. I know he was raised in a church going family and his parents are good people. Hes an only child and is used to getting whatever he wanted. He wants my daughter and he'll stop at nothing short of her telling him its over between them once and for all. but I dont see her doing that. For now all I can do is be here for her and keep how I feel about him to myself. Ive never talked bad about him to her but she does know for a fact that if he ever hits her I'll walk the embers of hell to find him and I may end up being a greasy spot on the wall but he'll damn sure know hes been in a fight.
coffee break

United States

#10 May 25, 2009
"what to do" sounds like your up aganist some tough decisions. First of all emotional abuse alot of the times can cause more harm. The boyfriend will build a wall between you and your dauthger if you let him. Right now she is confiding in you about some of the things he has done to her. Keep the communication open between the two of you.
You will have to choose your words carefully around him, don't give him any reason to come down on her because of something you said to him.
Fight fire with fire, even if it means biting your tongue, do it. Sometimes by just listening and watching you can learn alot, from people. Pick your battles with your daughter carefully if she is still living at home, make sure its worth fighting over. Watch for signs of abuse from your daughter, emotional and physical. You know if you are really afraid for her, hire someone to check him out.
what to do

London, KY

#11 May 25, 2009
I love my daughter so much it scares me to death to think she may break our bond because of him. she has always come to me with her problems when she needed advice. now he thinks he should be the only one she confides in. she is such a sweet/timid soul and i know he uses that to his advantage. he makes her to feel that everytime they get into a quarrel its her fsult "if she would only follow his directions" they wouldn't be argueing...he keeps her so confused she dont know how to think straight.

“Happy being me”

Since: May 09

Mount Sterling, KY

#12 May 25, 2009
what to do wrote:
Im going through the same thing with my daughter. he is so possessive of her. He wants her to smile all the time when she is with him. he gets mad if she don't say bye sweetie hun or baby when they are on the phone. he talked her into getting rid of her cell phone and letting him add her a new phone to his cell plan. and i know it was so he could keep tabs on her. he calls HER voice mail to see if anyone he dont want her talking to has called. he absolutely hates it because she and I are extremely close. we always have been. they were engaged and he asked for his ring back. that lasted about a month, now they are back together and i know he will make her life a living hell. i love my daughter with all my heart but why cant she see him for what he is. it scares me to death that they will get married and he will alienate her from her family. some things she has told me of how he has treated her has made me want to beat his ass and i would but it would only drive a wedge between me and her and I love her to much to chance that. he dont physically abuse her but he does emotionally and thats just as bad. he is so jealous that he HATES her best friend for fixing her up with her LAST boyfriend. im at my wits end worrying about her.
my daughter was about 19 at the time. She did marry the guy and it lasted all of 5 1/2 months. He did try to put a wedge between us, her brother and me. He was very hateful to me. pretened to like her brother, when the three of us planned to spend time together he always caused her to miss the day. This was a very hard time for me.
All I can say is that your love and standing by her will give her the courage to do the right thing, but sometimes it takes time for them (the daughters)to realize what is going on.
I know this is very hard to go through, but all we can do is love them and be there for them.
justame

Tarpon Springs, FL

#13 May 25, 2009
don't worry. he hates you too !
what to do

London, KY

#14 May 25, 2009
A broken heart doesnt even come close to the hurt of seeing your daughter get taken advantage of and knowing there is nothing you can do until she removes her rose colored glasses she sees him through. I would want and expect her to confide in the man she loves. this isn't love tho.

“Happy being me”

Since: May 09

Mount Sterling, KY

#15 May 25, 2009
I understand the feelings you are going through. And I agree, this isn't love.
One thing I did was that I started acting like I liked him and then it seemed to me like the thrill of upsetting me was gone. She, my daughter, has said when I changed my opinon of him her opinon changed too.
I do wish you the best, and if I can be of any help I will do what I can.
sometimes, for someone to listen to you helps.
adam

Bethpage, TN

#16 May 25, 2009
i need a good girl! anyone out there?
what to do

London, KY

#17 May 25, 2009
justame wrote:
don't worry. he hates you too !
yea, I can see him hating anyone who he deems a threat of coming between him and her.
BEEN THERE

United States

#18 May 25, 2009
PLEASE IF YOU HAVE A MYSPACE I CAN ADD YOU I WILL TALK TO YOU AND I WILL TELL YOU SOME STUFF CAUSE OF WHAT I HAVE BEEN INTO WITH MY EX.
what to do wrote:
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yea, I can see him hating anyone who he deems a threat of coming between him and her.
redneck

Liberty, KY

#19 May 25, 2009
what to do wrote:
Im going through the same thing with my daughter. he is so possessive of her. He wants her to smile all the time when she is with him. he gets mad if she don't say bye sweetie hun or baby when they are on the phone. he talked her into getting rid of her cell phone and letting him add her a new phone to his cell plan. and i know it was so he could keep tabs on her. he calls HER voice mail to see if anyone he dont want her talking to has called. he absolutely hates it because she and I are extremely close. we always have been. they were engaged and he asked for his ring back. that lasted about a month, now they are back together and i know he will make her life a living hell. i love my daughter with all my heart but why cant she see him for what he is. it scares me to death that they will get married and he will alienate her from her family. some things she has told me of how he has treated her has made me want to beat his ass and i would but it would only drive a wedge between me and her and I love her to much to chance that. he dont physically abuse her but he does emotionally and thats just as bad. he is so jealous that he HATES her best friend for fixing her up with her LAST boyfriend. im at my wits end worrying about her.
you can fu!ckoff rick il teel her you rought this
Curious

Barbourville, KY

#20 May 26, 2009
what to do wrote:
Im going through the same thing with my daughter. he is so possessive of her. He wants her to smile all the time when she is with him. he gets mad if she don't say bye sweetie hun or baby when they are on the phone. he talked her into getting rid of her cell phone and letting him add her a new phone to his cell plan. and i know it was so he could keep tabs on her. he calls HER voice mail to see if anyone he dont want her talking to has called. he absolutely hates it because she and I are extremely close. we always have been. they were engaged and he asked for his ring back. that lasted about a month, now they are back together and i know he will make her life a living hell. i love my daughter with all my heart but why cant she see him for what he is. it scares me to death that they will get married and he will alienate her from her family. some things she has told me of how he has treated her has made me want to beat his ass and i would but it would only drive a wedge between me and her and I love her to much to chance that. he dont physically abuse her but he does emotionally and thats just as bad. he is so jealous that he HATES her best friend for fixing her up with her LAST boyfriend. im at my wits end worrying about her.
Sounds like she is dating Jeremy gregory..he is phycho ovr any girl he dates

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