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kacy ma

London, UK

#1 Dec 27, 2009
how to stop my husbands porn obsession?
i have tried airing my views about it but that only made him start hiding the porn, concealing the sites on the internet and putting passwords on certain porn computer files.
he is Adventist but not a fully member and hasnt been baptised yet.
please help
Amish

Mountain Grove, MO

#2 Dec 27, 2009
Do you (the wife) work?

Do you need to do this? Financially or just because you want a career?

Since: Jul 09

United States

#3 Dec 27, 2009
kacy ma wrote:
how to stop my husbands porn obsession?
i have tried airing my views about it but that only made him start hiding the porn, concealing the sites on the internet and putting passwords on certain porn computer files.
he is Adventist but not a fully member and hasnt been baptised yet.
please help
You should join him.
GEN 2V24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
His4everFriend

Chetwynd, Canada

#4 Dec 27, 2009
Dear kacy ma:

My heart goes out to you for what you must be experiencing right now. The emotions that most women face as they are facing this usualy start with betrayal, which leads to discouragment, despair, and finally hopelesness.

I am not sure where you are right now but I want to encourage you that there IS HOPE ! You are not alone in facing this and if you are WILLING TO BE STRONG then we can and will get through this.

The whole porn adiction is not easy to break yet God has taught me a few things that may be helpful to you in this struggle. While I have no connection with your husband yet if you are willing to follow a few Bible principle's then I can help walk you through what will likley be your best shot at victory for both you... and your husband.

So in starting this we need to look at where we are at and then plan a stragedy.

- How is your relationship with your husband ?

- are you able to comunicate without it turning into a fight?

- here is the most important question... it's simple... but tells me how much work we have to resolve this.

have you been your husnand's "girlfriend" ?

I need an "honest" answer to that last question if I am able to be of any help to you. So please help me there so I can help you through this.

God Bless

His4everFriend
Elizabeth

Hallett, Australia

#5 Dec 27, 2009
kacy ma wrote:
how to stop my husbands porn obsession?
i have tried airing my views about it but that only made him start hiding the porn, concealing the sites on the internet and putting passwords on certain porn computer files.
he is Adventist but not a fully member and hasnt been baptised yet.
please help
Sorry to hear about that problem honey:-( I believe it is quite addictive similar to gambling. I also belive hisfreidnforever really wants to help you and is genuine.
These people may also be able to help you, email them.

http://www.missionserenity.com.au/

Elizabeth

Since: Jul 09

United States

#6 Dec 27, 2009
Gen 3v7
And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they [were] naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.

Yep.. They both pointed the shame stick at each other.
Elizabeth

Hallett, Australia

#7 Dec 27, 2009
Messenger4truth wrote:
Gen 3v7
And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they [were] naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.
Yep.. They both pointed the shame stick at each other.
would you like to clarify the point you a making a little clearer messenger4thruth? I didn't understand you last point either.

Since: Jul 09

United States

#8 Dec 27, 2009
Read and comprehend.
Elizabeth

Hallett, Australia

#9 Dec 27, 2009
Messenger4truth wrote:
Read and comprehend.
precisously the response I was expecting as it turns out;-)

Since: Jul 09

United States

#10 Dec 27, 2009
Instead of the bored house wife shame game.. She needs to enjoy her husband. I think the scriptures are fairly open here..

She can't change him, but she can do herself a favor and enjoy him.

Hope that helps..
Elizabeth

Hallett, Australia

#11 Dec 27, 2009
Messenger4truth wrote:
Instead of the bored house wife shame game.. She needs to enjoy her husband. I think the scriptures are fairly open here..
She can't change him, but she can do herself a favor and enjoy him.
Hope that helps..
hope this helps...

not really just shows more of your mindset, ignorance, arrogance and spirit.

Since: Jul 09

United States

#12 Dec 27, 2009
Elizabeth wrote:
<quoted text>
hope this helps...
not really just shows more of your mindset, ignorance, arrogance and spirit.
Divorce isn't part of my mind set, solution is.

Condemning me for wanting to see the two as one flesh.. Shows your own independent, arrogant and intolerant shrewess attitude.

Since: Jul 09

United States

#13 Dec 27, 2009
shrew - 2 : an ill-tempered scolding woman
Elizabeth

Hallett, Australia

#14 Dec 27, 2009
Messenger4truth wrote:
<quoted text>
Divorce isn't part of my mind set, solution is.
Condemning me for wanting to see the two as one flesh.. Shows your own independent, arrogant and intolerant shrewess attitude.
:-) who said they wanted them divorced? who said they were not one flesh anyway? Most often anyway the one viewing the porn turns away from intamacy not the other way around. The fact that she is asking for help so publically to me shows a commitment to wanting her marriage to work.
Elizabeth

Hallett, Australia

#15 Dec 27, 2009
Messenger4truth wrote:
shrew - 2 : an ill-tempered scolding woman
lol-yes we do have access to the English language in Australia and are family with shakespeares the taming of the shrew
Earthcaller

Orlando, FL

#16 Dec 27, 2009
Elizabeth wrote:
<quoted text>
:-) who said they wanted them divorced? who said they were not one flesh anyway? Most often anyway the one viewing the porn turns away from intamacy not the other way around. The fact that she is asking for help so publically to me shows a commitment to wanting her marriage to work.
Hi! Elizabeth what can you expect from a fanatic legalist who believes that he is a Messenger of Sex. He has no evidence that its the wife's fault and as you say she is asking for help.

Since: May 08

Location hidden

#17 Dec 27, 2009
Amish wrote:
Do you (the wife) work?
Do you need to do this? Financially or just because you want a career?
Kacy posted ~

how to stop my husbands porn obsession?

i have tried airing my views about it but that only made him start hiding the porn, concealing the sites on the internet and putting passwords on certain porn computer files.

he is Adventist but not a fully member and hasnt been baptised yet.

please help

~~~~~~~~~~
Amish wrote:
Do you (the wife) work?
Do you need to do this? Financially or just because you want a career?
What business is it of yours if the wife works or not...NONE!

The woman wrote in for advice and help and if you cannot give a Christ like answer then BUZZ OFF!

Also whether the woman works or not is not going to make any difference to her husbands obsession.

Since: May 08

Location hidden

#18 Dec 27, 2009
His4everFriend wrote:
Dear kacy ma:
My heart goes out to you for what you must be experiencing right now. The emotions that most women face as they are facing this usualy start with betrayal, which leads to discouragment, despair, and finally hopelesness.
I am not sure where you are right now but I want to encourage you that there IS HOPE ! You are not alone in facing this and if you are WILLING TO BE STRONG then we can and will get through this.
The whole porn adiction is not easy to break yet God has taught me a few things that may be helpful to you in this struggle. While I have no connection with your husband yet if you are willing to follow a few Bible principle's then I can help walk you through what will likley be your best shot at victory for both you... and your husband.
So in starting this we need to look at where we are at and then plan a stragedy.
- How is your relationship with your husband ?
- are you able to comunicate without it turning into a fight?
- here is the most important question... it's simple... but tells me how much work we have to resolve this.
have you been your husnand's "girlfriend" ?
I need an "honest" answer to that last question if I am able to be of any help to you. So please help me there so I can help you through this.
God Bless
His4everFriend
Hi H4EF,

All due respect but her husbands obsession has nothing to do with her ~ That is a cop out to suggest such a thing.

Also those are very personal questions you have asked of her on a very public forum and I do believe you are sincere in wanting to help but there is professional people out that are able to help and advice and if you wish to be of an aide then I suggest strongly that you leave an email address in a posting that she can contact you on so that you may be able to talk to her privately.

Cinders.

Since: May 08

Location hidden

#19 Dec 27, 2009
Hi M4T :-)

Your postings leaves a lot to be not desired. Hmmmmm I believe it is just in the way you have worded them but then again I have a mind that is always willing to think beyond to see what the poster is really saying.

I first read your postings and thought WHAT and felt like telling you to buzz off as I did Amish but then I realise that you were not blaming anyone for anything but saying that what God has brought together do not let anything including this porn obsession that her husband has to tear them apart. For this porn obsession is just another ploy of satan to tear down what God says is Honourable ~ Marriage.

Maybe I am wrong in thinking that what I have read into your postings and you are just being plain nasty as others think but I do not believe you are.

So if wrong I stand corrected.

OH and another comment concerning my dear dear friend Elizabeth ~ She is not arrogant or any of the other things you said about her for if you knew her as I do you would realise she is the sweetness caring compassionate loving Christian person out. She truly is. She has been to hell and back and stands at all times for justice and the rights of people and is always and I mean ALWAYS is ready to give of herself to the point of sacrificing to be a help to anyone whether it be small or large for she is exactly as Christ says to be in the Bible concerning helping and caring for others.
Elizabeth

Hallett, Australia

#20 Dec 27, 2009
Thanks Cinders, I am not very often as you discribe me darl, but you have given me something to strive for with the Help of our Lord.

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