Slain teen 'was loved by so many,' mother says

Full story: San Diego Union-Tribune

Ahlyja Pinson, 14, was the last homicide victim of 2007 in San Diego County. Her life ended with a brutal beating and stabbing.
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Jan 5, 2008
 
My daughter formerly went to middle school with Ahlyja and it was well-known among many students that Ahlyjah was involved in a number of high risk activities-This was possibly due to lack of parental supervision or other problems, however, this should be a wake up call to middle school parents, our children need to be supervised!!!!!!!!!! We need to know where they are going, with whom, how they are getting from and to, and drive them and walk them to the door, and MEET THE PARENTS!!! We need to talk to our kids, and not assume everything is fine, just because they're not bugging us!!! We are very sorry to hear about Ahlyja and wish her family the best.
cassandra garcia

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Jan 7, 2008
 
damn i cant believ your gone babygurl it seems like just yesterday that we were talking on myspace and u were telling me that u were so exited to come back to skool and too see us again i was really hoping i wouls see you but like they say god does things for a reason and we all know that u r in a better place and u watching over us just hope we can find your killer and damn gurl just to let you know we all gonna be missing you and u will always be in outr hearts love u
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your friend cassandra
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Jan 7, 2008
 
the story needs to be told about what was really going on in this family. Please come forward and share anything that may expain why a 14 year old girl would really be in this situation. Where was the mom, for real? I remember that she lived in Golden Hill a year or so ago. Why are there so many half-truths. This student was also a runaway several times over. Why was there no intervention? There are many inaccuracies in all of the stories printed in the paper. What is the truth?
Prysma Mejia

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Jan 8, 2008
 
ay Ahlyja i LovE yU!...MammAz AmA MisS yU!=(
Elcyn Aguilar

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Jan 9, 2008
 
Man Ahlyja i know ur wit all of us waching us and WE R ALL GOING 2 MISS U.......I LOV U babbyGurl ur alwayz going 2 be in our HAERTZ........
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Jan 9, 2008
 
Mom wrote:
My daughter formerly went to middle school with Ahlyja and it was well-known among many students that Ahlyjah was involved in a number of high risk activities-This was possibly due to lack of parental supervision or other problems, however, this should be a wake up call to middle school parents, our children need to be supervised!!!!!!!!!! We need to know where they are going, with whom, how they are getting from and to, and drive them and walk them to the door, and MEET THE PARENTS!!! We need to talk to our kids, and not assume everything is fine, just because they're not bugging us!!! We are very sorry to hear about Ahlyja and wish her family the best.
I belive our system and families fail our children. I am a parent of three boys. Proud to say that they are all great sons (not showing off), but making a statement of being a responsible parent. As parent wemust be aware where your children are all the time. I would like to have my own free time (of course), but, I have children and they are my responsibility. I* have heard over and over, "Mom the other kids do it, why can't I". My respond is, "You are my child". Therefore I keep an eye on them. I work two jobs, and keep up with them. I know we are not home base free, EVER. But, parents keep an eye on your children. If your the child smeels weird, acts weird, or dresses in a way that is not acceptable, FIX IT!! Also our system fails our children. Was there a school counselor that noticed something diffenrent. Maybe a teacher and did not report it? We should all keep an eye out for other children as well, I do.
yesenia hernandez

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Jan 9, 2008
 
damn well i cant believe it well i wasnt really close to you but the times i talked to you you were pretty sick with it all i got to say is that were going to find out who did that to you youll alwayz be in our hearts
~*R.I.P. AHLYJA PINSON*~
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Jan 10, 2008
 
Damn Ahlyja i know wasnt really all that close to you but you were cool and i talked to you many times and you would always tell me that your parent was abusive and thats why you always ran away. its just sad how you were real excited to come back with us to school but you never made it. only a moster would murder someone the way they did you. we will catch the person that did this to you. i know your you in a better place and watching all of us. Peace
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Jan 10, 2008
 
It's just so sad that some parents don't think that something like this can happen to them. We need to understand that this world is not full of good people. There are very many sick people out there and we have to do our best to protect our children. The postings from other parents, I completely agree with all of you. I have a 13 year old daughter who thinks I am too strict when I talk to the parents' of her friends before I drive her to their homes or when I ask for first and last names of the parents, how she met her friend, whether they share a class together or simply attend the same school. All of these questions I ask are because I am worried and love her and I hear too many stories on the news about the crazy people in our world. I want to make sure I did all I could to make sure my daughter is safe. Unfortunately sometimes that is not enough. Sure my daughter gets mad at me but it doesn't matter what she thinks right now. When she grows up and has a family of her own, she will understand. She is not at the age to make decisions like taking the city bus or walk down the street alone. This is our responsibility,to make the decisions that are in our childrens best interest. I really feel for the Pinson family and hope that we can all learn from this sad sad situation. My heart goes out to all of her family and friends. May Ahlyja Pinson rest in peace and the evil animal that took her life rot in hell.
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Jan 10, 2008
 
I never really got all that close to Ahlyja but she was sooo nice. My first day she offered me to sit with her in case i had no one to sit with. She made me feel very welcome and i can't believe any one would do this. It is a terrible thing. But why are we blaming the parents on here when they just lost a daughter. maybe they should have kept a better eye on her but think about what they must feel.
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Jan 10, 2008
 
I am sorry if I my post was taken as me blaming her family. That was not my intent and after I read my posting over again, I can see how it can be taken that way. I don't know what I would do if I were Ahlyja Pinson mother. I am sorry. My point was that sometimes when we hear about sad stories like this, we can try to learn from them. Unfortunately this terrible thing had to happen to the Pinson family. May Ahlyja Pinson rest in peace. She is with the Angel's now in heaven and safe. Please accept my apology. My deepest condolences go out to the Pinson family.
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Jan 11, 2008
 
man i cant belive your gone we have been homies since we met i will always miss you
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Jan 11, 2008
 
"Also our system fails our children. Was there a school counselor that noticed something diffenrent. Maybe a teacher and did not report it? We should all keep an eye out for other children as well, I do."

--The first thing to notice that was "different" was when she ran away. She did not show up to school for 2 weeks. When she returned, her attendance was sporadic, unbtil she eventually stopped showing up altogether. So what exactly is the "system" that fails "our" children? RIP, Ahlyja.
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Jan 11, 2008
 
Community parent wrote:
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I belive our system and families fail our children. I am a parent of three boys. Proud to say that they are all great sons (not showing off), but making a statement of being a responsible parent. As parent wemust be aware where your children are all the time. I would like to have my own free time (of course), but, I have children and they are my responsibility. I* have heard over and over, "Mom the other kids do it, why can't I". My respond is, "You are my child". Therefore I keep an eye on them. I work two jobs, and keep up with them. I know we are not home base free, EVER. But, parents keep an eye on your children. If your the child smeels weird, acts weird, or dresses in a way that is not acceptable, FIX IT!! Also our system fails our children. Was there a school counselor that noticed something diffenrent. Maybe a teacher and did not report it? We should all keep an eye out for other children as well, I do.
--The first thing to notice that was "different" was when she ran away. She did not show up to school for 2 weeks. When she returned, her attendance was sporadic, unbtil she eventually stopped showing up altogether. So what exactly is the "system" that fails "our" children? RIP, Ahlyja.
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Jan 11, 2008
 
dam its to bab youdied i will always miss you and i know we will always be in your heart we have been friends since 6 grade ilove you for ever will miss you R.I.P Ahlyja :|
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Jan 11, 2008
 
dam its to bad you died i will always miss you and i know we will always be in your heart we have been friends since 6 grade ilove you for ever will miss you R.I.P Ahlyja :|
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Jan 11, 2008
 
This has to be one of the sades stores that I have ever heard ,, I never meet her , yet i feel sorro for her family ,,GOD BLESS ,
Mom of Alyha friend

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Jan 12, 2008
 
This young lady obviously had to many liberties at home, but I too grew up in a home where there was more comfort from friends on the street than home.This unfortunate tragedy has given my daughter prospective , she is starting to get why , her father , and I are so strict, and perhaps those friends , and you know who you are in our childrens life can lighten up on the bad influences , and pure pressures you place on the kids who are not as popular or pretty or trendy enough. When I think of how selfish this generation of kids are , I get terrified.They have no sympathy , no manners, no regard for anyone else or themselves, and no respect for there elders or teachers. We as parents , and people in general need to place our children and our life's in GOD's hands , and return to the morals and beliefs we were suppose to have from the very beginning, and we wonder why all these horrible things happen. What did we expect we are trying to take GOD out of everything, and let everything that is morally wrong in, and this is not the preaching of some right wing nut ,but a 31 yr old mother that has a relationship with GOD, and still has to raise 3 successful children in this world. I hope to GOD this young girls mother was not being neglective. We mothers know that if that was the case , she will never forgive herself, and that is punishment enough for her. Lets stop pointing fingers , and help eachother protect our children.
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Jan 15, 2008
 
Respond to, "Teacher".
I wonder if this was reported to CPS. When she ran away, Did a conselor speak to the parent? Did a counselor speak to her? Did we as a society, I mean teachers, parents, counselors, etc. offer assistance? I understand that we are all busy, but my point is, this child is in a better place, but the children that we can touch today or tomorrow. We all need to get involved. I understand that there are children that get involved in dangerous activities and no one can change. I am saying that as a paremnt and a health care providers, we should reach out. I have many times. I AM NOT PERFECT, I have not reached out enough, I am sure. I am saying to try to reach out. May this child RIP and my toughts and prayers are with this child's family.
I do pray that they find the beast that did this to this child.
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Jan 17, 2008
 
ummmm hey i hardly even know you but when i first heard from a friend that you have been murderd... i didnt believe them ppssh no i just knew that you were supposed to come to school on monday and get welcomed from all your friends but when i got into a different class my teacher had shared us about your story on what had happen to you...
what i really want to say to you is that you're in a better place and you wont suffer anymore..:]]
REST IN PEACE
AHLYJA PINSON

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