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Since: Dec 12

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ive never been the most enthusiastic jw,raised in the truth and married young to another born and bred jw.ive always gone along with it as ive been raised to believe it was the 'truth'.im now 30,and have two lovely young children,since having them ive been in a bit of a spiritual fog,just doing the bare minimum studying and ministry that i can get away with.i decided recently to do a bit of studying as i realised i had a few questions and things im not convinced on.ive researched using both wt publications,'secular' publications and websites and also just the bible on its own.now i realise that ive been taught several lies and i dont know what to do.
i feel that theres no way i could deny my children or myself a lifesaving blood transfusion. i also am no longer convinced that there will be an earthly paradise,i can find loads of scriptures re heaven but only random ones re earth that seem out of context.i also find that evolution makes a lot of sense,although i cant deny god or the scriptures.i just dont feel that i can raise my children according to something im no longer convinced on.i have no idea what to do,my whole family are jw and it breaks my heart that my leaving would devastate them.my cong are also lovely,id miss them dearly.

Since: Dec 12

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mrsqwerty wrote:
ive never been the most enthusiastic jw,raised in the truth and married young to another born and bred jw.ive always gone along with it as ive been raised to believe it was the 'truth'.im now 30,and have two lovely young children,since having them ive been in a bit of a spiritual fog,just doing the bare minimum studying and ministry that i can get away with.i decided recently to do a bit of studying as i realised i had a few questions and things im not convinced on.ive researched using both wt publications,'secular' publications and websites and also just the bible on its own.now i realise that ive been taught several lies and i dont know what to do.
i feel that theres no way i could deny my children or myself a lifesaving blood transfusion. i also am no longer convinced that there will be an earthly paradise,i can find loads of scriptures re heaven but only random ones re earth that seem out of context.i also find that evolution makes a lot of sense,although i cant deny god or the scriptures.i just dont feel that i can raise my children according to something im no longer convinced on.i have no idea what to do,my whole family are jw and it breaks my heart that my leaving would devastate them.my cong are also lovely,id miss them dearly.
i apologise for the dreadful grammer and punctuation btw,im using a tablet and its a pain!

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mrsqwerty wrote:
ive never been the most enthusiastic jw,raised in the truth and married young to another born and bred jw.ive always gone along with it as ive been raised to believe it was the 'truth'.im now 30,and have two lovely young children,since having them ive been in a bit of a spiritual fog,just doing the bare minimum studying and ministry that i can get away with.i decided recently to do a bit of studying as i realised i had a few questions and things im not convinced on.ive researched using both wt publications,'secular' publications and websites and also just the bible on its own.now i realise that ive been taught several lies and i dont know what to do.
i feel that theres no way i could deny my children or myself a lifesaving blood transfusion. i also am no longer convinced that there will be an earthly paradise,i can find loads of scriptures re heaven but only random ones re earth that seem out of context.i also find that evolution makes a lot of sense,although i cant deny god or the scriptures.i just dont feel that i can raise my children according to something im no longer convinced on.i have no idea what to do,my whole family are jw and it breaks my heart that my leaving would devastate them.my cong are also lovely,id miss them dearly.
You don't know what to do? Try returning to the 3rd grade and learning some elementary school level grammar skills.

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Since: Nov 10

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<quoted text>i apologise for the dreadful grammer and punctuation btw,im using a tablet and its a pain!
'shrug'

I'm using my iPhone.
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mrsqwerty wrote:
ive never been the most enthusiastic jw,raised in the truth and married young to another born and bred jw.ive always gone along with it as ive been raised to believe it was the 'truth'.im now 30,and have two lovely young children,since having them ive been in a bit of a spiritual fog,just doing the bare minimum studying and ministry that i can get away with.i decided recently to do a bit of studying as i realised i had a few questions and things im not convinced on.ive researched using both wt publications,'secular' publications and websites and also just the bible on its own.now i realise that ive been taught several lies and i dont know what to do.
i feel that theres no way i could deny my children or myself a lifesaving blood transfusion. i also am no longer convinced that there will be an earthly paradise,i can find loads of scriptures re heaven but only random ones re earth that seem out of context.i also find that evolution makes a lot of sense,although i cant deny god or the scriptures.i just dont feel that i can raise my children according to something im no longer convinced on.i have no idea what to do,my whole family are jw and it breaks my heart that my leaving would devastate them.my cong are also lovely,id miss them dearly.
As a parent, it's your duty to protect your children, if you know they are being taught lies especially something that could cost them their lives, why would you allow it?
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mrsqwerty wrote:
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i apologise for the dreadful grammer and punctuation btw,im using a tablet and its a pain!
Don't mind DW she's a disfellowshipped JW troll!

Poor thing used to get the crap beat out of her by her x husband because she refused to keep the trailer clean or shower!
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Dream-weaver wrote:
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I'm using my iPhone.
Hey pretend all you want but Obama doesn't give away iPhones!

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Dream-weaver wrote:
<quoted text>You don't know what to do? Try returning to the 3rd grade and learning some elementary school level grammar skills.
Look who's talking.

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mrsqwerty wrote:
ive never been the most enthusiastic jw,raised in the truth and married young to another born and bred jw.ive always gone along with it as ive been raised to believe it was the 'truth'.im now 30,and have two lovely young children,since having them ive been in a bit of a spiritual fog,just doing the bare minimum studying and ministry that i can get away with.i decided recently to do a bit of studying as i realised i had a few questions and things im not convinced on.ive researched using both wt publications,'secular' publications and websites and also just the bible on its own.now i realise that ive been taught several lies and i dont know what to do.
i feel that theres no way i could deny my children or myself a lifesaving blood transfusion. i also am no longer convinced that there will be an earthly paradise,i can find loads of scriptures re heaven but only random ones re earth that seem out of context.i also find that evolution makes a lot of sense,although i cant deny god or the scriptures.i just dont feel that i can raise my children according to something im no longer convinced on.i have no idea what to do,my whole family are jw and it breaks my heart that my leaving would devastate them.my cong are also lovely,id miss them dearly.
Be patient mrsqwerty. You do not have to learn everything at once. You will, however, have an extremely important choice to make. You will be forced to choose whether you will stay with the organization, and family, or choose Jesus, you know the scriptures.

BTW, evolution, or at least macro evolution, is not ruled out by the Bible. We are taught many things in our lives because they were the "accepted" teachings, but they were not backed up by the Bible.

If you have questions which seem to contradict the Bible, think carefully, does the Bible "really" rule out such things?

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Since: Dec 06

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I hope I have not opened a can of worms with the evolution thing. In the above post I gave a link about micro/macro evolution. On that site it mentions 'reduction' I think Cristian debators use 'irreducible complexity', it is a sound theory.

For more information about it check these sites:

http://www.reasonablefaith.org/

http://www.reasons.org/

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Since: Nov 10

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Prime wrote:
<quoted text>Don't mind DW she's a disfellowshipped JW troll!

Poor thing used to get the crap beat out of her by her x husband because she refused to keep the trailer clean or shower!
Don't mind Prime.

He was disfellowshipped last January.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-20840...
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Dream-weaver wrote:
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Don't mind Prime.
He was disfellowshipped last January.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-20840...
No never been part of your JW cult,but thanks for clearing up why you were disfellowshipped!

You should have listened to the elders and remained with your husband even if he was with a horse!

You know very well that beastiality according to the watchtower is not grounds for divorce!

Stop being rebellious return to your husband and you will be allowed to sit in the back of the hall once again Alice!
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mrsqwerty wrote:
ive never been the most enthusiastic jw,raised in the truth and married young to another born and bred jw.ive always gone along with it as ive been raised to believe it was the 'truth'.im now 30,and have two lovely young children,since having them ive been in a bit of a spiritual fog,just doing the bare minimum studying and ministry that i can get away with.i decided recently to do a bit of studying as i realised i had a few questions and things im not convinced on.ive researched using both wt publications,'secular' publications and websites and also just the bible on its own.now i realise that ive been taught several lies and i dont know what to do.
i feel that theres no way i could deny my children or myself a lifesaving blood transfusion. i also am no longer convinced that there will be an earthly paradise,i can find loads of scriptures re heaven but only random ones re earth that seem out of context.i also find that evolution makes a lot of sense,although i cant deny god or the scriptures.i just dont feel that i can raise my children according to something im no longer convinced on.i have no idea what to do,my whole family are jw and it breaks my heart that my leaving would devastate them.my cong are also lovely,id miss them dearly.
Keep reading and searching I know it's scary because you can't unread what you will learn.
My husband and I became inactive a few years ago and it was scary. We knew our families would push us to go back... then back away from us once we didn't. I won't lie, it was really hard at first , we missed the routine we lived for so long. Sadly, some family members did back away for awhile but eventually things started to look up:)

We made new friends and now have a wonderful relationship with all our family members. Thankfully, our children are able to fully enjoy their high school lives..sports, music, drama and dances. One is now in college :) Unlike what one elder warned us would happen..none of our kids are pregnant, drug users or making our lives miserable.

I wish you all the best!!

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Hoodwinked wrote:
<quoted text> Keep reading and searching I know it's scary because you can't unread what you will learn.
My husband and I became inactive a few years ago and it was scary. We knew our families would push us to go back... then back away from us once we didn't. I won't lie, it was really hard at first , we missed the routine we lived for so long. Sadly, some family members did back away for awhile but eventually things started to look up:)
We made new friends and now have a wonderful relationship with all our family members. Thankfully, our children are able to fully enjoy their high school lives..sports, music, drama and dances. One is now in college :) Unlike what one elder warned us would happen..none of our kids are pregnant, drug users or making our lives miserable.
I wish you all the best!!
Really great isn't it Hoodwinked?

The speakers used to say from the 'podium', "there is nothing out there, brothers and sisters. If you leave the organization, you will learn what the scripture means, "outside are the dogs""

Well, there is everything 'out there', especially freedom in our Lord.

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borgfree wrote:
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Really great isn't it Hoodwinked?
The speakers used to say from the 'podium', "there is nothing out there, brothers and sisters. If you leave the organization, you will learn what the scripture means, "outside are the dogs""
Well, there is everything 'out there', especially freedom in our Lord.
AMEN.
Hoodwinked is the perfect example of how a family can leave and not fall into the World of badness. The freedom in our Lord is the most wonderful thing, not having to worry about if you are doing enough to be saved or not, but knowing that Jesus loves you. Its wonderful.

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I am leaving for now. Everyone have a great blessed day and remember,

JESUS LOVES YOU.
Felicia Fellacio

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Eyes are being opened everywhere

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mrsqwerty wrote:
ive never been the most enthusiastic jw,raised in the truth and married young to another born and bred jw.ive always gone along with it as ive been raised to believe it was the 'truth'.im now 30,and have two lovely young children,since having them ive been in a bit of a spiritual fog,just doing the bare minimum studying and ministry that i can get away with.i decided recently to do a bit of studying as i realised i had a few questions and things im not convinced on.ive researched using both wt publications,'secular' publications and websites and also just the bible on its own.now i realise that ive been taught several lies and i dont know what to do.
i feel that theres no way i could deny my children or myself a lifesaving blood transfusion. i also am no longer convinced that there will be an earthly paradise,i can find loads of scriptures re heaven but only random ones re earth that seem out of context.i also find that evolution makes a lot of sense,although i cant deny god or the scriptures.i just dont feel that i can raise my children according to something im no longer convinced on.i have no idea what to do,my whole family are jw and it breaks my heart that my leaving would devastate them.my cong are also lovely,id miss them dearly.
I spent 30 years (1969-1999) as a loyal and obedient Watchtower follower and raised six children while in it. It caused a strain on my marriage and cost me my parents who totally disowned me when I went against them and became a jw. I slowly saw the joy drain out of my life with all the changes and requirements that MEN (not God) demanded of me and by 1999 I walked away from this cheerless and spiritually damaging form of religion.

It took guts and it took lots of courage, but leaving was THE best thing I ever did. I now have most of my large family back and I have embraced a new spiritual path to the Creator, that is beautiful, kind, gentle and merciful....and completely the opposite of all the governing body's orders, cruel policies and changing doctrines.

When I first began to realize the WTS leaders had lied to us ALL, I began to look further into all I DIDN'T know and was not told....and I knew then that I had been duped...big time. I don't like being lied to....and after nearly a year of heavy prayer and more research into the WTS history...I knew my days attending meetings and knocking myself out to please WTS reps....were over.

I wish you the very best in whatever you decided to do.

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thanks to all of you who have taken the time to reply to my post,i feel a bit better knowing im not alone in my feelings.its not a decision i can make lightly ,there are still so many positive things about the org that i have to consider and i have to figure a way to leave that wont result in me being df because i cant bear losing my family.lots to ponder..
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It is a tough decision to leave. I have not been disfellowshipped, but over the years I have found that fewer and fewer "friends" from inside spend are still close. I have found, however, a treasure trove of old friends, people from my youth who have left over the years. I was suprised by how many I have come into contact with, and we all have a common thread linking us together.

For me, the last straw was doing research into evolution. I intended to confirm creation to bolster my faith, and ended up being aware of the firm foundation upon which evolutionary theory rests.

Don't kid yourself though, it is not an easy path. There are times when I wish the old "friends" could accept me for who I am now. But I fully realize the problem is not mine, it is theirs. They are told that they need to protect themselves from people like me, or else they will end up like me.(I think that would be a good thing though)

Having children, you have a tough decision before you. You will be ostracized. There will be times of loneliness as you transition to a new kind of life. However, you can take that step now, and in the future your children will not have to do it for themselves. You know that they will be faced with the same quandry that you are at some point in their life. Without that organization adding guilt and pressures into their youth, they will be free to build their life without that future prospect of ostracization from friends and family for simply changing an opinion on a religion.

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