Also I have learned that love is how you behave, not necessary what you "feel" and thats a discipline in itself..to 'act' against your feelings in principle love..I find thats a disciplined life in Christ , practicing these things..and thats part of being a disciple of Jesus Christ.
I completely agree. While we certainly feel love deeply, I believe true, mature, deep, abiding love is what we do. Feelings are static. Often we cannot control them no matter how hard we try. We CAN control our actions and display real mature love regardless of how we feel.