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Jehovahs Witness Love and Dating Question, Please help!

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Tyne

Brisbane, Australia

#1 Apr 27, 2012
Hello! This goes out to all Jehovah's Witnesses that might be able to help.:)

This isn't exactly a direct question, as a request for some help. I'm a Jehovah's Witnesses (not yet baptized, but it is on the cards for the near future). There is a young lady my age (we are both currently 15 years old) in my congregation. She is also not yet baptized, but likewise, it is on the cards for the near future.

We have been good friends for some time, and had some quite deep and meaningful chats. She's helped me a lot with problems I've been having, and visa versa (such as school and general issues). I've come to realise that I've developed some seriously intense feelings for her, which have been present for the last 18 - 20 months. I understand that we're both rather young, and I've tried much to loose the feelings, to shake them, but I just can't. No matter what I do, as soon as I see her again, my blood pressure goes through the roof, and my heart jumps out of my chest. When we talk, it's amazing. However, I'm worried I might be falling too far. We're so young, and from what I've learned/been told, it's generally frowned apon for younger inderviduals to be that way involved with someone.

If we were older, it would be simple. If we were older, it would be (at least on my end, I have no idea how she feels for me. For the reason, I havn't admitted how I feel for her, for not only the embarrasment it may cause her, but the fact that I can't find the strength to tell her, I'm too afraid of rejection, though that's another matter), a view to marriage.

Now I'd like to point out, before everyone says "You're too young, you don't understand this, you don't know what love is". I'm not saying I'm in love with her, I just need some help on what to do, weather I should admit how I feel, and how that would be in terms of our relationship with Jehovah, and the congregation. In no way do I want to put her, or myself, in spiritual harm. Also, I'm not the average pimply headed 15 year old that you're proberbly imagining me to be. I really don't want to brag, but...*sigh*, how do I put this in a way to not look like I'm bragging...I've got an advanced IQ, and I'm much beyond my years in terms of maturity, as well as book smarts. I guess a simple way to put it would be "15 going on 20", though I don't want you to get the wrong idea, I don't abuse this fact.

So, after all that, what I"m asking is, what can/should I do? I either:

Need some help in trying to loose these feelings I have for her, or
Weather, if the relationship could span the length of time, be allowed to engage in a relationship with her (if she is that way inclined, and her parents are willing), and hold out until we are of age to be married.

Like I said, I'm not saying I'm in love with her, I do not know how she feels, and I'm too scared to ask her (nor do I want to cause her any embarrassment).

Any and all help is appreciated beyond belief, I'd owe everyone here highly.

Thankyou.:-)
Rob Valkeneers

Alken, Belgium

#2 Apr 27, 2012
I do not know if these forums are the ideal place to get or give advice, but anyway...

Just take your time to get to know her a little better, before thinking of engagement, marriage or any wild declarations of love...

If you ask her to join you to the theatre/movies/dinner/concert. .. she will automatically understand that you like her (even with a less than advanced IQ).

PS. I would not dare to presume that love is understood better by the simple fact of aging.
Iamgod

United States

#3 Apr 27, 2012
Break out the lotion ya creeper
Caligula

United States

#4 Apr 27, 2012
Even if your IQ is through the roof and your maturity level is way beyond your years, your hormones are exactly where they should be.

Ive got a 15 year old bro, and he is dealing with the same type of situation, not a Jdub girl, but same scenario otherwise.

If youre as mature as you think you are, just let it ride, cause there is no hurry and there is no point trying to further a serious relationship right now. Get to know her better, sure, but keep the romance on simmer cause it wont help you to push the issue right now, just go out in groups and have some fun, your just a kid, act like one.

Her parents wouldnt appreciate the romantic overture anyways, if they have any brains.

“New one man.”

Since: Jan 11

Location hidden

#5 Apr 27, 2012
I see one serious problem with this whole thing... Namely it's crap. JWs would not use the phrase "in the cards" for obvious reasons.
Antonio

New York, NY

#6 Apr 27, 2012
Caligula wrote:
Even if your IQ is through the roof and your maturity level is way beyond your years, your hormones are exactly where they should be.
Ive got a 15 year old bro, and he is dealing with the same type of situation, not a Jdub girl, but same scenario otherwise.
If youre as mature as you think you are, just let it ride, cause there is no hurry and there is no point trying to further a serious relationship right now. Get to know her better, sure, but keep the romance on simmer cause it wont help you to push the issue right now, just go out in groups and have some fun, your just a kid, act like one.
Her parents wouldnt appreciate the romantic overture anyways, if they have any brains.
Again... You and you 15 year old brother.

You are full of crap.

You sound rehearsed.
UNchained

Seymour, TN

#7 Apr 27, 2012
Tyne wrote:
Hello! This goes out to all Jehovah's Witnesses that might be able to help.:)
This isn't exactly a direct question, as a request for some help. I'm a Jehovah's Witnesses (not yet baptized, but it is on the cards for the near future). There is a young lady my age (we are both currently 15 years old) in my congregation. She is also not yet baptized, but likewise, it is on the cards for the near future.
We have been good friends for some time, and had some quite deep and meaningful chats. She's helped me a lot with problems I've been having, and visa versa (such as school and general issues). I've come to realise that I've developed some seriously intense feelings for her, which have been present for the last 18 - 20 months. I understand that we're both rather young, and I've tried much to loose the feelings, to shake them, but I just can't. No matter what I do, as soon as I see her again, my blood pressure goes through the roof, and my heart jumps out of my chest. When we talk, it's amazing. However, I'm worried I might be falling too far. We're so young, and from what I've learned/been told, it's generally frowned apon for younger inderviduals to be that way involved with someone.
If we were older, it would be simple. If we were older, it would be (at least on my end, I have no idea how she feels for me. For the reason, I havn't admitted how I feel for her, for not only the embarrasment it may cause her, but the fact that I can't find the strength to tell her, I'm too afraid of rejection, though that's another matter), a view to marriage.
Now I'd like to point out, before everyone says "You're too young, you don't understand this, you don't know what love is". I'm not saying I'm in love with her, I just need some help on what to do, weather I should admit how I feel, and how that would be in terms of our relationship with Jehovah, and the congregation. In no way do I want to put her, or myself, in spiritual harm. Also, I'm not the average pimply headed 15 year old that you're proberbly imagining me to be. I really don't want to brag, but...*sigh*, how do I put this in a way to not look like I'm bragging...I've got an advanced IQ, and I'm much beyond my years in terms of maturity, as well as book smarts. I guess a simple way to put it would be "15 going on 20", though I don't want you to get the wrong idea, I don't abuse this fact.
So, after all that, what I"m asking is, what can/should I do? I either:
Need some help in trying to loose these feelings I have for her, or
Weather, if the relationship could span the length of time, be allowed to engage in a relationship with her (if she is that way inclined, and her parents are willing), and hold out until we are of age to be married.
Like I said, I'm not saying I'm in love with her, I do not know how she feels, and I'm too scared to ask her (nor do I want to cause her any embarrassment).
Any and all help is appreciated beyond belief, I'd owe everyone here highly.
Thankyou.:-)
Introduce her to this forum.

Maybe both of you can get out of the JW's before you get baptised into the organisation.

“I love long division...”

Since: May 11

... and conjugating verbs.

#8 Apr 27, 2012
Tyne wrote:
This isn't exactly a direct question, as a request for some help. I'm a Jehovah's Witnesses (not yet baptized, but it is on the cards for the near future). There is a young lady my age (we are both currently 15 years old) in my congregation. She is also not yet baptized, but likewise, it is on the cards for the near future.
If you are genuine:

I'll stop you right there. Stop looking for advise on an internet forum where anybody can hide who they really are.

Go back and read the article on pages 3-5 of the August '11 Watchtower and the Question Box in the August '07 OKM.

After you've realized that you shouldn't have come onto an internet forum for advice in your personal life:

Go ask for advice from either your parents, your SGO, the COBE, another mature brother in your congregation, or (preferably) all of the above.

Finally, go to the WT Publications Index and research "Dating" and "Courtship".

If you are not genuine:

Whoever is formulating these stories sure is getting intricate.

“I love long division...”

Since: May 11

... and conjugating verbs.

#9 Apr 27, 2012
RtWoL wrote:
the Question Box in the August '07 OKM.
I meant the July '07 OKM.
Caligula

United States

#10 Apr 27, 2012
Antonio wrote:
<quoted text> Again... You and you 15 year old brother.
You are full of crap.
You sound rehearsed.
Again, you and your non-existent brain.

You sound retarded.
Caligula

United States

#11 Apr 27, 2012
MixedMedia wrote:
I see one serious problem with this whole thing... Namely it's crap. JWs would not use the phrase "in the cards" for obvious reasons.
Yeah, its possibly a crap story, but who knows?

15 year olds have hormonal issues. Lol.

“New one man.”

Since: Jan 11

Location hidden

#12 Apr 27, 2012
Caligula wrote:
<quoted text>Yeah, its possibly a crap story, but who knows?

15 year olds have hormonal issues. Lol.
It's not that, it's the repeated use of its in the cards. Just not likely someone that close to baptism would say that.

Since: Oct 10

Location hidden

#13 Apr 27, 2012
Antonio wrote:
<quoted text> Again... You and you 15 year old brother.
You are full of crap.
You sound rehearsed.
nasty, no need to say that just plain horrible.
Caligula

United States

#14 Apr 27, 2012
MixedMedia wrote:
<quoted text>
It's not that, it's the repeated use of its in the cards. Just not likely someone that close to baptism would say that.
Thats true, I guess.

Im WELL out of that org and I still dont use that phrase.

Youre smart (does that make me smart too, since we are supposedly the same person?) LOL.

“New one man.”

Since: Jan 11

Location hidden

#15 Apr 27, 2012
Caligula wrote:
<quoted text>Thats true, I guess.

Im WELL out of that org and I still dont use that phrase.

Youre smart (does that make me smart too, since we are supposedly the same person?) LOL.
Of course! ;-)
Caligula

United States

#16 Apr 27, 2012
array wrote:
<quoted text>nasty, no need to say that just plain horrible.
Hes an idiot.

i gotta tell you, what he said to you about your mom was the nastiest thing ive ever seen anybody say. im not apologizing for him, but Im sorry you had to read that.
Caligula

United States

#17 Apr 27, 2012
MixedMedia wrote:
<quoted text>
Of course! ;-)
All right!!!

High Five!(or, clap your hands if your smart!)
Tyne

Brisbane, Australia

#18 Apr 28, 2012
Wow. So apparently help is non existant on the internet these days. I just get my posts picked to bits, and my thread ruined with hate and arguments. Lovely.

Just lock and delete this one, no need for further help. I'll ask someone who can be bothered.

Thankyou...

Oh and FYI,'on the cards' is a term I've used for years, and no one has ever picked me up one it, so I see no problem with it.
UNchained

Seymour, TN

#19 Apr 28, 2012
Tyne wrote:
Wow. So apparently help is non existant on the internet these days. I just get my posts picked to bits, and my thread ruined with hate and arguments. Lovely.
Just lock and delete this one, no need for further help. I'll ask someone who can be bothered.
Thankyou...
Oh and FYI,'on the cards' is a term I've used for years, and no one has ever picked me up one it, so I see no problem with it.
They just don't understand Aussie. If they did, they would know that "in the cards" is a common expression Down Under.

Have a great weekend and I hope that if you go out in Service this weekend a Christian will ask you soem critical thinking questions about the Watchtower Society.
SOS

Lund, Sweden

#20 Apr 28, 2012
Hi Tyne,

What college will you be attending once out of High School?

Brother,

Do not be wasting your high IQ on WORLDLY SECULAR TEACHINGS BROTHER.

YOU NEED TO BE FULL TIME PIONEERING.

AGAPE.

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