millrod69

Woodbury, NJ

#25 Aug 17, 2010
My daughter's mother was convicted of simple assault against me in 03 she got out of jail in the next day and put a PFA out on me..... was granted PFA... The family court circus is tired .... period some thing needs to be done .. To this day i continue to deal with a woman who is caught up in making my life miserable..... I went to court today .... to try and get a PFA against my daughter and her boyfriend who again is trying to be some phone threats calling my phone and the both of them making verbal threats outside my home after dropping my daughter off.....My daughter wanted to come to my house on Friday night my weekend visitation and her mom had issues with me picking her up for some apparent reason I texted her and told her to take her medication so she was a little less stressed .... let me pick her up on my way home from work..... she still says no.... goes in to my daughters room at eleven o clock at night with boyfriend in tote... yelling and screaming mad with me about the text. then her boyfriend calls my cell and states that he's goin to f-me up bla bla bla in front of my daughter...... by the way my daughter did get slapped by her mother in the process....go today to family court 5 hrs wait for a hearing and I'm denied the emergency PFA.... do I need a lawyer court date next friday..... help..........
I need answers

Philadelphia, PA

#27 Oct 1, 2010
My soon to be ex and I are divorcing in Delaware. I pay her $2,000 per month in support, we have two son's, 7 & 4. I keep asking her to get a full time job. Her response is "I don't have to". She needs to work to help me out. I think I'm paying "WAY" more than I have to. I'm trying to help her but it's killing me. Is support based on regular pay or overtime that is not always available. I need answers PLEASE... Plus on top of this there are months I give her extra because she say's she needs food.....
Anonymous

Philadelphia, PA

#28 Oct 2, 2010
Are there any lawyers in Delaware who do pro bono work for fathers going through divorce. I pay soo much in child support I can't even afford a lawyer. There has to be someone who helps fathers doing the right thing. I'm a strong believer that if your "man" enough to make the child, you should be "man" enough to raise and support the child. As I do my best and always go the extra mile to support my children I am always playing catch up because the mother refuses to get a job although she has qualifications that are sought after in these tough economic times. She is a collections specialist with many years experience and a licensed cosmetologist. Please respond with any information you may have. I really need help.
Jessy P

Millersville, MD

#29 Oct 2, 2010
My father is in a custody battle right now for his 2 year old daughter he had with an ex-girlfriend. The mother abuses alcohol. He used to have 50/50 custody, but when he went to do the usual exchange between parents, she arrived drunk with her 16 yr old daughter, from a previous marrige, in the car. He now has physical custody until the court hearing in Dec. Despite all of the evidence of long term abuse, including losing custody of the daughter from a previous marrige, for alcohol abuse, the courts still are leaning towards the mother's side. She refuses to stop drinking, drives when she's drunk and thought she hasn't laid a hand on her kids she did get physically abusive with my father, who at the time was going through chemotherepy. Does anyone know how I can find the definition of what the state of Delaware considers an unfit mother?

Since: Aug 09

Location hidden

#30 Oct 16, 2010
on the men side

Merchantville, NJ

#31 Oct 28, 2010
my husband had an affair had a baby long story short they in court ....courts dont give a crap bout wat u hav done as a dad dont care wat u hav to say as a man...this is the order the end. the woman can lie nd lie nd they believe wateva they say. his order was 400 she wanted a modification now his order is 1000dollars keep in mind she herself is a registered nurse nd the baby is only 1yrs old.to top it off she no longer want him to see his daughter. one thing about this man he NEVA neglects his responsiblities is he a deadbeat dad no ...yet he gets treated that way...SMH!!!
Kids Need Dad Too

United States

#32 Nov 6, 2010
Check out www.fathersrights.org . This site has free tips for Dads.
HALLE

Seaford, DE

#33 Nov 15, 2010
I need answers wrote:
Are there any lawyers in Delaware who do pro bono work for fathers going through divorce. I pay soo much in child support I can't even afford a lawyer. There has to be someone who helps fathers doing the right thing. I'm a strong believer that if your "man" enough to make the child, you should be "man" enough to raise and support the child. As I do my best and always go the extra mile to support my children I am always playing catch up because the mother refuses to get a job although she has qualifications that are sought after in these tough economic times. She is a collections specialist with many years experience and a licensed cosmetologist. Please respond with any information you may have. I really need help.
HELLO
TO i NEED ANSWERS
there are pro bono lawyers in delaware that are very effective...u can google this online..
Delaware Volunteer Legal Services, Inc... so look it up....THEY WILL HELP YOU AND WORK WITH YOU... GOODLUCK...

“fight for your rights”

Since: Dec 10

newark, de

#34 Dec 7, 2010
The court system is corrupt. You must keep an eye on everything you file because the court staff can't seem to enter info correct when it comes to the actual orders. We had to proofread our most recent order and found several errors. Like things the respondent said, not the petitioner..wow they can really screw things up for the wrong person. So now we have to file. Motion of clarity inorder for the courts to correct their own errors...
Forced funder

Boise, ID

#35 Jan 12, 2011
sometimes the best thing for the child is to not be born.When wemen bring these children into this shity world knowing there will be a support system for them the trend spreads like wildfire. Run them through the same treatment as the men and I bet child birth numbers would drop A LOT!
RaYine wrote:
What gets me is this ranting against women, it's not all women just like it's not all men. My husband and my situations are prime examples. I have a daughter with a military man, he got thrown out of the military after we got pregnant now we have a child, he is abusive, I leave. Long story short he doesn't want to pay child support so he is hiding out, yet I willingly allow him and his family access to my child Sobecause she has a right to make that decision for herself whether she wants to continue to reach out to a father who hardly ever reaches out to her. My husband has a child with a woman in DE where they both are from, she had had four children taken away from her by the state, she had his child removed from her care after dropping the child off drunk at daycare. His child support payments are always on time she constantly calls our phone number when she'd drug just to rant and rave, she knows where we live, where his family lives, but the moment she gets busted, she doesn't know where he is the courts don't even try to contact us, they just give custody to her parents, so now his paying child support to her parents and her. She gets to get the child back, the judge doesn't even listen to him, they just blow him off, and now my household is suffering because I can't get the 250 a month from my child's father and he shells out 700 a month for his and can't see his child? So I'm sick of ya'll saying it's the women, its the people who chose to make this system pathetic and that is the pathetic assholes who are so selfish that they can't or won't do whats best for the children!!!!
Forced funder

Boise, ID

#36 Jan 12, 2011
I have been getting pulled through the ringer for 7 years now and it has made me so bitter that I have had to choose to not be involved cause I don't think it's a good idea to have him around me. Thanks system.
tdg

Colorado Springs, CO

#37 Feb 15, 2011
Stop Child Support Abuse-
Petition to make child support federal and make the laws fair!
http://www.petitiononline.com/mod_perl/signed...
Ihaverights

Wilmington, DE

#38 Mar 14, 2011
Why don't you people stop saying how women lie about PFA's. This is why too many women continue to allow themselves to be physically and mentally abused by the men in their lives. I got a PFA against my former boyfriend and child's father. He bit me and slammed my head into the wall. He continues to lie until this day saying he never abused me and tries using this statement that women lie about domestic abuse to get custody of their children. He is a lifelong criminal and has mental issues and is currently in prison. The courts have allowed this man to continue to abuse me emotionally threw mail since he is the father of my child. I'm working on another PFA this week. I do not have to put up with his abuse and will not. I truly beleive that most men who are accused of domestic abuse are guilty and possess narcisistic personality or psychotic behaviors and want to deny they are innocent when they are truly guilty. What, you think these sick men are going to say they did it? I mean, really. Stop making it more difficult for women to protect themselves from these creeps by making your uneducated comments. I'm sorry to the men/women who actually are accused of domestic violence when they did not actually do anything. The women who lie about domestic abuse are most likely very few and those women are a disgrace to society and to women who are actually abused.
Ihaverights

Wilmington, DE

#39 Mar 14, 2011
If a man is abusive to his child's mother, most likely he will be abusive to his child. Laws need to be changed to protect these children from physical and mental abuse by these sick men who are actually abusers! Stop crying about fathers rigths..if you are a father who isn't abusive and can prove you are a good father you in most cases wouldn't be fighting for your life to see your children. Stop blaming the courts and actually get out there and do something about it!! Let me say this, there are far more men judges in family court then there are women so how is family court sexist againt men? I have evidence to the contrary. If you have a child and continue commiting crimes over ang over again and go to jail..that is your damn fault!!!
familycrtunfair

Dover, DE

#40 Oct 17, 2011
I need answers wrote:
My soon to be ex and I are divorcing in Delaware. I pay her $2,000 per month in support, we have two son's, 7 & 4. I keep asking her to get a full time job. Her response is "I don't have to". She needs to work to help me out. I think I'm paying "WAY" more than I have to. I'm trying to help her but it's killing me. Is support based on regular pay or overtime that is not always available. I need answers PLEASE... Plus on top of this there are months I give her extra because she say's she needs food.....
I went thru the same thing. My ex had two (2) affairs, after the second one I said enough. Divorce was filed and the results were:

shared placement 50/50 (Friday to Friday alternating)
child support $800
alimony $20k ($1675/month)
all marital debt ($250k) my responsibility

So even in divorce I am responsibile to not only support the kids, but also my ex. I ended up filing bankruptcy to be able to comply with the court order for child support. She walked away with no marital debt, no change in her work requirements. She works 10 hours a week and has no intention of working any additional hours. Who can blame her - the court felt she had no responsibility to work any extra hours. She is a certified X-Ray tech (avg delaware inbcome $59.6k) she make $14.5k. If the roles had been reversed, the judge would have told me to "get a job"
Jason

Newark, DE

#41 Dec 1, 2011
My now ex-wife filed a PFA against me the following day after I left her which was 3 years ago. There was no abuse. The only thing abuse there was the system, by her. She did it to make sure the kids were not gonna be allowed contact with me because she was upset that I left her. She was awarded sole custody of the kids and me getting supervised visitation only after I complete a domestic violence program. She recently was gonna allow me to have visitation with the kids at my house but changed her mind because my mother wouldnt be friends with her on facebook and because she called her a liar and a thief and told her she didnt want to be friends with her or even talk to her after what she did to me. Now Christmas is coming up so shes having a hard time getting the kids stuff for that so shes gonna "allow" me to come to where she lives which is 5 hours away to watch the kids open gifts that I buy. The kids can't leave the house with me she said. I am so sick of her controlling and lies. She told me that the kids don't want see me right now. I talk to my oldest daughter who is 14 through email, which her mother doesnt know about. She told me that her mother was lying about that. I believe she is still bitter that I left and with another woman that she is still using the kids to hurt me. She has been single for the last 3 years and hasnt moved on yet. I am just tired of it all. I really don't know what to do anymore.

“Santa's Coming!”

Since: Nov 11

Centreville, DE

#42 Dec 1, 2011
tammy wrote:
if a couple isn't married and the girl (she's 18) says she is moving out of state to be left alone and start over, what are the father's rights? Can the courts make her stay in the state (Delaware) she is in?
In any state a person is considered an adult if they are over 18 which means she may do whatever she wants and if she wants nothing to do with the father, she has that right.
MLB

Newark, DE

#43 Mar 11, 2012
Not all women lie to get a PFA but there are some that do. My boyfriends ex-wife filed for a PFA the following day after he decided he didnt want to be with her anymore. She was just angry because he left her so she did what the only thing she could to hurt him and that was by making sure he couldnt see the kids. He was told to pay all the bills at the house plus give her $1300 a month in child support. She knew that would happen so thats why she did it. Its been 3 years now. The PFA's over and she still won't let him talk to the kids or see them. She got in contact with him this past Christmas because shes unemployed and was worried that she wouldnt be able to get them stuff for Christmas. He took care of it and she was willing to let him come to her house, which is 5 hours away, to watch kids open gifts but said he couldnt leave the house with them. She only let him stay for 2 hours. He recently asked her if he could come spend the day with the kids, she said, "I'll have to think about that" Shes all about what she can get from him. A month ago she wanted him to get a dress for their daughters 8th grade dance. Said for him to mail it. He told her that he could come there and take their daughter out to get one so she could try it on. She said that their daughter wouldnt be allowed to go with him alone. Shes just too controlling and thats just one if the reasons he decided to leave her in the first place. So, there are women out there that abuse the system. Those women are the ones who hurt the legitimate abuse cases.
john

Wilmington, DE

#44 Mar 16, 2012
wow. I am so with you. social re-engineering. I went to the church to intervene and so far they have not. I have technically lost my two minor children and they live 4 miles away. The mother, who hates me, has programmed them not to need daddy.
So what is the thing to do?
Joe Sims wrote:
It's just not a Delaware issue. I am in Pennsylvania. The family court system is corrupt and biased toward women. In the process Judges and domestic relations officers have degraded and demoralized men, tomorrow's men (today's boys) and family values. The child support collection machine is unconstitutional and a major conflict of interest. The states receive reimbursement for the federal government, two thirds of every dollar that goes through their collection machine. Pennsylvania collects 4 Billion dollars a year and receives 2.67 Billion dollars to balance their budget with. Thus you can see the need for excessive child support orders. They boast they are a leader in collective. They can also boast a leader in corruption. Many men have been pushed into a kind of slavery by the excessive practices of family court judges. Many are unable to get financially even. The court orders issued by many Judges are unreasonable and therefore many are not able to comply with the irresponsible orders. They may in fact be unconstitutional. In the present economic conditions more and more individuals will experience state slavery by wait of family court Judges.
It appears as through Family Court Judges have been able to thumb their
noses at constitutional laws. They have become a rogue government. Holding tens of millions of US adults hostage. Deny children their fathers. They have become the dominating influence in the social engineering of America and shaping new laws in the US. Their effect over the past several decades. It appears they are untouchable even in violation of constitutional laws.
TractorFarmer

Hockessin, DE

#45 Mar 16, 2012
The courts should not be involved in your family life. Two people should be able to love each other, get married, and raise a family without government help. Our society is so messed up, it is sad they need to tell parents how to act. Maybe there should be a law that parents need to have a certain amount of money saved up before they have a child. That would solve many issues. Say $100,000 per child. When you have that much in a bank account then you can have one child and much wait until saving $100,000 more to have a second.

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