Familiar Complaints Aired At Hearing On DCF

Trina Porter flew to Connecticut from Maryland so she could show state legislators a picture of the niece she hasn't seen in more than a year. Full Story
DCF

East Hartford, CT

#67 Aug 18, 2009
Citizen Rosa wrote:
It's easy for the Child Advocate and the legislators to pile on against big bad DCF. But in EVERY SINGLE CASE
where a child is removed from family, the child has a free lawyer, the parents each have free lawyers, relatives are allowed to come to court and have their say, and a judge makes the final decision. There are also various advocates and court personnel who also are involved in the case and making sure the safest decision is made. If a parent or child's lawyer doesn't like the court decision, it can be appealed. And, of course, the Child Advocate is supposedly available to help these families as well. DCF is not the be all and end all of these cases. There are plenty of other layers of protection (or bureaucracy) for the families but we never hear about them. If kids are being kept from families due to DCF arrogance, why are these others letting it happen?
The Judge is nothing but a rubber stamping unscrupulous attorney in a black robe who works for the government/DCF and some aren't even schooled in law.
hotinaz

Chandler, AZ

#68 Aug 19, 2009
fed up foster parent wrote:
[Well I have a third opinion about DCF's treatment of foster parents. We watched a lying social worker ruin our home placement for our foster son and engineer him into a residential school when he wants to come home to us. Every decision made by the social worker with the divine right of legal guardianship harmed that boy until he ended up in the hospital and we were refused communication. Now we are being told we advocate too much, make too much work for DCF and care too much. DCF can now say we are unstable and not have to prove it. So many threats to us to get us to stop asking about the teen or trying to help him. DCF has its way, way bad side. No DCF worker should be a legal guardian and be allowed to foster or adopt. It is a conflict of interest. More importantly, we can't get out of our file false information put there by that DCF worker. When we contacted Ombudsman office, they also said let it go, DCF will accuse you of being unstable or taking your foster license if you don't stop advocating for the teen. What a system this is, it makes foster parents, and we are good ones, want to run away. DCF needs fixing, they even rake over their own foster parents. Not all regions are alike. Willimantic is the worse in CT.]
Right there with you. I am a foster parent in a battle over a little girl. I am now the target instead of the people she was removed from. This is all because I said that after almost 4 years with us, she was too bonded to leave...did I mention the psychologist agrees with me. Doesn't change the fast that the case worker is after my license and committing defromation of character. What is this world coming to when the people who volunteer 24/7 are bullied by the very people they are working for...but we can't quit we love the kids too much.

Since: Sep 08

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#69 Aug 20, 2009
^
So glad you decided to use the widest brush possible.
Maybe

Waterbury, CT

#70 Aug 21, 2009
Georgie B wrote:
<quoted text>And we wouldn't want you there either.
You'd be a perfect example of someone who would moan and groan about doing your fair share, complain about someone less qualified than you got promoted over you, then file a grievance once you got fired for incompetance.
Well at least I have learned how to spell incompetence.

Since: Sep 08

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#71 Aug 22, 2009
Maybe wrote:
<quoted text>
Well at least I have learned how to spell incompetence.
Nice.

One should always be able to accurately spell what one is and what one exudes.
SSPE521

AOL

#72 Sep 4, 2009
Georgie B.what DCF you work for I am dealing with meriden as a grandparent, it is not pretty
SSPE521

AOL

#73 Sep 4, 2009
sorry for the typo dont bash me, should read do you work for?

Since: Sep 08

Location hidden

#74 Sep 4, 2009
SSPE521 wrote:
Georgie B.what DCF you work for I am dealing with meriden as a grandparent, it is not pretty
I'm not a social worker, just a clerical.

There are pluses and minuses with all the various branches of DCF.

I'm sorry to hear that you're having problems with the Meriden office.
Nancy P

AOL

#75 Sep 5, 2009
I would like to address the issues that our state does not address "mental healthcare awareness for our children."

At one time trying to receive quality services for my grandchild I am raising, DCF voluntary services (which I requested to help me)walked into a hospital to help me and had the hospital call in a DCF136 neglect/abandonment form as I challanged the hospital's discharge plan 2 years ago and continue to do. Of course when a small child has to be held down just days before discharge by huge burly hospital staff due to his anxiety, he was clearly not ready for discharge as records proved. These kids get bounced around over and over for insurance purposes as no one wants to pay! I fought the system, DCF blamed the hospital, the hospital blamed DCF. I was cleared obviously as I have never gone anywhere nor will ever. However, I will NEVER forget that they treated my grandchild like a number instead of a person. I will always advocate for his/other children's rights to receive quality mental healthcare in our state. Even though our agencies/media/government is afraid to address the injustice/stigma continues for children who do not ask for mental illness continues to be ignored!
Sincerly,
Involved Caring Caregiver
Charlene

Mansfield Depot, CT

#76 Sep 6, 2009
fed up foster parent wrote:
[Well I have a third opinion about DCF's treatment of foster parents. We watched a lying social worker ruin our home placement for our foster son and engineer him into a residential school when he wants to come home to us. Every decision made by the social worker with the divine right of legal guardianship harmed that boy until he ended up in the hospital and we were refused communication. Now we are being told we advocate too much, make too much work for DCF and care too much. DCF can now say we are unstable and not have to prove it. So many threats to us to get us to stop asking about the teen or trying to help him. DCF has its way, way bad side. No DCF worker should be a legal guardian and be allowed to foster or adopt. It is a conflict of interest. More importantly, we can't get out of our file false information put there by that DCF worker. When we contacted Ombudsman office, they also said let it go, DCF will accuse you of being unstable or taking your foster license if you don't stop advocating for the teen. What a system this is, it makes foster parents, and we are good ones, want to run away. DCF needs fixing, they even rake over their own foster parents. Not all regions are alike. Willimantic is the worse in CT.]
WILLIMANTIC is the worse AMEN to that!!!
charliemae

Fremont, CA

#77 Oct 18, 2009
I am dealing with these jerks now!!I have been raising my granddaughter for 11 years because her mother and father didn't want her, now she is 14 and the father decides he wants custody of her. First of all he has 9 children with 6 different woman. Also for the first 10 years he didn't pay child support, until the state made him get a job and they attached his wages and all I was getting was 55.00 a week.He has 7 of his kids living with him and 2 step kids, and he lives in low income housing (THE PROJECTS).Oh and hes getting alot of help from the state.But the social worker and the probate judge is going to let him have custody of her.He doesn't want her he just knows shes a meal ticket, more food stamps, rent will decrease and all the other things he gets for free.And he just had another baby a week ago.So DCF is encourageing this behavior with the help of a probate court.So we also need to hold the probate court that help these people abuse and kill our children.He has a daughter that he don't have anything to do with her because when she was seeing him but all he did was verbally abuse her so the mother of the child who never went after him for child support stopped him from seeing her and told him if he takes her to court for visitations then she was going to take him to court for 12 years of child support,so he hasn't bothered with her at all. But The DCF worker and the probate judge is calling him a GOOD FATHER. He wouldn't be trying to get my granddaughter either if he wasn't having his wages attached and being made to pay child support.
Wonder Of It All

West Suffield, CT

#78 Oct 18, 2009
And the beat goes on.
dcfsucks

Shelton, CT

#79 Jan 25, 2010
Georgie B wrote:
I can see that same irrational people who have nothing better to do that to slam DCF with the same old tired arguments.
Blah. Blah. Blah.
All talk and no action.
obviously you work for dcf. my nephew and my god-daughter were dcf cases and they where both failed miserably. now my seven and eight yr old niece & nephew are going through it. i call and report what they tell us and none of it was important enough.once we mentioned drugs in the home all they did was call the mother giving her a heads-up and time to threaten the kids.why would you announce your coming, do the police call the drug dealers before they raid the house.perhaps the children would be protected better if they were dogs or cats.when concerned family members call and dcf gives us the runaround we're not being irrational just pissed off.
Maybe

Middletown, CT

#80 Jan 25, 2010
DCF is the armpit of all the State programs. I feel they probably have no ambition to do better, who is their watchdog? They have been troubled for years, maybe EVERY story isn't true, but where there is smoke there is fire.

Children and families would be better served if they outsourced these services, and maybe they could save taxpayers some money.
JON

Guilford, CT

#82 Jul 26, 2010
There may be times when the DCF keeps genuinely beat and battered kids from abusive households, which is (obviously) good. But, as is voiced here and on many other sites, there are also many instances when DCF abuses their power, jumps to unwarranted conclusions, and tears apart a family with no legitimate basis to do so.
I'm writing today because my friend and his wife are currently living this nightmare. I've known him for over 25 years and KNOW that he would never harm his son. But DCF decided that a single x-ray--and literally NO OTHER information-- could be interpreted to say that my friend and his wife caused harm to their first and only son, and took their son away. The son has been placed into a foster care home which (get this) is now under investigation by DCF! The same agency that vetted these people in the first place is now deciding if they are no longer safe peopel to trust with children?!!? My friend and his wife were reviewed by DCF's OWN psychiatrists who all admitted that the parents were stable, mentally-fit people, and that it was in the child's best interest to return to them. But no, the judge ruled to keep the child away for another 6 months. BTW, the boy is only 7 months old; he was taken away from them at 2 months old.
The sad thing is that this is all legal. CT's legislature passed laws that make it easier for the DCF to prove their case, and harder for the accused to defend themselves. This may help some kids, but as I've witnessed, it also traps innocent people, and provides almost no recourse. And on top of it all, the DCF has been under probation itself by the Federal government, which just recently renewed this probation. So, it is well known by all that DCF has significant and fundamental flaws that are not in the best interests of its citizens. Save kids, yes; but not this way. Not at the expense of genuine, loving families.
Crushed to tiny pieces

Bloomfield, CT

#83 Sep 1, 2010
I am an Aunt who has been taking care of her Nephew since April . This August 28 , 2010 on my Nephews Birthday non the less I had to call DCF for Help . My Nephews Father who had Temp Custody of Child decided to be the loser he is and was arrested for Domestic Violence and was placed in Prison .
My story gets worse : My Father who is 62 has lived with me for 3 years . He has Cancer and is on Oxygen . The DCF Investigator told me I had to throw My Father out due to a complaint from 22 years ago when he slapped my Brother who told him to "go fuck himself " IF I wanted to bring my Nephew back to my House . I did I asked My Father to leave .:(... Well they were beginning the Process of Licensing me as "Family Foster Home " and they were going through their process when My Father came home to grab more Clothes and a more portable Oxygens Tanks . They showed up at 315 pm later that day and removed an already traumatized Lil Man from me . On Monday 8/30/2010 in a meeting with my Nephews DCF Worker , her Supervisor and A Domestic Violence Investigator they gave me Permission for My Father to visit and see his Grandchildren , they said he just can't live there . These people needed to better protect these Children and stop Playing with these poor Children . On Wednesday the 25th 2010 I notified my Nephews DCF Worker and told her my Brother had my Nephew in a house with No Hot water , Electric or Gas. I told her he was back to doing Drugs and constantly Fist Fighting with his girlfriend . They ignored me and Choose to believe my Brother . Low and Behold 2 days later My loser Brother Beat the crap out his due to being High and Drunk in front of Nephew to the point she was unrecognizable . My Nephew had already witnessed his Mother going through same thing when the took him from her and gave him to my Brother . Hasn't he been through enough ? When they came and took him he cried , he squeezed onto his Auntie and said Why ? The Domestic Violence Inc=vestigator just interviewed him Monday 8/30/2010 and asked the Lil Man who's 8 yrs if you can go live any where , Mommys , Grand Mother , Friends and where where would you want to go ... He pointed to me and told her my Auntie " " . She proceeded to ask him why not Mommy's or elsewhere and He said I don't know . She the said why me and he said cause I feel safe . How can someone tell me How they can take after living with me since April and my Family including my Father They can do this ? They have put him in a Safe House . Anyone know how I can get my Nephew back and Avoid DCF ? They have failed this Child and I Need Help ! Crushed Aunt in Meriden !
desirae

Worcester, MA

#84 Oct 12, 2010
i am a mother who had my son taken away cause of not signin a paper that had to deal with my childs father but now all the so called concerns they have are about me now they are discriminating against me because i am disabled when my doctor proved there concerns wrong they made up new ones and dcf is also trying to say that my child does not have autism which is documented and he has an iep which they follow but still say that there is nothing wrong with him and now my child doc who was the same doc that he had before he was in dcf custody is now saying that he does not need meds anymore so if the greenfield office is not currupt or useing there power againts me and my child then why is my child not home with me
desirae

Worcester, MA

#85 Oct 12, 2010
Crushed to tiny pieces wrote:
I am an Aunt who has been taking care of her Nephew since April . This August 28 , 2010 on my Nephews Birthday non the less I had to call DCF for Help . My Nephews Father who had Temp Custody of Child decided to be the loser he is and was arrested for Domestic Violence and was placed in Prison .
My story gets worse : My Father who is 62 has lived with me for 3 years . He has Cancer and is on Oxygen . The DCF Investigator told me I had to throw My Father out due to a complaint from 22 years ago when he slapped my Brother who told him to "go fuck himself " IF I wanted to bring my Nephew back to my House . I did I asked My Father to leave .:(... Well they were beginning the Process of Licensing me as "Family Foster Home " and they were going through their process when My Father came home to grab more Clothes and a more portable Oxygens Tanks . They showed up at 315 pm later that day and removed an already traumatized Lil Man from me . On Monday 8/30/2010 in a meeting with my Nephews DCF Worker , her Supervisor and A Domestic Violence Investigator they gave me Permission for My Father to visit and see his Grandchildren , they said he just can't live there . These people needed to better protect these Children and stop Playing with these poor Children . On Wednesday the 25th 2010 I notified my Nephews DCF Worker and told her my Brother had my Nephew in a house with No Hot water , Electric or Gas. I told her he was back to doing Drugs and constantly Fist Fighting with his girlfriend . They ignored me and Choose to believe my Brother . Low and Behold 2 days later My loser Brother Beat the crap out his due to being High and Drunk in front of Nephew to the point she was unrecognizable . My Nephew had already witnessed his Mother going through same thing when the took him from her and gave him to my Brother . Hasn't he been through enough ? When they came and took him he cried , he squeezed onto his Auntie and said Why ? The Domestic Violence Inc=vestigator just interviewed him Monday 8/30/2010 and asked the Lil Man who's 8 yrs if you can go live any where , Mommys , Grand Mother , Friends and where where would you want to go ... He pointed to me and told her my Auntie " " . She proceeded to ask him why not Mommy's or elsewhere and He said I don't know . She the said why me and he said cause I feel safe . How can someone tell me How they can take after living with me since April and my Family including my Father They can do this ? They have put him in a Safe House . Anyone know how I can get my Nephew back and Avoid DCF ? They have failed this Child and I Need Help ! Crushed Aunt in Meriden !
i am so sorry that these power hungry people are allowed to play games with these childrens lifes
Nikki O

Wesley Chapel, FL

#86 Nov 12, 2010
FYI --Did any of you know that not one of the DCF Social workers who are making decisions to tear familes apart are NOT licensed by the state for anything.
marleen tellier

Warren, NJ

#87 Feb 16, 2011
dcf is responisble for putting children in harms way.....they think they are above the law and are constantley breaking our rights....just ask the child who has been abused by dcf, ask them how they cope with it. ask them how they have changed...ASK the children who are in dcf care.....is that tooooooo hard to ask of all of you??? case freakin closed

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