Family of child molester asks for leniency

[Julie]

Mary wrote:

My 5 year old son just told me that my x was playing with his "pipi" called Cps. No answer yet. I have a court order to send my son with him for weekend I don't know what to do please help me.

Call the cops and the cops will call cps and they will do a investigation.

[Nat]

Lynne wrote:

My husband is a pedophile. Last week he told our 11-year-old daughter to come in our room and close the door (while I was at work). He then told her to pull her pants down. She had enough courage to tell him no thank heavens.She had been molested by a neighbor ayear ago and I had taught her to always sayno. It took her three days to tell me. He tells me he has not molested any of our other children, or her before, but I know he is lying. I can’t even look at him without wanting to cry or throw up. My first thought was to throw him out but then I realized how painful his loss would be to the children, worse than if he had died. I told him he could stay if he never touched our child(ren) again but all I can think if a hundred times a day is our little girl closing that door with her daddy trying to get her pants off.that thought will stay with bother her and I forever. How did he justify his actions?.” I was curious”:I wanted to see how much hair she had”“ I was jealous she was showing it to boys” all of which are just sick. Lame excuses for “ I am a predator, I don’t care who is hurt by my actions” I don’t know what to do. I keep trying to step out of my body and take a look at it but every time it is so ugly I cant.
I want to hurt the children the least and I know the other kids will be ripped apart for life by this but I also know sooner or later it will come out. Nothing will ever be okay again for the rest of our lives. I will always have married a pedophile. My children will have a pedophile for their father for the rest of their lives. I will have to guard our children, our grandchildren and all other children from him .I wonder all the time what else he has done. How did I not see this? How do I do this? This was my soul mate, my best friend; I am now a widow emotionally. I can never trust him again. What do I do??? Oh my god I just want to die.

Lynn you are enabling him by allowing him to stay in the house while you already know who he is and what he has done. In my mind you are just as guilty as he is. I have four kids, ages 5 to 24 of which two girls and I would shoot any man in the balls who would touch any of them, may he be father or step father. My mother stood idly for 16 years as my own father made my life a living hell and I will not allow anyone to harm my kids. You are insane for allowing this predator to remain in their presence. Unfortunately too many women are like you.

[Nat]

Churlz wrote:

It occurs to me from reading these comments that nobody ever bothers to UNDERSTAND. Why do people molest? I'm sure you think it's as simple as 'they're bad people' but that's bullsh*t and we all know it. Molestation occurs in every pert of the world. To call something that happens regularly EVERYWHERE a black-and-white obviously-evil thing is really just continuing the problem and leaving no hope of solutions.

Evil things happen every day everywhere in the world. People rape, kill, steal, lie, cheat, beat others, sell others, molest kids and so? What do you want to call it? Quality family time? Haven't you read from all these comments that the bastards are already getting off too easy? How is watering it down going to make it better? Are you a man BTW?

[Confused]

This is happening to my own family right now... We just found out that my uncle had molested my adopted sister who is only 17 a few months ago. We confronted our uncle and told him and his family that we are going to report it as a courtesy and so we did. They got mad at us and accused us of breaking up the family. Only to find out that he already did the same thing to my cousin 2o years ago.

[unselfish mother]

Christina Williams wrote:

I am a so called survivor of 15 years of child rape. My uncles, father, step father,step grandfather, and great uncle raped me when I was under the age of five and later my father-in-law raped me when his son was in Viet Nam. I went on to be raped by my own husband. My son was raped at five by his uncle and then became a child molester and rapist, went to prison for ten years. I broke the silence and lost my mother, brothers and the entire family turned on me for telling. Not one of my attackers went to prison. My mother told me to think of the other children when it would be in the papers, speaking of my husbands younger sibbleings still at home. My son did got to prison and is out of prison and I have night mares about him doing it again. He said he would never do it, but he also said he would never do drugs again. Two nights ago, he was arrested for possession of cocaine. I cannot ever trust a child molester. They complain about the time they do in prison, but I have a lifetime sentence of post trmatic syndrome, memories that haunt me and will never go away. I will take the horror of my childhood to the grave with me. It is a epedemic, a disease in this world, and I beleive the death sentence should be given to child molesters. It would speak louder to the rest of the world that child rape is like murder, only when you kill someone, they no longer suffer, you create the walking dead when you rape and molest children. If it was done to you, how could you ever bring that pain on another soul?????. While people cry for mercy when it is time to own up to your crime, think about who had mercy for the child, even mothers, grandmothers and aunties protect and enable these crimes against children and tell us not to bring shame onto the family. I say that any mother or anyone who knows a child has been raped and protects the rapist should go to prison right along side of the rapist. No Aunt veilie, it was not a dirty dream! I did not bring shame on the family, the men did that when they did the most horrible crime against children they could do, and they were supposed to love us and protect us.
Christina Williams

I agree with Christina, my daughter came to me at age 6, telling me that my live in boyfriend that her and my youngest daughter age 5, called daddy, since ages 1 and 2 touched her, she explained that it happened everytime I would run to the store or leave her with him for only 10 minutes or so while I ran my oldest daughter to cheering practice etc. Anyone that trys to cover up the molesters acts are criminals them selves. Sure it may be easy for the mom, grandmother, or adult that is told to pretend nothing happened. Im sorry , when I was told what was goin on. That man that I thought I loved was out of my house and life within ten minutes. The perfect man, or so I thought so. My hurt was no compare to the hurt he brought my innocent child. I hated him because I had to hate him. I had to stop loving him! It was like he had died. I went through a complete mourning process for about 10 months. But Id rather go through that than pretend I didnt know and let him hurt my child again. Any adult who pretends like it never happened , is a very selfish coward. Wha is more important, your self, your pride, your fear of being alone? No none of those things are worth your childs emotional and physical health. It has been a very rough 10 months, but me and ny girls have each other.
I am happy to say that I made the right choice for my girls, regardless of how bad I wanted to run from the truth and "pretend" it never happened. Sure for me that would of been the easy way out.But I could of never done that. The only thing that Im not over is trust. I cant and wont trust my girls with ANYONE! I have got to get over that part. Im sure God will direct me clearly. Its in his hands!

[Raincloud]

Noah wrote:

Child molesters do need to be incarnerated until they can be rehabilitated. And such rehabilitation usually does take decades, and involves working with their emotions for very long periods each day. But I don't believe in harming people. Nobody should be executed, tortured, abused or raped in prison, because when we do that, we become the very thing we detest the most: criminals, rapists, torturers, abusers.
I know I'll receive flames for this, but those men and women that "serve our country" and kill and torture and rape overseas are awarded with purple hearts and medals; those who commit those same crimes at home, but to a far lesser extent, are reviled as absolute evil.
Don't you think that's a contraction?
None of us haven't done wrong at some point in our lives. We haven't molested children, but most of us have supported wars that have killed millions, perhaps even sold drugs or weapons, or simply were very unkind to alot of people. None of us are perfect. Self-righteousness is the beginning of immoral crusades like war that kill millions, and really one of the basic causes of destructive action. So remember, the next time you want to torture and execute a sex offender, an Arab, or whoever it is you hate, we have all done wrong, and while people may need to be restrained for the safety of society, destroying people is not the answer.

Hear, hear! I was a victim of sex abuse and I agree with you whole-heartedly. Torment and death are not the answer. Rehabilitation, incarceration (away from the general population where they would get beaten and/or murdered), and observation for signs of regress are the way to go. Cruel and unusual punishment is something we are supposed to oppose in this country. Brutalizing someone is not a valid punishment, even for a brutal crime. Attempt to rehabilitate them into society, keep them from re-offending, and pray that they can redeem themselves. No human is beyond redemption. NO ONE.