Arkansas grandparents gain stronger visitation rights

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Grandchildren in Arkansas can no longer be kept from their grandparents simply because the custodial parent says so. Full Story
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tracy

Quitman, AR

#1 Mar 24, 2010
I am trying to find out about my rights as a grandparent and this information is very encouraging, because i had been told grandparents do not have rights in this state. I am the grandmother of a granddaughter that I raised from 6mo. until 4yrs. uninterupted. Then her mom wonted to try raising her so I gave it a try. I would go by several days a week and get her every weekend,after a few yrs. my daughter decided that her did not wont her anymore because she can have this child around her childern ( by her marriage now). so she called screaming at me to come get this kid out of her house. I did my daughter wasnt even there she would not talk to me. The father and his parents heard about the sitution and called and said if i could give there son a chance to raise her, after months of battleing with them she went to live with her dad on a trail bases with me still as her gaurdian. Finally after 8mos. and finding out the stepmother bet her i went and got her. The father filed for costody and the judge told me if a father was willin to raise there child that it always better than the grandparent and so he gave costody to the father and told me to not fight it because grandparents do not have rights in this state. She has been in and out of therapy since he has had her 8 different therapist and locked in 2 diffrent facilites one which she is still in for 10 mo. now she just turned 10 dec 2009 and this place she is in is for teens she was the youngest child they had ever had. So, you see why i am glad to know i have rights and would welcome anyones help with this matter. I am desperate to got help to get her back in the saftey of my home. She has suffered to much in her short life. Thank you for listening.
tracy

Quitman, AR

#2 Mar 24, 2010
the post show i live in vilonia i dont know why i didnt put that i live ther i live in sheridan, AR
Nana Cindy

Georgetown, TX

#3 Apr 2, 2010
Thank Goodness, for this Change ~ Since Both My Husband / Papa & Myself Nana ~ Knows all to well the Love Grandparents Have for their Grand-babies!

When you become a parent, you realise you have received "A Gift from God sent from Heaven Above" Then when you have ~ "Grand-babies They're The Greatest Gift sent Direct from Heaven!

I've been a active stable influence since it has become apparent that things have become such as they have, sad but true. Mother to the Our Grand-babies I've always have had a Good relationship with, also had thought her Boyfriend was really Good with the Grandchildren. Until I started to notice Bruises on my Grandson, then his behavior to the Mom's Boyfriend ~ Boyfriend has history of Drug Abuse history. Then it became apparent that Someone or Somehow my Grandson who was put on Ritalin had 3 months in a Row where his Meds were gone within the First week of Receiving the Medication.

Then My Grandson Started Asking to live with Us and didn't want to go home but wanted to live with US. His Mom was constantly calling and asking last Minute if I could watch one or Both Grand-babies! Then to find her Boyfriend per my 4 year old Grandson was abusing Grand-babies! Knuckle Punching Both My Grandson & Grand Daughter! Right in the Knee's and legs. Before this I had questioned my Grandson why he wants to Live with Us and stated it was because well he said he could not say. I told him You can tell me I'm Nana! I had no Clue as to what I was about to hear about all the time getting Yelled at him, kicked and was shocked! I finally Talked to his Mom about what My Grandson told me she Even Agreed! She didn't trust her Boyfriend Around her Son my Grandson! I also told her I realised that it was not safe for her! Then Christmas my Grandson Didn't want to go Home with Mom since has been Down hill!

Its been a really sad shame that with the information I've come to understand that the Grand-babies are not Safe and I fear the Influence, Negative Behavior, is having a Problem we are having because I'm questioning My Grand-babies Safety ~ Its become a He Said she Said!

The Saddest Truth, the #1 Most affected by this Behavior is Our Greatest Gift! Our Grand Babies! Our Most Precious Precious Gift Sent Direct from Heaven Above! Our Little Loves!
DAD

Memphis, TN

#7 Apr 12, 2010
Yes, a victory for grandparents in Arkansas, but a crushing blow to the US Constitution.
Nonna

AOL

#8 Apr 12, 2010
It isn't about the grandparents as much as it is about the children. They need someone that can stand up for them when the parents are being spoiled children instead of responsible adults. When we became parents we should have realized that the welfare of our children is a priority. They are not possessions or pawns in a game.
gamma

United States

#9 Apr 25, 2010
I have been kept form seeing my granddaughter for 3 years now because of her biological mothers fear of her love towards us and my sons fear of his x wife and not having the resources to stand up to her and take her to court for violation of their divorce papers she was in contempt by having a man she was not married to living with her and my granddaugher and his biological child (my granddaughters half sister) and probably in violation of DSS laws too.... I and my husband was a great part of our granddaughters life from the day she was born taking care of her whenever needed and having her stay on and average of 2 times or more a month until she became at that age of reason and seeing who cared for her.... in addition to my faith and being truthful to my granddaughter was another aspect her mother could not compete with so she took this step and now that I am able to try to get help I am.... thank you
cheryl marlar

Quitman, AR

#10 May 11, 2010
when can a child say where they want to live either with grandparnets instead of parnets
Carolyn Stroble-Gross

Paragould, AR

#11 Jun 4, 2010
My grandson was abused by my son and/or my daughter-in-law. Nothing was ever done to them because they never admitted to it. They are going to court to get him back, and I am going to court to stop them if I can on Sept 16 and on Dec 16. He was 2 months old when he was abused. He was shaken many times,malnurished, and thrown. He was air flighted to Ar Childrens Hosp. The doctors told us all this and said that if he lived God would have to help him,for they had done all they could do. Well praise the Lord he lived! He was injured on the left side of his brain so the right hand and arm does not work like it should. It's like a person who has had a stroke. We don't know what other problems he is going to have later. If you have any advise please email me at cardongro@hotmail.com. I have a lawyer but it seems nothing is being done to really get my grandson the therapy he needs. CAROLYN GROSS
Ailiyanna

Marked Tree, AR

#12 Jun 9, 2010
I have restricted my mother in laws visits to my son because she comes to our home yelling and cursing at my husband in front of our three year old. She upsets the stability of our home and upsets my baby. Now because of this bill I cannot keep her from coming and destroying the peace in my home and shattering the nurturing environment that I strive to accomplish for my child. This is an area that is gray and blurry not strictly black and white and it should not take away my right as a parent to decide what is in the best interest of my child. How am I a parent if I can not keep my son from seeing his grandmother shout and curse his daddy? Thanks a lot for making this situation even more difficult for me so now it is even harder for me to keep the peace in my home.
doug

Rogers, AR

#13 Jun 10, 2010
We are nowot being allowed to see our grandchildren again. every time our daughter n law hears something or if the truth is spoken about her she keeps us from seeing the grand kids that we love very much and have been taking to church for almost two years till se decided that we could no longer see them because of and opinion that I spoke. This has been and on going problem since my son died in December of last year. Now we have to spend a thousand dollars to patition the court but it will be well worth it so she can no longer do this.
Concerned citizen

Harrison, AR

#14 Jun 23, 2010
Hello, I am in a situation that deals with grandparents that live out of state. I have been threatened by them. They live in Virginia, andI live here in Arkansas. I have been threatened by then taking me to court so they can see my children. I am so tired of all of this. I need to know what to do. I feel like I am being pulled in too many directions. I give up. They do not help me in anyway and I do not ask. My kids have said to me that they don't want to talk to them but I am being forced to make my kids talk to them. My children are seven, twelve and fourteen. I am confused. they want me to make my kids give up everything they do for the summer to be with them. My oldest daughter has band camp and my son the seven year old has boyscouts. Am I to make my kids give this up for the sake of grandparents. Please tell me what I am to do. I don't have the money to fight them in court. I barely have enough to survive. I work forty hours a week and trying to keep a house payment and insurance on my car and keep my bills afloat. I have some that are past due just trying to keep a phone on. I pay for my kids insurance out of my paycheck and my husband is a stay at home dad. I am not sure what to do. I feel like they are crossing the line. Can you help.
Ruth

Greenbrier, AR

#16 Aug 23, 2010
Well, for instance what if your grandchild is now almost 12 yrs old and she has never been allowed to spend the night with you, the grandmother? At first the parents said oh she's too young, or oh we don't let her spend the night with anyone and maybe by the time she's 5 she can spend the night with you. Well, that time has come and gone and meanwhile when asking the child when are you going to spend the night with granny, she said, oh granny, I would love to do that, but I don't think my parents would like that! Now my son is telling me that my granddaughter doesn't want to spend the night with any of her grandparents! I find this very hard to believe, I fell that she has been coach, encouraged or somehow told what to say about the subject. What do you do about a situation like that?
Eric Manzer

Pine Bluff, AR

#17 Oct 13, 2010
Grand Parents have no rights that super seed parental rights or responsibilities.

Try Being patient and understanding as your children learn to be parents

Remember they are behaving as parents the way you raised them to be when they were your child.

You cant undo anything you did or didnt do in the past.

All you can do is deal with the path you created for the future with your actions in the past.

Struggling with it will only make it worse
Neely Gehring

Maumelle, AR

#18 Oct 19, 2010
Just proving a point on how easy it is to write a comment on this page with no valid information. You should know that everything on this page is the matter of ones opinion of their situation and there could me many underlying reasons why a parent does not wish their child to see their grandparent. While I would never consider trashing a family memember on the worl wide web, this was used to put false information about two very good parents and the minor childs name was mentioned. Think before you speak people! I found this by googling my childs name.
Desi

Huntington, AR

#19 Mar 6, 2011
I think that parents should have ultimate rights to their kids. I think that if the parents and grandparents are fighting it is best for the children not to see the grandparents because the children are easily influenced. I know someone who's husband died and his mother made up all kinds of allegations against her and tried to take her child from her. Turned out that none of the allegations were true. It just caused a lot of trouble for my friend, who is a great mother, works hard for her little one. Her mother in law just never liked her. I think it all just depends on the situation. Say the father has lost rights to his kid, so he tries to get his parents to take custody from the mom. Thats not fair to the mom if she is doing a good job and raising her child right. There has to be a reason that custody is lost. If we were to get in a big fight with my in-laws I guarentee you they would not be seeing them until we could get things worked out because there is no telling what someone might say in front of your child. You have to protect your children. Now if you know that your grandchild is being abused or neglected or something to that nature, then by all rights you should try to help your grandbaby. People have to think of the children as children and not paychecks or devices used to hurt others. If you aren't getting along with your in laws or parents and dont want your children around them, I say that is your god given right.
MsSunShine

Jonesboro, AR

#20 Jun 17, 2011
Well its about time!
Anonymous grandma

United States

#21 Jan 28, 2013
I am a new grandparent of only 2 months. My son don't have a problem with me seeing my grandson. It is his wife. I havenever disrespected her in any way shape or form. When my family speaks to her simple as hi how are you welcoming her she does not speak back. My son has told me some things of her past and I honestly wonder if she has mental issues? I have stayed away giving them their space to learn things on their own. Her aunt that raised her and her half sister is always at their house ect. I find it a problem when that child exist because I chose to give life to my son. My son is good enough to be her husband, but I'm not good enough to be grandma... I think it is very important that children know their family on both side as my kids and I both did. The daughter in law is not social at all. I do want my grandson to be like that. Is it going to hurt to pick him up in the morning and bring him back in the evening? Some people just get on a power trip or if they don't like you because your hair was fixed wrong the first time they met you or for whatever reason. Crazy I would just like to spend time with this precious baby want him to be social and lovable
Sam

Arnold, MO

#22 Jan 28, 2013
This voilate rights of parents!
Angry momma

Lake City, AR

#23 Feb 4, 2013
We are in a situation where the bio mother was proven unfit ( not the bio father ). The court gave the child to the grandparents based on the hateful testimonies the grandparents had against the bio father and his wife.
I believe this is taking rights away from fit parents. Grandparents do NOT need to get involved, the courts do NOT need to get involved UNLESS the child has no mother or father.
please

Blytheville, AR

#25 Jul 31, 2013
tracy wrote:
I am trying to find out about my rights as a grandparent and this information is very encouraging, because i had been told grandparents do not have rights in this state. I am the grandmother of a granddaughter that I raised from 6mo. until 4yrs. uninterupted. Then her mom wonted to try raising her so I gave it a try. I would go by several days a week and get her every weekend,after a few yrs. my daughter decided that her did not wont her anymore because she can have this child around her childern ( by her marriage now). so she called screaming at me to come get this kid out of her house. I did my daughter wasnt even there she would not talk to me. The father and his parents heard about the sitution and called and said if i could give there son a chance to raise her, after months of battleing with them she went to live with her dad on a trail bases with me still as her gaurdian. Finally after 8mos. and finding out the stepmother bet her i went and got her. The father filed for costody and the judge told me if a father was willin to raise there child that it always better than the grandparent and so he gave costody to the father and told me to not fight it because grandparents do not have rights in this state. She has been in and out of therapy since he has had her 8 different therapist and locked in 2 diffrent facilites one which she is still in for 10 mo. now she just turned 10 dec 2009 and this place she is in is for teens she was the youngest child they had ever had. So, you see why i am glad to know i have rights and would welcome anyones help with this matter. I am desperate to got help to get her back in the saftey of my home. She has suffered to much in her short life. Thank you for listening.
the only thing I can tell you is never ever give up, when you let them win, that is when the children start turning against everyone, including themselves. GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU FOR fighting for the little ones . hang in there and keep pushing forward, I give this to you from personal experience.

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