My boyfriend expects me, a Pagan, to ...

My boyfriend expects me, a Pagan, to celebrate Christian holidays

There are 12 comments on the The Daily Republic story from Apr 27, 2014, titled My boyfriend expects me, a Pagan, to celebrate Christian holidays. In it, The Daily Republic reports that:

Dear Annie : My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, although we've been apart a great deal of that time due to college and work.

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Since: Aug 12

Arnold, MO

#1 Apr 28, 2014
I liked the responce on this one.

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#2 May 1, 2014
If he's putting that kind of emotional pressure on her he's not respecting her beliefs. She needs a new boyfriend. The issue might seem to reach a compromise but it'll resurface again and again.
Ken Ra

Saint Paul, MN

#3 May 8, 2014
The core of Wicca is the cooperation and balance of male and female. If this is NOT true for either of you, you should not be together. Often at the beginning of a relationship there are wild swings of the balance, they work out or the relationship is gone. Domination of one over the other destroys the balance and results in " slavery " If the slave does not want to be free no one else can free them.( help yes free No )
You are all sickos

Burbank, CA

#4 May 9, 2014
LOL what a bunch of losers.

You parasites love sucking the blood of Christian societies huh?

Why don't you nauseating so-called "Pagans" (And witches, sea hags, Satan lovers and whatever else) get away from majority Christian inhabited countries altogether instead of endlessly complaining? A good place for you folk is Saudi Arabia, or Afghanistan, or maybe North Korea where you can be rid of all things Christian.

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#5 May 11, 2014
You are all sickos wrote:
LOL what a bunch of losers.
You parasites love sucking the blood of Christian societies huh?
Why don't you nauseating so-called "Pagans" (And witches, sea hags, Satan lovers and whatever else) get away from majority Christian inhabited countries altogether instead of endlessly complaining? A good place for you folk is Saudi Arabia, or Afghanistan, or maybe North Korea where you can be rid of all things Christian.
Say what trip are you on?
You are all sickos

Burbank, CA

#6 May 14, 2014
Velvet MJK wrote:
<quoted text>
Say what trip are you on?
I'm on the Lord's trip.

Not the earthly demonic hellish trip you know of.

Praise be to God, Christianity and Christ.
madness

Paris, TX

#7 May 14, 2014
You are all sickos wrote:
<quoted text>I'm on the Lord's trip.

Not the earthly demonic hellish trip you know of.

Praise be to God, Christianity and Christ.
You my friend are an idiot.. Paganism has nothing to do with witches and satan.. It is the opposite of monotheism.. Simply means you believe in multiple higher powers.. You are why people are turning away from Christianity in record numbers.. Because y'all believe, like the Muslims, that people shouldn't have the right to not believe in your god..
madness

Paris, TX

#8 May 14, 2014
As far as the original poster goes.. I find it hard to believe that any relationship can be fulfilling and truly happy with different religious beliefs.. I'm between atheist and agnostic and constantly find myself getting mad about my Christian wife talking about Jesus and god.. Kids make it really hard.. What are you to tell your kids when they come.. Do you teach them the god fairy tale or do you teach them paganism.. It's really hard to have a great relationship when you can't share something as fundamental as religious practice..
Jack

Houston, TX

#9 May 16, 2014
What do you mean by "celebrate". If it means going to a Christian church and participating in Christian sacraments, then, I can see a big problem.

On the other hand, if all that "celebrate" means is getting together with his family for a meal, then why not go ahead and "celebrate"? Most Christian holidays have pagan roots (e.g., Easter eggs, Christmas trees, mistletoe, Halloween - are pagan traditions, not Christian), so, you can probably work some sort of compromise with a little creativity.

Since: Jan 13

Location hidden

#10 May 17, 2014
You are all sickos wrote:
<quoted text>
I'm on the Lord's trip.
Not the earthly demonic hellish trip you know of.
Praise be to God, Christianity and Christ.
Oh Lawd!

Religious mania is a mental illness you know
Jack

Houston, TX

#11 May 30, 2014
We do not have enough information here - what does the OP mean by "celebrate the Christian holidays"?

First of all, anyone who knows even little about pagan and Christian history knows that most Christian holidays derive from pagan holidays. The early missionaries could not get the pagan converts to leave behind all their wonderful holidays and Christianity was a new religion without any holidays of their own, so the Christians absorbed the pagan holidays into the new Christian faith, giving them new Christian interpretation.

My point is - there should be no reason for both pagan and Christian to celebrate the same holidays, each in their own way. In December, our local pagan/metaphysics store puts up a big Christmas tree on their window with lots of mistletoe. You think they are celebrating the birth of Christ? Think again, these are pagan symbols to celebrate the pagan holiday of Winter Solstice. Same for Easter - they celebrate Ostara with the bunny and eggs, which are pagan symbols.

By refusing to join in family gatherings and celebrations, a significant other can come across as being anti-social. So, unless she is being asked to pray to Jesus or participate in Christian rituals, why should the OP be so reluctant to merely join in family celebrations?
Madness

Paris, TX

#12 May 30, 2014
Jack wrote:
We do not have enough information here - what does the OP mean by "celebrate the Christian holidays"?

First of all, anyone who knows even little about pagan and Christian history knows that most Christian holidays derive from pagan holidays. The early missionaries could not get the pagan converts to leave behind all their wonderful holidays and Christianity was a new religion without any holidays of their own, so the Christians absorbed the pagan holidays into the new Christian faith, giving them new Christian interpretation.

My point is - there should be no reason for both pagan and Christian to celebrate the same holidays, each in their own way. In December, our local pagan/metaphysics store puts up a big Christmas tree on their window with lots of mistletoe. You think they are celebrating the birth of Christ? Think again, these are pagan symbols to celebrate the pagan holiday of Winter Solstice. Same for Easter - they celebrate Ostara with the bunny and eggs, which are pagan symbols.

By refusing to join in family gatherings and celebrations, a significant other can come across as being anti-social. So, unless she is being asked to pray to Jesus or participate in Christian rituals, why should the OP be so reluctant to merely join in family celebrations?
As most holidays have lost any religious meaning due to corporization.. I don't see how a pagan and Christian would have any problem celebrating Easter or Christmas.. Which is the only holidays that I'm aware of that Christians claim..

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