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Mario

Mozambique

#1 Jan 4, 2007
An SDA couple lives together before legal marriage but with the concent of the parents. if the couple decides to go on to the legal marriage can this marriage be blessed at the church? If possible I would like to have references to the Bible and/or manual. I hear within SDA this is done differently from country to country.
Mario
Luke

Point Cook, Australia

#2 Jan 5, 2007
Not all Adventists follow the Bible. If they did, they would not live together before marriage as if they are married. It doesn't matter if the parents concent to it, because God doesn't.
Daniel

Warner, Australia

#3 Apr 9, 2007
I'm sorry Mario, but God does not want us to live together before we are married. Even if the engaged couple does not sleep together, there is an appearance of fornication and some unbelievers may look at them and think it is an ok practice for Christians. It does not matter what the individual church pastor says, it is wrong. God bless you brother
Carribean

United States

#4 Sep 26, 2007
I true seven day advetist person would not have sex before marriage. Thats the rules to pretend you dont see it
buddy

Los Angeles, CA

#5 Sep 28, 2007
Carribean wrote:
I true seven day advetist person would not have sex before marriage. Thats the rules to pretend you dont see it
Carribean,
It goes a bit further than that. TO say those are the roles and that's that is not right. We have to rememeber, our bodies are a Temple for the Holy Spirit. We must keep those Temples clean or we can't house the Holy Spirit...I'm guilty too, trust me..lol!
buddy

Los Angeles, CA

#6 Sep 28, 2007
Mario wrote:
An SDA couple lives together before legal marriage but with the concent of the parents. if the couple decides to go on to the legal marriage can this marriage be blessed at the church? If possible I would like to have references to the Bible and/or manual. I hear within SDA this is done differently from country to country.
Mario
The marriage of course will be blessed...
Carribean

United States

#7 Sep 28, 2007
I agree with you buddy the body is a temple and it belongs to god. Its hard to get that message through to people these day.
A Friend

Plainfield, IL

#8 Sep 29, 2007
Mario,
I would like to know if the couple believe they are married, just haven't had the legal part yet. I know different cultures have different practices. I also know that the SDA church and God are two different things. The SDA church claims to follow God's wishes, but this is not always the case. Making a marriage legal does not make a marriage blessed. If the couple are truely doing their best to follow God's principles then no one has the right to judge them. They would be wise to pray about it and then listen for God's answer. He has promised to lead us you know. I wish them all the happiness they can handle. I have been very happily married for thirty years. God Bless!
buddy

Los Angeles, CA

#9 Oct 1, 2007
Carribean wrote:
I agree with you buddy the body is a temple and it belongs to god. Its hard to get that message through to people these day.
Yup!
Daniel

Australia

#10 Nov 25, 2007
A Friend wrote:
Mario,
I would like to know if the couple believe they are married, just haven't had the legal part yet. I know different cultures have different practices. I also know that the SDA church and God are two different things. The SDA church claims to follow God's wishes, but this is not always the case. Making a marriage legal does not make a marriage blessed. If the couple are truely doing their best to follow God's principles then no one has the right to judge them. They would be wise to pray about it and then listen for God's answer. He has promised to lead us you know. I wish them all the happiness they can handle. I have been very happily married for thirty years. God Bless!
We need to follow the law of the land in marriage, so that we avoid the appearance of evil. It is not enough to say we are married "in God's eyes". That is fornication. A marriage needs to be solemnised publicly, before God and man, with vows.
doshmiff

Hammondville, Australia

#11 Nov 27, 2007
If the couple have committed a sin by living together, then I think that before they are to be married, they should consecrate themselves to God, and then ask for forgivness, and then I believe that their marriage would be blessed.
jurgens

AOL

#12 Nov 28, 2007
The wedding-practices in the ancient Jewish economy and the ones in Western culture differs on many points. If two people love each other and decide to be husband and wife..and live together, they are not committing fornication..they are betrothed one to another and no "government" has any say in it..as much as they would like to get the marriage licence fee. It would be good to ask a pastor or elder to offer a prayer or perform some sort of ritual in the family..if desired.
Adventist

Fort Myers, FL

#13 May 18, 2008
Here is Paul on marriage, does anyone have something on living together before marriage...
1 Corinthians 7
Marriage
1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 18Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. 19Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. 20Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him. 21Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord's freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. 23You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. 24Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.
Adventist

Fort Myers, FL

#14 May 18, 2008
25Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord's mercy is trustworthy. 26Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are. 27Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

29What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none; 30those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; 31those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.

32I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

36If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married. 37But the man who has settled the matter in his own mind, who is under no compulsion but has control over his own will, and who has made up his mind not to marry the virgin—this man also does the right thing. 38So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does even better.[b]

39A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. 40In my judgment, she is happier if she stays as she is—and I think that I too have the Spirit of God.
Adventist

Fort Myers, FL

#15 May 18, 2008
Paul goes into marriage and virgins, but every person must decide what is right from scripture and what is sins of the flesh...
Terrilyn

Australia

#16 May 18, 2008
The virgins, sorry to have to correct Adventist on this very imoportant Bible point are virgins becasue they have not corrupted themselves with adulterous doctrines, the wine of Babylon, false docrines of the Devil the Dragon, Satan. Virgins the five wise have doctrins that are pure and un-adulterated TRUTH.
Adventist

Fort Myers, FL

#17 May 18, 2008
I dont think even the Catholics believe that one......
Mburu-Kenya

Nairobi, Kenya

#18 Oct 26, 2009
We are all one big family with God as our father and therefore we share common values regardless of cultures or races.our adherance to this values is an element of our own choice since they bind us together and help us keep our relationship right with our Father.

If YOU CHOOSE TO KEEP THE VALUES and BIBILICAL principles then your concience will judge you right or wrong.
nicholas sibanda

South Africa

#19 Apr 8, 2011
iam looking for a seventh day adventist for a serios relationship,iam 31 years old cellphone 0847299311 in south africa
Diane

Quezon City, Philippines

#20 Feb 5, 2013
i am a catholic and my boyfriend is an adventist.. and were planning to get married soon, do i need to be converted to adventist first before we get married? weve been together for 7 years now and we respect each others religious views.. infact, we never argue on each others beliefs. Is it ok if i will remain as catholic and the same way as he remain as adventist.. Thanks a lot..

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