Making friends in San Diego

San Diego, CA

#21 Jan 17, 2010
Ilove San Diego....

San Diego, CA

#22 Feb 10, 2010
I moved here from the East Coast (New Jersey) about 15 years ago and I too have had difficulty meeting new people and making new friends. I do have some but I realized that Californians are very selfish, they're only your friends when you don't need them. I recently had knee surgery and was laid up for 4 weeks and in that time my so-called friends never offered anything. My husband was my sole support and I love him for it but it was a lonely time with no one to talk to. I wish I could meet some new girl friends who would truly be my friend. I have such a big heart and would do just about anything for my friends. I am very lonely in San Diego.
michigander again

Riverview, MI

#23 Feb 11, 2010
You opened it, Good luck. Tonight at midnight your true love
will realize they love you
. Something good will happen to you at 1:00 PM - 4:40 PM tomorrow, it could be anywhere. Tonight at midnight they will remember how much they loved you as well. You will get the shock of your life tomorrow, a good one. If you break the chain you will be cursed with relationship problems for the next 2 years. Karma. If there is someone you once loved (or still do) and can't get them out of your mind, repost this in another city within the next five minutes. ItÂ’s amazing how it works!
It is sad when people you know, become people you knew....
It is one of life's tragedies when you meet someone
that you know is meant to be but due to unexpected circumstances and misunderstandings becomes someone you knew.
And when you can walk right past someone that at one time in your life was a big part of your life...
And how you used to be able to talk to them for hours about the little nothings in life...
And now you can barely look at them and they at you...
And all you have left is that aching feeling in your soul...
If you really miss someone a past love and can't seem to get them off your mind...then repost this titled as "I Truly Do Miss You."
Whomever you are missing will surprise you.
Don't break this, for tonight at midnight, your true love will realize they love you.
And...something great will happen to you tomorrow.
Karma: If there is someone you loved or still do and can't get them out of your mind, re-post this in another city.
Tonight they will remember how they love you as well.
You will get the shock of your life tomorrow
Green Cat

United States

#24 Feb 14, 2010
James wrote:
<quoted text>
Wherever you heard that from was correct about hard to forge and maintain deep relationships in SD. I moved to SD in Jan. 2004 from DC and have had trouble making friends. It's definitly a town that's very cliquish. I am 25 and just got my bachelor's from San Diego state and have been working all this time as well. Now that I have more free time I plan to invest more time in meeting people. The general vibe for atleast people my age (20s) is that the guys are really insecure and not intelligent.
The girls are really vain and shallow.
The last sentence is correct!

The guys know that they can't make it without an education!

The girls don't care about any education!Just being pedagogic,popular,and they will slide through the system!

They will sleep,and SLUT their way to the TOP!
a friend

San Diego, CA

#25 Feb 15, 2010
Kim wrote:
Ilove San Diego....
what does your loving san diego have to do with finding friends here?
miss friendly

San Diego, CA

#26 Mar 9, 2010
try or
if you go on a few local activity groups on a regular basis, you will have a new social group within a few weeks
Stay Classy

Encinitas, CA

#27 Mar 9, 2010
I moved to San Diego 7 years ago from the east coast. I must say the east-coasters were more stuffy, closed-minded and just ignorant. However, there are good people everywhere and I made a few long-lasting friends there. The problem was, the town was so small so the pickin's were slim. San Diego is a melting pot of over 3 million people. You're bound to find some nice people if you are a nice person yourself. If you have no friends the problem probably lies with you, not your location.

I find that most San Diegan's are happy. Happy to be living in paradise, happy to be making money (the money is good here), and happy to see sunshine 97% of the time! I have made many more friends here than I did on the east coast, whether they will be long-lasting it's hard to tell since I have been here only 7 years.

Californians do move at a fast pace, though. We drive fast, shop fast and anything you want is readily available at the next street corner. You may have to make plans with friends in advance because most of us work very hard to survive in one of the most expensive housing markets in the United States.

Just so you know, moving to San Diego and starting fresh with a "clean slate" is the best thing I ever did! I was 23 at the time and it completely changed my life. Something about the air here just makes me happy! I would say moving to San Diego will be a great cure for you if you're in a rut. Good luck!
The SD Avenger

Kihei, HI

#28 Mar 27, 2010
All you rubes/rednecks please stay in your own states, no one wants you here. Bad enough we have military scum all over SD.

Fortaleza, Brazil

#29 Apr 25, 2010
Hi...could we mantain contact? I'll go to SD city for a medical meeting. Will be the my 5th traveling to US. I'm from Brazil. Could we mantain contact? I'm searching just for a good friend, anyone that may show the cool points in SD city to know it. Thanks a lot. Regards,

[email protected]
Mitch Conner

El Cajon, CA

#30 Apr 28, 2010
Its no wonder all women have a sharing problem and thats all us guys want is to share our body with yours and vice versa but your all so up tight and anal about it
Joe Dangle

San Ysidro, CA

#32 May 12, 2010
Megan-Go f*ck yourself.

San Diego, CA

#33 Aug 13, 2010
hi i just moved from florida to san diego ca. omg is it hard to make friends here. people are different here. southern people are very welcoming and friendly. here its like a lot of stuck-up girls... i need to meet some normal friends asap. my boyfriend is a marine and deploying in febuary so i wanna have friends to hangout with so im not alone for 8 months. BLAH!

San Diego, CA

#34 Sep 7, 2011
I have lived here since 1997. I am originally from IN but moved here from CO.

It can be hard to find friends here but, I have found it isn't because I can't find friends it's that because of San Diego's strong military presence all of our close friends get shipped off to another station after their time is up here. My hubby and I left here in 02 and moved to LA. I'm not sure who said LA was better but, it was AWFUL for us. They were rude and all we wanted was to get back to San Diego.

If you are open-minded and a true caring person you will have friends here. Some you will have forever and some you will lose touch with but, here has been no different than any of the other places I have lived. It's tough finding friends anywhere but, I do feel like San Diego is an amazing place and I am not making the mistake of leaving here again.

Just a thought...everyone in this forum is talking about having a hard time finding friends...why don't you all meetup and make least you all are looking for the same thing right now. Just a thought.

Good luck to you all and I hope you acquire as many friends as you desire!
The Friends Myth

San Diego, CA

#36 Sep 7, 2011
People think they need friends, really they don't need anyone but themselves. FYI 99% of who you call friends are nothing but people pretending to be. You are living in a fake reality Dorthy, stop pretending.
Dudeimus Prime

Tijuana, Mexico

#37 May 1, 2012
Dude.... listen here mang, no matter where you go there will be d bags and losers and flakes and the list just goes on and on. Big city? You can expect even more of this type of behavior. If you're looking for down home folks, you gotta go to a country town and just be "nice" you'll have friends non stop and a lot of them truly are the salt of the earth types. Big city? People don't really have time for the chit chat and pleasantries so it will take a lot more work to build a meaningful relationship. But as for the term "friends", thats young people talk. We all know "friends" come and go and sometimes they do it with your money, your dog, or your lady.
Charles R Williams

Lowell, MA

#38 Dec 21, 2012
[QUOTE who="Laur
CA is not the best place for long lasting close relationships. I am also from the midwest and CA is very different from OH. We are a very transient state and people here tend to be drinkers, druggies, and very focused on money. Sad but true. NOT everyone but a lot are. People tend to move a lot and tend to be very superficial. Be careful if you choose to move here. VISIT FIRST. Spend a week or two and see if you like it. Don't hang at bars or rough areas. Lots of crime and losers here. Go to church and schools and concerts and theater and meet decent hardworking folks and form friendships there. Be friendly but careful. If anyone sends bad vibes, run. There are lots of singles here but many are messed up, broke, or needing therapy. Hang out in areas that offer sports teams to join, learning and doing educational classes, and the arts, etc., and you'll meet a better class of people. It can be a positive living experience but stay on your toes and ask respectable people for advice and you'll find your way.
There are good people here and fun things to do. Just be more careful than in OH and try it out by visiting first. Get to know someone really well before you trust them.
Good luck.[/QUOTE]
I have visited and im looking forward to moving to the west coast i would like to find a FRIEND preferably female to show me around,I would like to stay in touch and build a bond so i can learn the ins and outs and the places to stay clear of ..I will be on the west coast in feb ,ARE YOU THERE ? IM D/D AND CRIMINAL FREE I JUST WANT TO MEET some good people to help me out when i get there
thank you
Charles R Williams

Lowell, MA

#39 Dec 21, 2012
I have visited and im looking forward to moving to the west coast i would like to find a FRIEND preferably female to show me around,I would like to stay in touch and build a bond so i can learn the ins and outs and the places to stay clear of ..I will be on the west coast in feb ,ARE YOU THERE ? IM D/D AND CRIMINAL FREE I JUST WANT TO MEET some good people to help me out when i get there
thank you
Charles R Williams

Lowell, MA

#40 Dec 21, 2012
By the way im moving from Boston ,Mass and im 46 starting over after my divorce and plan on living life to the fullest and one day find a companion to share time with ,no drama no bullshit just me ....

United States

#41 Mar 9, 2013
im havng hard time finding real friends in sd too

Since: Jul 07


#42 Mar 10, 2013
Megan wrote:
I have read that it's very difficult to forge and maintain deep, meaningful friendships in San Diego. I have wanted to live there for years because of the focus on outdoor recreation, beaches, Balboa Park, etc. However, I am now having serious reservations, as I am a single woman in her early thirties who has experienced difficulty in finding single friends her age in the Midwest. I chose a big city partly because I was hoping to find career-focused singletons like me there, but now I am wondering if I would be just as lonely there as I am here in the Midwest. Can you give me any hope, or should I start looking at other big cities in the U.S. I have fallen in love with San Diego over the years, so I would like to stick to the plan if real friendships there are feasible.
I can't believe one part of the country would be harder to have relationships in.

Lot of idiots in this world.

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