Mississippi and inter-racial marriage

Mississippi and inter-racial marriage

There are 42 comments on the Examiner.com story from Apr 14, 2011, titled Mississippi and inter-racial marriage. In it, Examiner.com reports that:

Earlier this week, Jackson's Clarion-Ledger newspaper reported that according to a recent poll, 46% of Republicans in Mississippi and 18% of Democrats in Mississippi believe inter-racial marriage should be illegal.

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ctown70

Since: Aug 10

Kilmichael, MS

#22 Jun 8, 2011
Surrounded by Idiots wrote:
Sweetheart my self esteem level is a 10+! Also I was speaking to anybody in this forum that agrees with this article.
I assumed you'd answer that.
Surrounded by Idiots

United States

#23 Jun 8, 2011
You assumed right. Anymore nosey little questions to enlighten your boring little life?
i think

Laurel, MS

#24 Jun 8, 2011
Crinolines wrote:
Who in the world wants to condemn people for finding LOVE? Come on people. Just because you choose what makes you happy, why bitch about other people's happiness? Or are you so miserable with your own life choices, you think you need to direct everyone else's chances for happiness.

LORD, GOD ALMIGHTY, PLEASE BE WITH THESE PEOPLE! The best thing we have in this world is to find some happiness. Don't condemn someone for finding there's. Do you and we'll ALL be happier.
Amen! People look at the outside of a person, but God looks at the heart.
i think

Laurel, MS

#25 Jun 8, 2011
all depends wrote:
<quoted text>depends on what circles you hang around. if you are a poor republican or old democrat and most in MS are one or the other, you're probably racist. if you are a country club republican, which you may be, then obviously you don't care about interracial marriage as much if at all. a byproduct of a decent education as well as not seeing poor black people as a sexual threat to your family will make you naturally more tolerant.

stop attacking the poll. or do your own. just cause your friends don't admit they're racist doesn't mean most of mississippi ain't racist. it's embarrassing for all us mississippi folk for real, but i don't think the point of the lady posting this was to attack Republicans. she was just looking to vent because she felt under scrutiny by a society that's mostly manners and no class.

happy hating, haters!
Wow. I'm certainly no 'country club republican'. I am a hard working conservative Christian who understands that there are cultural differences between everyone but that we all bleed the same color blood and that we are all created equally the same.
i think

Laurel, MS

#26 Jun 8, 2011
Also, i vote for a person's set of values and track record and not on skin color.

ctown70

Since: Aug 10

Kilmichael, MS

#27 Jun 8, 2011
Surrounded by Idiots wrote:
You assumed right. Anymore nosey little questions to enlighten your boring little life?
Sure. You up for answering them, though?

Since: Apr 11

Corinth

#28 Jun 8, 2011
TRUTH wrote:
IT SHOULD BE ILLEGAL... There is no reason that a nice white or black person cannot find a person of there own race... White girls just do it to piss off daddy's and get them locked up for murder
Why you think they just do that to piss off their daddy? My nephew dates both but seems to fall more for white girls. That's fine with me but it is always a small ounce of worry in me when they go out bc I know there are some hateful ppl in this world. People are going to love who they want no matter what laws are passed.

ctown70

Since: Aug 10

Kilmichael, MS

#29 Jun 8, 2011
Caramel Skin wrote:
<quoted text>Why you think they just do that to piss off their daddy? My nephew dates both but seems to fall more for white girls. That's fine with me but it is always a small ounce of worry in me when they go out bc I know there are some hateful ppl in this world. People are going to love who they want no matter what laws are passed.
Is your nephew black? If so, why do you think he chooses white girls over other girls?

Since: Apr 11

Corinth

#30 Jun 8, 2011
ctown70 wrote:
<quoted text>
Is your nephew black? If so, why do you think he chooses white girls over other girls?
Yes, he is black. I really can't say why bc he can never tell me exactly why and we are very,very close. My grandmother had 17 grandkids, out of that was 9 boys, 6 of the 9 are either married to or have/do date white girls. Even I have dated a white guy so I'm guessing it's just in his blood.

ctown70

Since: Aug 10

Kilmichael, MS

#31 Jun 8, 2011
Caramel Skin wrote:
<quoted text>Yes, he is black. I really can't say why bc he can never tell me exactly why and we are very,very close. My grandmother had 17 grandkids, out of that was 9 boys, 6 of the 9 are either married to or have/do date white girls. Even I have dated a white guy so I'm guessing it's just in his blood.
What do you think about black guys dating white women? I'm assuming you are, in fact, a black woman.

Since: Apr 11

Corinth

#32 Jun 8, 2011
ctown70 wrote:
<quoted text>
What do you think about black guys dating white women? I'm assuming you are, in fact, a black woman.
I showed exactly who I was last week even though I was still told I wasn't but again I'm black. If you just read my comment then you would see I could care less about interracial dating. I've dated a white guy. Why get mad bc a black guy wants to go out with a white girl? If that's what makes them happy, they should go for it!
FDS

Show Low, AZ

#33 Jun 8, 2011
I personally think that whatever 2 adults want to do in the privacy of their home is up to them.

But I've seen a lot of mixed-race kids being raised by their white grandparents and also mixed-race kids being raised by single white mothers. I personally think that if black men want to date white women they need to commit to them. If they don't want to marry them then they need to at least support the children they father and not dump them off onto the welfare system.

I also think people outside of the deep south don't understand that its not like Atlanta or Los Angeles or New York. There is no diversity. There are blacks & then there are whites & then there are a few Asians and a few hispanics and both of those groups keep to themselves by and large.

The problem with interracial children if they grow up in the south is that, especially if they live in these small towns neither their black or white relatives accept them.

I work with a mixed-race woman who told me that her black father's side of the family stopped associating with her years ago and her white family disowned her & her mother around the time she was born and only help them out or see them on occasion.

So especially in these small towns where family is everything its a bad idea to have interracial kids because they're not accepted by either major racial group. They have trouble finding friends, they're usually outcasts, they usually have abandonment issues etc.

Should interracial marriage be outlawed? No. But should it be discouraged in the deep south? Yes.

Bigger cities are a different ball game all together. People have more opportunities to get ahead & people are generally more tolerant and accepting of differences. People who are mixed can have friends of different races.

But when you come to Alabama or Mississippi to these tiny cities and a black woman has a kid with a white guy or vice versa....its not really accepted by either side and generally that child is going to have lots of trouble and a rough life unless he or she is lucky enough to have a kind family.
FDS

Show Low, AZ

#34 Jun 8, 2011
ctown70 wrote:
<quoted text>
What do you think about black guys dating white women? I'm assuming you are, in fact, a black woman.
Here on the coast I've met lots of black women who hate it when their men date white women. I think people who aren't from here would be shocked to discover often times its black people themselves who don't like the mixing.

I know a white woman married to a black man and both were disowned by their families. It goes both ways.

But its not simply a case of KKK vs normal people any more. Interracial relationships are quite common in Mississippi. And a lot of the dislike comes from both sides.

And as I said above, usually the kids aren't accepted by anybody. It's usually good for the people either to move or not to have kids.

Since: Apr 11

Corinth

#35 Jun 8, 2011
FDS wrote:
I personally think that whatever 2 adults want to do in the privacy of their home is up to them.
But I've seen a lot of mixed-race kids being raised by their white grandparents and also mixed-race kids being raised by single white mothers. I personally think that if black men want to date white women they need to commit to them. If they don't want to marry them then they need to at least support the children they father and not dump them off onto the welfare system.
I also think people outside of the deep south don't understand that its not like Atlanta or Los Angeles or New York. There is no diversity. There are blacks & then there are whites & then there are a few Asians and a few hispanics and both of those groups keep to themselves by and large.
The problem with interracial children if they grow up in the south is that, especially if they live in these small towns neither their black or white relatives accept them.
I work with a mixed-race woman who told me that her black father's side of the family stopped associating with her years ago and her white family disowned her & her mother around the time she was born and only help them out or see them on occasion.
So especially in these small towns where family is everything its a bad idea to have interracial kids because they're not accepted by either major racial group. They have trouble finding friends, they're usually outcasts, they usually have abandonment issues etc.
Should interracial marriage be outlawed? No. But should it be discouraged in the deep south? Yes.
Bigger cities are a different ball game all together. People have more opportunities to get ahead & people are generally more tolerant and accepting of differences. People who are mixed can have friends of different races.
But when you come to Alabama or Mississippi to these tiny cities and a black woman has a kid with a white guy or vice versa....its not really accepted by either side and generally that child is going to have lots of trouble and a rough life unless he or she is lucky enough to have a kind family.
I totally understand what you are saying but that's not always the case.Some families want to be around the kids but not given the chance. I have one mixed niece. She is the only one me nor my mom gets to see regularly. My brother is not in her life due to other issues but me and my mom try to be. Her mother acts like we owe her something. I mean she will call and be so rude and be like she need a case of pampers and I don't have gas to come to your house so you need to bring them to me. JUST RUDE! Then she started taking the baby to my brothers wife so that her other siblings could see her. That lasted about a month. She had the nerve to ask my 13yr old jobless niece for gas money if she wanted to see her sister. She got mad bc my Mom was suppose to get her one morning when she got off. My mom is a charge nurse and they were short handed at the end of her shift so she had to stay over. She call the girl and tells her this and she got mad at my mom. I could understand if the girl had a job to get to but she has never worked. It's like we basically have to buy time with her. We got to get her every other weekend Oct-Dec but after Christmas that was it. Now her birthday is in a few days so I have been hearing from her since the 1st. I myself have got fed up with it and it's easy for me to walk away and say forget it but that's my mothers grandchild and she could never do that. She will be 2 and if the Lord says the same before this year is up we will have some visitation rights.

Since: Apr 11

Corinth

#36 Jun 8, 2011
FDS wrote:
<quoted text>
Here on the coast I've met lots of black women who hate it when their men date white women. I think people who aren't from here would be shocked to discover often times its black people themselves who don't like the mixing.
I know a white woman married to a black man and both were disowned by their families. It goes both ways.
But its not simply a case of KKK vs normal people any more. Interracial relationships are quite common in Mississippi. And a lot of the dislike comes from both sides.
And as I said above, usually the kids aren't accepted by anybody. It's usually good for the people either to move or not to have kids.
I think it use to be alot of black girls that didn't like it but now who cares.I see alot of white girls and black girls hanging together now
FDS

Show Low, AZ

#37 Jun 8, 2011
Caramel Skin wrote:
<quoted text>I think it use to be alot of black girls that didn't like it but now who cares.I see alot of white girls and black girls hanging together now
Again, I can only speak for the southern part of the state. I also lived in Jackson for a time and near Philadelphia, MS for a time. In those places and here, you do see it, don't get me wrong. But again, even if blacks & whites associate in terms of business, they usually don't mix business & pleasure if you will.

Or if they do, people shun them. I saw that a lot. Even with people who were more accepted their friends stopped hanging out with them as much, they stopped going out as much, etc.

Its easy to say 'well let the motherf**kers get over it.' Well, they do. And maybe that's the problem.

Maybe they get over it and just shun the people. And its been my regrettable experience that blacks do much the same. In fact I knew a white dude who was sleeping with a sista and 2 black guys who lived near her told the white guy to stop dating her because they didn't like it.

It's not so much racist as in its built out of hate as both sides just sort of have a way of doing things and people who deviate from that are treated as outcasts from most people I know of both races.

As I said, if people want to pursue an interracial relationship its usually better to move to a bigger city, and by that I don't mean New Orleans or Memphis.

I mean like Atlanta or Dallas or Houston.
FDS

Show Low, AZ

#38 Jun 8, 2011
Caramel Skin wrote:
<quoted text>I totally understand what you are saying but that's not always the case.Some families want to be around the kids but not given the chance. I have one mixed niece. She is the only one me nor my mom gets to see regularly. My brother is not in her life due to other issues but me and my mom try to be. Her mother acts like we owe her something. I mean she will call and be so rude and be like she need a case of pampers and I don't have gas to come to your house so you need to bring them to me. JUST RUDE! Then she started taking the baby to my brothers wife so that her other siblings could see her. That lasted about a month. She had the nerve to ask my 13yr old jobless niece for gas money if she wanted to see her sister. She got mad bc my Mom was suppose to get her one morning when she got off. My mom is a charge nurse and they were short handed at the end of her shift so she had to stay over. She call the girl and tells her this and she got mad at my mom. I could understand if the girl had a job to get to but she has never worked. It's like we basically have to buy time with her. We got to get her every other weekend Oct-Dec but after Christmas that was it. Now her birthday is in a few days so I have been hearing from her since the 1st. I myself have got fed up with it and it's easy for me to walk away and say forget it but that's my mothers grandchild and she could never do that. She will be 2 and if the Lord says the same before this year is up we will have some visitation rights.
See that's the problem I have. The whole half-sibling mess. It just makes things so dirty & complicated. And I don't know your family's situation & with all due respect but if your brother isn't in the child's life why did he have the kid?

And that's the thing about the kid -- they cost money. I hope the baby mama isn't on welfare. That's exactly what I'm talking about. Everything costs money. I think you may wanna get used to being hit up. The whole point is that the child needs diapers and all that and that's why I said its a bad idea to have kids outside of wedlock and then the father cuts & runs and its treated just kind of like 'meh, it'll work itself out.'

I don't vote and I'm not Democratic or a Republican but I'm smart enough to see welfare and food stamps aren't going to exist in 20 or 30 years. Or if they do, they'll be a fraction of what they are now and even now they're pretty pathetic.

I think we need to go ahead and ingrain this sense of responsibility into people now and we need to beat the child abandonment out of people. Because pretty soon - children are going to starve to death.

White flight is already bad. This state will be majority African-American in another ten or so years and when that happens taxes are going to rise and people are going to leave, both black and white.

Again, with all due respect to your family, I think your brother made a very stupid choice. I hope the child isn't on welfare. And if it is, chances are its the last generation that will get it. And idk what the white mother's family is like but I wouldn't be shocked if they don't accept the child the way you do.

I really think you need to approach this from an honest pov. People aren't as generous as they would like to believe.

Since: Apr 11

Corinth

#39 Jun 8, 2011
I agree with what you are saying. Actually my brother was separated when they took up with each other and it's really no doubt in my mind he would of married her if he was divorced. He is incarcerated now that's why I say he's not in her life. I'm sure she is on welfare bc she order a blood test last year and he sent the results to me so that me and my mom could have something proven he is her father. It was also another guy that could of been. In order to get food stamp you have to put the men on child support. Although I don't know how she could be getting them when she moves from house to house. I don't mind buying anything but I don't think it's right that that is the only way we can see her.It's like she run the show! The question about Her family is....well lets just say considering my brother was a bad seed I will leave the answer to that alone. All I can say last year at her birthday party the things I seen honestly upset me and I thought about trying to get full custody. I'm sure in a few days I will need a sedative after the upcoming festivities as well. ;)
FDS

Show Low, AZ

#40 Jun 9, 2011
Caramel Skin wrote:
I agree with what you are saying. Actually my brother was separated when they took up with each other and it's really no doubt in my mind he would of married her if he was divorced. He is incarcerated now that's why I say he's not in her life. I'm sure she is on welfare bc she order a blood test last year and he sent the results to me so that me and my mom could have something proven he is her father. It was also another guy that could of been. In order to get food stamp you have to put the men on child support. Although I don't know how she could be getting them when she moves from house to house. I don't mind buying anything but I don't think it's right that that is the only way we can see her.It's like she run the show! The question about Her family is....well lets just say considering my brother was a bad seed I will leave the answer to that alone. All I can say last year at her birthday party the things I seen honestly upset me and I thought about trying to get full custody. I'm sure in a few days I will need a sedative after the upcoming festivities as well. ;)
I'm glad you see that your brother's actions are stupid. I say this because the fact that I'm even bringing this up should be an alarm bell to people.

Turn on CNN or NBC or Fox or whatever tv channel you watch. Even Obama is talking now about slashing government spending. As the economy gets worse - people are getting more & more selfish. Demands to raise taxes on older richer people will be met with resistance and as I said, white flight is already occurring. The African-Americans like you and your mother who work good jobs are going to start leaving the state as well if they can't make a good enough living.

And whether they be white or black mothers, the child abandonment shit has to stop. And yes, I know white men do it but just consult the US Census Bureau numbers, you've heard the stat that somewhere between 70-75% of black children are born out of wedlock. I imagine mixed-race kids are of similar background.

I mentioned the kid's white family because like I told you, they're probably shunning the mother & the child. Trust me, I've found out the rough way over the years that peoples' kindness has a short lifespan & you can wear out your welcome & goodwill real fast if you aren't careful. And I'm a white person....if they're a mixed-race person they're probably an even bigger outcast.

And if the mother's on welfare - again, with all due respect, I'm paying the bill for your brother. Both his jail costs & also the welfare for the kid.

I hope you do get custody. The way you're making it sound its a nightmare all around. Good luck to you.

And my very strong advice to you is if you are a nurse as well, and I don't know that you are, but I'd consider moving to Atlanta or Houston or Dallas. That's where all the work is.

Good luck, hopefully you can resolve this.

Since: Apr 11

Corinth

#41 Jun 9, 2011
Thank you and I'm sure we will be getting things wrapped up in the next few months...She has a new baby and he's not mixed so...yeah I feel like it maybe a big difference among the two children.That saying I read on here every other day, that once they go black they can't come back, doesn't seem to apply here lol

Oh I'm not a nurse, just my mom but she has only worked here for 2yrs out of 27, she works in TN

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