You say that you agree, but then you demonstrate that you don't.<quoted text>
I do agree that the Founders wrote exactly what they said keeping the government out of the religion business.
I am not sure that Jefferson was the diest you believe he was, since he along with many others went to weekly Church serves in the Capital Building along with 12 (I believe) other Churches, don't sound like much of a separation during his administration.
I can see why you are baffled, but what a minister does and the government does don't have to be in sync, if a minister (Christian, Jewish, Muslim) wishes to reject the teaching of thier churches that is on them, the government is under no obligation to recognize that "union"
You can't have it both ways.