Past Lives / Soul Mates / Fighting th...

Past Lives / Soul Mates / Fighting the Gods

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Tullahoma, TN

#1 Mar 12, 2012
Is it possible to lose out on your chance to be with your soul mate? I have met a girl I am absolutely convinced I have known in many past lives, and am equally convinced that in not a single one have we beem together as in a couple. The connection is there, but every single time, I end up going off to fight for a cause and usually end up dying for it. This time around, I won't be dying in battle. But I gave a friend the go ahead to pursue her because I am trying to get my life in order. Now it looks like he makes her happy, in fact she said that one of the things she likes about him is that he's kinda like me. I'm afraid that I've given away my chance to be truly happy. I tried to lie, to say it was nothing but a close friendship, until this weekend. And she was angry at me for hiding things from her. I am so torn, because I felt I had to leave this town if I wanted to have a real chance at a better life, and when we talked and when she asked me if she was just supposed to sit here and wait for me, I realized that no matter how much that might be what I want to do, I can't ask that of her. I'm afraid that this is some sick game played by the gods, to always hold that true joy, that peace, just out of reach, while I for one always fall in with their designs and have to go do my duty. She tried to tell me once that maybe it's time I do what I want to do instead of what I have to.
I know this isn't exactly the best forum for these questions, and this honestly kinda sounds like some high school teenager crying about his latest crush but I truly don't know what else to do. Sorry

Alturas, CA

#2 Mar 12, 2012
If you truly believe she's your soul mate, and you truly believe in multiply lives, then there is always the next life, and you are sure to meet again.(Personally, I don't believe in multiple lives, but hey, I could be wrong.)

If you truly love her, you will do whatever has the greatest chance of bringing her happiness.

Sometimes, people aren't meant to be together. I still love my ex-wife with all my heart, but our being apart has brought her greater happiness, so I have to take heart that although I miss her, at least she is happy.

I hope things work out for the best, bro.

Tullahoma, TN

#3 Mar 12, 2012
that's kinda what i was afraid at least one answer was going to be, honestly.
as far as the multiple lives go, what it kinda breaks down to for me is think some people are kinda bound up with the turning of the ages and keep getting spun out over and over again, but not everyone, just a few. don't know why, maybe it's a decision thing, to keep coming back for more, lol.
but yeah, was kinda afraid that's what somebody was going to say. kinda tellin me what already know, just hoping and wishing that maybe it could work out another way

United States

#4 May 11, 2012
I am one of the most pragmatic and skeptical people there are. I would have never bought into crap like past lives. I lost a great love many years ago but have a sense of peace about it. It's like there is a part of me that knows he's not gone forever. I'm just saying accept that it is what it is.

Melbourne, FL

#5 Dec 3, 2012
I have started a new relationship with a Wiccan male (same religion is a new for me) and since we share the same beliefs and same thoughts on our relationship. We have had a connection since the moment we started talking and because we both feel so strongly for one another the words "Soul mate" and "life mate" have come to both of our minds. I think that there is a difference between the two types of relationships and that they can even refer to different people. I had a thought that maybe just maybe there is a way that there is one person out there is BOTH. Is that a possibility or do you think that I am just having wishful thoughts?

Portland, OR

#6 Jan 30, 2013
12 years ago I married a man who I swore was my soul mate. We were both Wiccan at the time. A year later we seperated. Since then I have become a Christian. We have both remarried, had a child with that person and are now divorced from them. About 4 months ago we are back in each others life. We have talked about getting back together. I feel so deeply for him and can not see myself with out him in my life. I really want to have a relationship and possibly marry him again. But there is this one problem his is against Christians and I am one. He is very disrespectful towards the Christian faith but assures me it is not an attack on me, yet I feel like it is because I am Christian. I feel that there is no way we can be a couple with this kind of difference. But I fall apart at the thought of not being with him. Any advice.

“Dance with Fire- Boycott BS”

Since: Apr 07


#7 Jan 30, 2013
It's not impossible with people of different views about religion and faith to be together, it is about their respect and communication with that person. If he is willing to committ, then some mediation or communication therapy may help him to know when and how to best voice critisms he has with particular Christians so as not to hurt your feelings, and you to relate back to that. Good luck!

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