SNC

Wilmette, IL

#1324 Aug 29, 2012
Totally Confused Parent wrote:
My son is 11 yrs old. He needs to be in a residential treatment facility. He is currently in a psych ward... again. DCFS told me that the ONLY way I can get my child the help he needs is to sign him over to the state (commonly called a "lock-out"). If I do that, they can charge me with neglect, abuse, child endangerment, or child abandonment! Are you serious?!?! They will interrogate me and my son, and separate us for 3-4 months with absolutely NO CONTACT! My son has been through enough. They just want to hurt him more, instead of helping him... Anybody have any advice on how to get him help with out getting the state involved?
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XYZ

Westmont, IL

#1325 Aug 30, 2012
Absolutely do not believe DCFS... There is tons of help out there and DCFS is not one of them!!!
desire turpin

Brooklyn, NY

#1326 Sep 7, 2012
Help me and my daughter (7yrs. old) and her grandmother fight lies told from one only one of our neighbors, who dcfs believes, without not even one question to us!!! HELP!

Since: Sep 10

Location hidden

#1327 Sep 8, 2012
desire turpin wrote:
Help me and my daughter (7yrs. old) and her grandmother fight lies told from one only one of our neighbors, who dcfs believes, without not even one question to us!!! HELP!
Do not sign any service plan with CPS you will, in effect, sign away your rights and admit guilt by signing. Contact CPSWatch for the best advice you will find anywhere. They know how to help because they've been there. Also, record everything they say and do.
frustrated sum1 help

United States

#1328 Sep 12, 2012
We have been going threw the hell of theses people for over two years. My middle stepdaughter was beating bad enough that the guy who did it has 6 counts of child abuse against him. However lssi dcfs felt that because his lawery kept calling them about the man getting visits they gave him longer visits than us and hed get special visits too even when his daughter didn't want to go. The judge even said no unsupervised visits. Well guess what not only did he beat a child two years later and a week ago he dexually asualted his own daughter on a visit that wasn't supervised. Lssi and dcfs took 3 days to contact us when they said they'd b there in 24 hours and that was after they told us to not do nothing till they spoke w us. My wife didn't take the beating child to hospital fast enough so they took her kids and they just told her to do nothing when 4 yearold get sexually asualted. They are keeping our oldest childs chilsupport money saying its paying for serveses don't think they provided that much servises to total 4 to 8 thousand dollars. O yeah they wernt happy when we went to the cops are selves. Much more to say so know anyone to help leave message here plz plz.
PAMELA

South Bend, IN

#1329 Sep 25, 2012
MY CHILDREN WERE TAKEN ON 8/24/2012 WHEN MY EX AND I WERE IN COURT YET AGAIN BECAUSE HE CONTINUES TO FILE PETTY AND CHILDISH ISSUES WITH THE COURT. HE AN II WERE BOTH HELD N CONTEMPT AND HELD FOR A FEW DAYS IN JAIL. MY 22 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND YOUNGEST SON WERE IN THE COURT HOUSE, SHE COULD HAVE TAKEN MY SON AND PICKED UP MY DAUGHTER AT SCHOOL AND KEPT THEM UNTIL HE AND I GOT OUT BUT THE COURT SENT THE KIDS TO FOSTER CARE. NOW THEY ARE KEEPING MY KIDS BECAUSE THEIR DAD AND I DO NOT GET ALONG.. I HAVE BEEN FORCED DUE TO FINANCES TO MOVE A FEW TIMES AND THE KIDS HAVE BEEN IN 5 DIFFERENT SCHOOLS IN THE LAST 6 YEARS BUT ALL WITHIN THE SAME SCHOOL SYSTEM. SOME BECAUSE I MOVED, SOME BECAUSE THEY MOVED FROM 5TH TO 6TH GRADE AND TWICE BECAUSE THE KIDS HATED THE SCHOOLS. IT IS SO SCARY HOW THE I CAN CALL AND REPORT THAT MY GRAND-CHILDREN ARE BEING EXPOSED TO DRUGS AND I AM TOLD THERE IS NOTHING THE DCFS CAN DO. BUT I MAKE DECISIONS FOR MY KIDS AS A PARENT THAT IS NOT HARMING THEM AND THAT THEY ARE INCLUDED IN WITH THE DECISION AND THEY TAKE MY KIDS, RIP THEM FROM EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE THEY KNOW AND MOVE THEM MORE THAN AN HOUR AWAY! i HAVE NEVER BEEN AWAY FROM MY CHILDREN LIKE THIS AND I AM FALLING APART! I CAN NOT AFFORD AN ATTORNEY.. AND HAVE NO ONE IN MY CORNER THIS IS NUTS!
Loving grandmother

Morrison, IL

#1330 Oct 24, 2012
My grandchildren were removed from my daughter and her husband's home and placed in protective custody. The investigation came back unfounded 5 months ago. They refuse to return my grandchildren to their parents. Today their caseworker said they are recommending terminating their parental rights because they have been in the system too long. They have completed every aspect of the service plan! They are going to court and recommending termination of their parental rights. I don't understand why or how my daughter can lose her children for something she didn't do! Illinois DCFS and Youth Services Bureau are corrupt!!!
Rose Van

United States

#1331 Oct 28, 2012
I totally agree Dcfs tears families apart and not try to put families back together I have be working on myservice plan in addition to going back and fourth to hospital and doctors due to a auto accident. I've had since my children have been in care and being beat up by the kids dad that keeps breaking the Order of PROTECTION I'm divoroved from the kids dad and I've had NO DCFS charges from the very begin when the case was opened from me calling the Police beating on my oldest son and I had just had back surgery a couple of months prior to them rermoving them from my home in January 2009 they have been on a return home except for my oldest daughter which know says that she is gonna age out of the program while this whole time they have been in Foster care they could of been out in California with their oldest sister in the Navy and her husband and their daughter instead my kids have all been put in seperate homes except for my girls they have been in the same home together but in a Bad drug neighborhood and my littlest girl couldn't do nothing but go to school and back to the foster home never getting call and talk to mommies unless her sister that I s1upplied the cell phone for so I could stay in touch with my kids when the caseworker wasmt taking my talking privilege away for some reason or my teen-ager wasn't to busy being a teen I've had clean drug drops the whole time my kids has been in care but for one over a year ago but I'm not allow to visit or talk get picture of my kids from caseworker nor will she forward on gifts and souviners from my honeymoon and vacation I really do Love my kids and I'm not a drug addict because I had one dirty drug drop
The sleeping lion

Kent, WA

#1332 Nov 1, 2012
daniel wrote:
dont worry you will get your kids back soon
DCFS AND CPS ARE THE SAME, parents united together to fight the injustices that prey on our children, this is very serious UNITE!!!!!!!
Martesha

Homestead, FL

#1333 Nov 17, 2012
Brandy wrote:
The thing is, ALL i see on this page is a bunch of people saying how bad the system is, I'd like anyone who has written something on here saying that the system is bad or full of crap to tell me if they have ever been in the system as in being a child in the Dcf or foster care system, cause i bet 100 dollars that half of you, are bad parents who have actually done something really wrong to your kids and you dont think it is because you were probably raised the same way, and dcf actually somehow caught you or someone turned you in and you feel shitty enough to sit there and make dcf look absolutly horrible cause you know that really your the one who's wrong and there's nothing you can do about it. I Also bet that none of you will fess up that you have done anything wrong cause you all think you raise your kids the right way. I was a kid in the system since i was 12 and im 17 and just got out of it last year, It saved my Life and my brothers and sisters, and they all are now adopted out and have great lives and their happier then ever and so am I. The Dcf System isn't as bad as you all try to make it out to be.
. How dare u I'm ah living witness u hearse they took my children lied in the case worker and my kids father had and affair the father was givin a second changes later the worker was fired for postin pictures of foster kids pickin on them... In one of the worker tryed to adopt my kids
Praise be to god

Rockford, IL

#1334 Dec 20, 2012
After dcfs stepped into my life from the birth of my second child my daughter finding drugs in her maconem but not her blood nor urine remind you neither her nor I had active drugs in our system they just based it upon the first poop collected at the hospital allowing me to take my baby home and after four days showed up on my door step with county cops demanding I give them my children. My grandmother died the same day of my daughters birth and they allowed me to take my children home the worst feeling is knowing you are getting attached to your child and or childre for some days and they come back saying you are sout to be neglectant parent but allowed you to take them for four days. If they thought for any second I could not be a parent why would they allow me to take my child from the hospital period? Just a thought. Besides this I have been dealing with them for almost two years dropping clean did parenting classes got my certification re-entered back to school been getting straight A's along with perfect attendance, work up to 25 hours a week being a full time parent and I am two months away from having my third child now. I pay my own bills and got out of a relationship that became violent because my kids were taken from my hands. I have been clean I attend CADS still for the fifth month and haven't been in no legal trouble ever, with having this baby I fear. I fear that they are going to rip my child right out of my hands again, I also fear now that my children are 2 and 3 that they will grow up hating me that I will be able to gain custody of this child and they will be confused to why they can not come home with mommy but the baby can I don't want any of my children thinking that they are going to be treated different in any way. As a 23 about to be 24 year old single mother I don't know what to do to make things any better I am and have done what they ask of me and the whole school thing being extra the courts have not asked of me but to look good on my part. The question is when will this end?
shi

Rockford, IL

#1335 Dec 20, 2012
Please go to change.org and sign my petition for dcfs to be charged with felony conspiracy for lieng under oath and falsifying information.sharzetta lymon/illinois. If we continue to stay quiet they will keep getting away with it.Did you know that they have immunity from lawsuits.if you want to sue them you have to sue the state of illinois.Thanks for listening
Mary

Aurora, IL

#1336 Feb 6, 2013
I believe DCFS is a joke. They are destroying our family. They have removed my kids father because one of our children fell off the couch and was injured. We rushed him to the ER and they are blaming the dad since he was here alone. We have gone above and beyond to prove we were innocent with multiple doctors agreeing, and yet they are doing anything and everything to prove the opposite. They are destroying my life and because I dont have $4000-6000 for an attorney there is nothing I can do. All I do is cry. Im at my breaking point. We are good parents.
momofFour

Sebastian, FL

#1337 Feb 24, 2013
Its been since Nov 2011 since I seen my babies I grew up in the system I know how they are rip an tear I fought to get away from all the terrible things that continued to happen to me I hate the system for what happened to me but they would leave me alone finally I left state after school got pregnant an swore on life nothing an no one would harm my children. an here they come we got a call there is fighting between a couple (people argue ) even dcfs workers argue with their spouse's but do you see their kids taken no there is a crime in progress children are being taken an there's no way to fight the law is in on it .

I wanted to die I can't believe their gone they were all I had the smile on my face was from them my heart hurts so bad my arms ache to hold them to here them laugh or talk bedtime stories brushing teeth baking cupcakes watching spongebob everything is gone mommy I love wuuw they would say an I would say I love you more my angel babies. I'm trying to keep going till we are able too see each other again I pray everyday they are safe an happy an healthy an that they do not forget me I'm so sorry my angels I wish I was a lawyer or someone who is smart enough to find a loop whole away to get them to return desperate depressed an confused momoffour

Since: Sep 10

Location hidden

#1338 Feb 24, 2013
momofFour wrote:
Its been since Nov 2011 since I seen my babies I grew up in the system I know how they are rip an tear I fought to get away from all the terrible things that continued to happen to me I hate the system for what happened to me but they would leave me alone finally I left state after school got pregnant an swore on life nothing an no one would harm my children. an here they come we got a call there is fighting between a couple (people argue ) even dcfs workers argue with their spouse's but do you see their kids taken no there is a crime in progress children are being taken an there's no way to fight the law is in on it .

I wanted to die I can't believe their gone they were all I had the smile on my face was from them my heart hurts so bad my arms ache to hold them to here them laugh or talk bedtime stories brushing teeth baking cupcakes watching spongebob everything is gone mommy I love wuuw they would say an I would say I love you more my angel babies. I'm trying to keep going till we are able too see each other again I pray everyday they are safe an happy an healthy an that they do not forget me I'm so sorry my angels I wish I was a lawyer or someone who is smart enough to find a loop whole away to get them to return desperate depressed an confused momoffour
Dear mom of four, I lost 6 and I know what you are going thru. God won't put us thru more than we can handle. So keep praying for your babies. You can do all things thru Christ. Be strong for your babies because they need you to be. I am praying for you!
Need to Rant

Edwardsville, IL

#1339 Mar 13, 2013
DCFS is ridiculousness they accuse people who are unable to afford the lawyer that they need to fight for them. DCFS likes to get kids into foster care so that they can get them adopted and get more money from the state because they are going broke. They wait until last moment to file reports and to tell parents of important things that they need to know to get their kids back. The best thing that you can do is not let them bull you, you have the right to see all documents that they have in the reports and never sign anything with out talking to and having a lawyer look it over first. As for state attorneys some are good and will fight hard for you but don't let them fool you they don't get paid enough to save you. The truth is that DCFS needs to be just shut down there is no need for it really because most of the time it does not seem to help the kids who truly need it and waste time and money on cases that are nothing and try to twist them into something. It is best to remember that DCFS does not have the finally say is on things the judge does, but they will try to walk all over you so it is best to jump through the hops but at the same time be sure to keep them in their place because you just have to look good for the judge and never be afraid to refuse to speak to them without a lawyer present saying that shows your not going to be pushed around...We live in America it is meant to be "innocent until proven guilty" however at some point it became "guilty even if found innocent". We as parents and caring citizens need to fight against them not on our own but united this is in a way like legalized kidnapping it is causing people emotion trauma and it is effecting the kids the most even the little ones who you think wont remember.

Since: Sep 10

Location hidden

#1342 May 22, 2013
Lost without Kids wrote:
Danville dcfs just took my kids from school this past Friday. Now the courts have kept them. My fiance and I have done everything they have asked and then some. We don't abuse my kids, we protect them. I have my son's therapist on my side as well as everyone who knows and some neighbors who don't know me. My son woke up with a rash I believe to be fifths disease and they are claiming hand prints. I have done all research on fifths disease even to find out the other term being "slapped cheek" syndrome. I'm 3.5 hours away from my friends and family cause we recently moved here from St.Louis area. Now I'm stuck cause they won't give my kids back even though my fiance has even moved out. So now I'm in a home completely alone, in a town where I don't even want to be. Can anyone please help me? This worker has lied and twisted every bit of info we have given to help and using against us. My whole life belong to my children and now they are in a home. They won't even put them with family nor can I see them. I'm seriously dying of a broken heart and don't even begin to know how to cope with this. Again, anyone please help. Just email me with information thedarlingangel@gmail.com the workers name I am up against is Shawn Gavel and he has kidnapped my kids into their crooked system. We have already taken 1 loan out for my fiance to get a lawyer. Thought the kids and I were safe cause we were following their safety plan. Now I can't afford a lawyer, so I'm stuck with a court appointed lawyer. I feel I have already lost everything.
You need to go to CPSWatch @ yahoo groups and join. There you can get access to all the info you need to have a fighting chance. This is very important. Also Families Best Interest. These are groups started by parents like yourself who have been there. Also, record all interaction you have with DCFS, atty's, doctors, etc. Then, most important ask God to help you.
shi

Chicago, IL

#1343 Jun 28, 2013
we have to get together and come together all races and get a petition and talk to class action lawsuit attorney.everybody get on the website crying and pleading but thats not going help.if enough of us get together draw up a petition and the law changed involving dcfs and then find an attorney shit can be changed.and dcfs can be outed for the crimes they commit against parents we need signatures and at least 20 people to contact an attorney my email address is kieseclay@yahoo.com.if you are interested please email me so we can start gathering as many people as possible.
red

United States

#1344 Oct 16, 2013
They took my babes an by doing so my five year old was killed. two years an nothing but heartache . something must be done.
Natasha

Seattle, WA

#1345 Oct 25, 2013
Hello,

Im in seattle washington but wanted to share my story. My daughter was born 9/19/2012 and was taken by cps on 9/21/2012. I have mental health problems but never showed any signs of my symptoms nor did I ever pose a harm to my daughter while I was pregnant or after she was born. She is now 13 months and still in the foster home. The foster parents are racist...she is biracial and have abused her many times leaving her in the hospital. I am so enraged. The case is through snohomish county but I gave birth in king county. I have had 4 attorneys and this current one I think will work. I see my daughter six hours a week and can only have monitored community visits still after 13 months. CPS has a trial for me next april and Im terrified. Im asking that my mom have custody and adopt my daughter but because of a past inconclusive case against her all based on lies (my brother and I were never taken and she never went to trial...cps backed out and closed the case because they got cold feet) and that was 11 years ago. Ive done all the things they want...drug and alcohol eval, done clean uas, mental health eval (the psychologist was terrible) and Ive done two parenting classes. I am so pissed at cps right now and my friend gave me the name of this website. I apologize for this being s long but it helps to share my story with others who have or who are going through this.

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