Fifty Shades of Grey confuses bondage with 'sexual sadism'

Jul 11, 2012 Full story: CBC News 17

While E.L. James's erotic fiction trilogy Fifty Shades of Grey has sold over 30 million copies worldwide, some people criticize its depiction of bondage sex.

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#1 Jul 11, 2012
That book is a JOKE! Go read or view some real BDSM porn and get real. I hate the soft stuff peddled to soccer moms. Better yet, get a real life BDSM experience, for crying out loud.

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#2 Jul 11, 2012
la la la lola wrote:
That book is a JOKE! Go read or view some real BDSM porn and get real. I hate the soft stuff peddled to soccer moms. Better yet, get a real life BDSM experience, for crying out loud.
I'm not sure your judgemental opinion is rational. How does a trilogy threaten you and your appetite for BDSM. Who really cares what you're into anyway? The books sold well over 30 million copies, Lol!, I'm sure the author was shattered to learn you didn't like it... Probably cried in Eric mountain of cash while a few soccer moms got spanked for fun... Get over yourself angry bird.

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#3 Jul 11, 2012
Okay... Can't explain the Eric in there at all?!
achyfi

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#4 Jul 11, 2012
LOL...In these chick lit novels doms are always handsome, powerful, billionaires. In real life many of them are just ordinary losers.

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#5 Jul 11, 2012
achyfi wrote:
LOL...In these chick lit novels doms are always handsome, powerful, billionaires. In real life many of them are just ordinary losers.
I'm sure Doms come in every form. I can't speak to that much, but I just don't understand someone who says go hardcore sadist or go home, Lol! I mean, really? Who are you to tell anyone how hard to spank?! If 50 Shades made women sexier, then I say great...

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#6 Jul 12, 2012
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I'm sure Doms come in every form. I can't speak to that much, but I just don't understand someone who says go hardcore sadist or go home, Lol! I mean, really? Who are you to tell anyone how hard to spank?! If 50 Shades made women sexier, then I say great...
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#7 Jul 12, 2012
la la la lola wrote:
That book is a JOKE! Go read or view some real BDSM porn and get real. I hate the soft stuff peddled to soccer moms. Better yet, get a real life BDSM experience, for crying out loud.
I didn’t read the book, I did read some of the reviews.

Here are my thoughts on the subject.

The book just hit the 20 million copies sold mark last week.
Out of those 20 million copies that “moms” brought home, let’s just say that about 10 million of them are going to be stolen by their teenage daughters and read over and over again because it peaks their interest. And because they are interested, they will probably do a bit more research into the subject of BDSM online and in other books.

Hopefully by the time they do reach the age of consent there will be a whole new set of TNG’s that understand the dynamics of these relationships and can go about seeking their Doms in a much safer, smarter and sane manner than what is happening now.

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#8 Jul 12, 2012
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I didn’t read the book, I did read some of the reviews.
Here are my thoughts on the subject.
The book just hit the 20 million copies sold mark last week.
Out of those 20 million copies that “moms” brought home, let’s just say that about 10 million of them are going to be stolen by their teenage daughters and read over and over again because it peaks their interest. And because they are interested, they will probably do a bit more research into the subject of BDSM online and in other books.
Hopefully by the time they do reach the age of consent there will be a whole new set of TNG’s that understand the dynamics of these relationships and can go about seeking their Doms in a much safer, smarter and sane manner than what is happening now.
I was just off by 10 million copies... Lol!

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#9 Jul 12, 2012
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I was just off by 10 million copies... Lol!
Actually, I was kind of embarressed to know that fact Specks.

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#10 Jul 12, 2012
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Actually, I was kind of embarressed to know that fact Specks.
I just thought you were being a show-off ha!
achyfi

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#11 Jul 12, 2012
achyfi wrote:
LOL...In these chick lit novels doms are always handsome, powerful, billionaires. In real life many of them are just ordinary losers.
The point I was trying to make is that I don't think this book is going to spawn a whole new batch of female subs. Because they will quickly find out that the real BDSM scene isn't at all glamorous like in the book.

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#12 Jul 12, 2012
achyfi wrote:
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The point I was trying to make is that I don't think this book is going to spawn a whole new batch of female subs. Because they will quickly find out that the real BDSM scene isn't at all glamorous like in the book.
I don't think the book made BDSM sound glamorous from what I hear. As a matter of fact, many people that practice BDSM lifestyles cringed about what was written and how unrealistic it really was. Some are angry with it and say the author didn't even bother to educate herself on the subject before writing the drivel.

At the very least the book may have spawned a bit more action in some otherwise boring bedrooms.

You wrote the "real BDSM scene isn't at all glamorous like in the book"
It's a fantasy novel...no relationship is, BDSM or Vanilla.

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#13 Jul 12, 2012
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I don't think the book made BDSM sound glamorous from what I hear. As a matter of fact, many people that practice BDSM lifestyles cringed about what was written and how unrealistic it really was. Some are angry with it and say the author didn't even bother to educate herself on the subject before writing the drivel.
At the very least the book may have spawned a bit more action in some otherwise boring bedrooms.
You wrote the "real BDSM scene isn't at all glamorous like in the book"
It's a fantasy novel...no relationship is, BDSM or Vanilla.
I make it glamorous... You're welcome.
achyfi

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#14 Jul 12, 2012
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You wrote the "real BDSM scene isn't at all glamorous like in the book"
It's a fantasy novel...no relationship is, BDSM or Vanilla.
Of course, but the kind of women who buy these books, who watch things like "Sex And the City" don't really get that. I can't tell you how many personal ads I've seen posted by women that reference some fictional male character as their way of explaining who they are looking for.

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#15 Jul 12, 2012
Spectacles wrote:
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I make it glamorous... You're welcome.
Yes, but you are not the one who has to clean up the blood, sweat and tears after all is said and done...

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#16 Jul 12, 2012
achyfi wrote:
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Of course, but the kind of women who buy these books, who watch things like "Sex And the City" don't really get that. I can't tell you how many personal ads I've seen posted by women that reference some fictional male character as their way of explaining who they are looking for.
You'll want to avoid anyone who has trouble telling the diff between TV and real life Lol!

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#17 Jul 12, 2012
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Yes, but you are not the one who has to clean up the blood, sweat and tears after all is said and done...
Hey!! Aren't you on my team?!(...and the make-believe Grey guy has a maid who does that for them). The point is that this was a story about a guy who meets an innocent young lady who is a virgin. He teaches her to reach for it a bit... He does help her experiment, but does not push her much at all. She is not subjected to much real pain. In other words, she is submissive, but not into BDSM beyond some bondage and spanking.

Mind you, I didn't read the book, but my girl did. It was quite harmless by her account.

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