Orthodox religion and oral sex, please answer.. =[

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Kathy

Windsor, Australia

#1 Jul 2, 2007
okay so im just wondering about something with the orthodox religion.
is it agenst our religion to give or recive oral sex? and if so, do you know the reason behind why we can't do it?

thanks =]
Steve in Vista

AOL

#2 Jul 2, 2007
seweyew

Djibouti

#3 Aug 18, 2007
i am not an orthodox but i read the bible and i beleive in the word of God. As far as i know it is not written in the bible about oral sex. I love giving and receiving receiving oral
maco

Bentleigh East, Australia

#4 Aug 19, 2007
yes it is a sin,though heaps of people do it,it says you cant have sex before marriage,thats how it used too be in the olden tradition days,though now its different
seweyew

Djibouti

#5 Aug 21, 2007
so i am wondering if u guys can tell us about oral sex. I think oral sex is a taboo in some places.
seweyew

Djibouti

#6 Aug 21, 2007
especially in ethiopia
Louise

San Francisco, CA

#7 Nov 10, 2007
Did you get any answers to this? I am not aware that the Orthodox Church has taken a position on oral sex as one part of the sexual expression of marriage. That said, at least one excellent, knowledgeable and thoughtful Orthodox scholar and priest, Fr. Tom Hopko, has said that he views oral and anal sex as forbidden to Christians. I haven't heard the argument expounded atlength, but the idea is that certain bodily orifices/funnctions were intended for sex and others were not, so it's inappropriate to engage in oral sex. I don't know if he would draw a distinction between this activity as foreplay v. consumation. The book The Gift of Sex is from a Protestant point of view, yet is very good.
Kathy wrote:
okay so im just wondering about something with the orthodox religion.
is it agenst our religion to give or recive oral sex? and if so, do you know the reason behind why we can't do it?
thanks =]
Louise

San Francisco, CA

#8 Nov 10, 2007
Did you get responses to this? I'm assuming you are talking about sex between husband and wife, in a loving and giving and proper way, and the only issue is can oral sex be part of the sexual congress between them? I don't think the Orthodox church has taken a position on this. I do know that Fr. Hopko, who is excellent and thoughtful and sound, has said that in his view oral and anal sex are forbidden to Christians. Anal is an easy analysis, b/c it's so dangerous to the woman, so not a loving choice. Putting that aside, don't know if the analysis would change if lovig married couples were using oral sex for foreplay or consumation. I think in this situation the better argument is in The Gift of Sex, a text by Protestants.
Ralph

UK

#9 Mar 17, 2008
This is a very intresting topic. I have a girlfriend who is very religious and will not have sex until marriage. However, I want to know if oral sex is acceptable for unmarried baptists? Any knowledge? Your views would be much appreciated
Nastya

Kiev, Ukraine

#10 Apr 18, 2008
If your girlfriend will not have sex until marriage, you can forget about oral sex at all..neither in marriage, nor before marriage.
It's really a pity, how religion distorts such a wonderful and holy thing like sex between 2 loving people, no matter if it's oral or anal sex.
Till your girlfriend understands it, frees herself from stupid stereotypes, feels what an amazing experience is to touch and love all parts of the body of her lover, I'm not sure you two can have unity in sex.
Concerned

Ipswich, Australia

#11 Jun 21, 2008
Many people think that religion bounds us and stops us from being "free" to have sex.

Rather the true faith frees us from bondage to lust and allows us to enjoy sex free from STDs and other problems in the context of marriage.

True freedom is found in Christ.
Maximus

Montréal, Canada

#12 Aug 20, 2010
Oral sex is forbidden in the Orthodox Church because lips that touch male or female genitalia CANNOT proceed to touch something as pure as Holy Communion without repentance. That repentance is 7 years without Holy Communion after confessing to your priest.
seth

Trinidad and Tobago

#13 Apr 13, 2011
I do not agree with maximus but oral sex is wrong because it is, using the reproductive organs for purposes it was not intended for,and that is how the devil gets at god, by getting us to do things contrary to what god designed us for!
max

Perth, Australia

#14 Apr 26, 2012
can orthodox people have sex before marrage ?
Crystal May

UK

#15 Dec 2, 2012
Oral sex is amazing, I give and receive oral and anal sex for money. It has proved to be a good way of living and I thank god every single day. I meet a lot of holy customers who are ashamed of these actions. But actually it is written in the bible that thy should love thy neighbour. So I intend to love all of my neighbours.
Jess

Sacramento, CA

#16 Mar 8, 2013
Kathy wrote:
okay so im just wondering about something with the orthodox religion.
is it agenst our religion to give or recive oral sex? and if so, do you know the reason behind why we can't do it?
thanks =]
"Marriage itself does not make legitimate all forms of sexuality. The sexual intercourse of the married is to be modest, and within its proper limits. Moderation is determined both by regulation of time and method of sexual relations. Relations on fast days, on the eve prior to one's reception of Holy Communion, and on days on which one receives the Holy Gifts are forbidden as an illegitimate indulgence to the flesh. Anal and oral intercourse, as well as the use of pornography and sexual toys, are sexual perversions and are always sinful, even for married Christians. The unnatural prolongation of sexual desire, through the use of drugs such as viagra, is forbidden. On the contrary, such decline in sexual desire is to warmly welcomed by aging Orthodox Christians as a divine help in one's life long preparation for departure from this life."

V. Rev. Josiah Trenham, Ph.D.(Theology, Univ. of Durham, England) is the pastor at St. Andrew Orthodox Christian Church in Riverside, California.
Laander

United States

#17 Apr 9, 2014
I found this in the FAQ of the official Greek Orthodox Church of America website. I'm split on the issue as well..

I believe that as long as the behavior you have inquired about - oral sex - does not make either partner uncomfortable, and so long as it enhances a couple's love making in a way that facilitates "oneness," I do not believe oral sex contradicts God's will nor does it debase a couple's marriage bed. However, when such behavior is not consensual and creates discomfort and couple conflict, I would advise such couples to refrain from including oral sex in their love life until they reach a more prayerful, mutually satisfying understanding.
Laander

United States

#18 Apr 11, 2014
I found this in the FAQ of the official Greek Orthodox Church of America website. I'm split on the issue as well..

I believe that as long as the behavior you have inquired about - oral sex - does not make either partner uncomfortable, and so long as it enhances a couple's love making in a way that facilitates "oneness," I do not believe oral sex contradicts God's will nor does it debase a couple's marriage bed. However, when such behavior is not consensual and creates discomfort and couple conflict, I would advise such couples to refrain from including oral sex in their love life until they reach a more prayerful, mutually satisfying understanding.

I've been threatened that my wife and I will not be able to receive communion if we participate in oral sex. Then I see this quote above. Do you think you could find something from the Fathers on this issue?
Todd Vanderheyden

Brooklyn, NY

#19 Jul 20, 2014
Oral sex reminds me of cannibalism scientifically speaking. One person in a marriage may not like it and the other may cheat because seeking what is not had in the bedroom. Couples should discuss this before getting officially betrothed and wasting other people's time going to their wedding. Animals sniff each other to find out if the mate is ready but that is about all. Homosapiens do not have to do this. Why do people want to put their mouth where someone else urinates?
Todd Vanderheyden

Brooklyn, NY

#20 Jul 20, 2014
I certainly do not want to marry someone who still wants to be everyone's next one. I am 45 and feel you do have to be a rich boy to have a decent marriage but after so many conversations with women at single's dances to them that is the bottom line and inflation adds a lot of stress in otherwise reasonably content couples. El cheapo dates just not worth settling for. I am not Hollywood connosier but a good film to watch is "born to be Romantic".

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