Do those called "apostates" go on and have happy fulfilling lives?

Created by poco on Sep 29, 2012

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poco

Westerly, RI

#1 Sep 29, 2012
It took me well over ten years to heal and not feel the hurt by the JW judgment and rejection, but yes, I am happy and fulfilled now.
MAMMON

United States

#2 Sep 29, 2012
It was a weight off my shoulders the first day. Growing up as one was miserable.

Since: Feb 07

RI

#3 Sep 29, 2012
poco wrote:
It took me well over ten years to heal and not feel the hurt by the JW judgment and rejection, but yes, I am happy and fulfilled now.
It does take time, that's for sure, especially when your entire life up to that point revolved around Watchtower things.
unlisted

Greensboro, NC

#4 Sep 29, 2012
the members of my family are so happy and so at ease and loving life to the fullest.
little lamb

Australia

#5 Sep 29, 2012
I believe if you replace the watch tower publications with unadulterated scripture.

And you replace obedience to an the organization with obedience to Jesus WORDS.

And you follow Jesus commandments.

Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.
Melito of Sadis

Europe

#6 Oct 2, 2012
What if one asks Satan and his demons, are they happy? The lot of apostasy is everlasting destrucrion if you die now to Gehenna straigt. Word of advice never brag of apostacy,
Melito of Sadis

Europe

#7 Oct 2, 2012
Dont let 'little lamb' deceive u JHVH has humans who are organised to do his will HEB 10 :24-5. These are lead by Jesus Christ who in turn entrusted Faithful slave class Mt 24:45 to provide meat in due season. The only religious literature which has a worldwide circulation in most vernacular languages is the Watchtower. Hate JWs but we're organised to preach of an impeanding destructiont of false religion and heralding THE CHRIST's presence
UNchained

Maryville, TN

#8 Oct 2, 2012
Melito of Sadis wrote:
Dont let 'little lamb' deceive u JHVH has humans who are organised to do his will HEB 10 :24-5. These are lead by Jesus Christ who in turn entrusted Faithful slave class Mt 24:45 to provide meat in due season. The only religious literature which has a worldwide circulation in most vernacular languages is the Watchtower. Hate JWs but we're organised to preach of an impeanding destructiont of false religion and heralding THE CHRIST's presence
Read a real bible instead of the New World Twistedlation, stop reading those apostate Watchtower magazines and within 6 months you will be out of the JW cult.

“Family comes First”

Since: May 11

Weston super Mare

#9 Oct 2, 2012
My parents became very fundamentalist and judgemental once they became witnesses. I also went into a bad marriage to a witness lady who herself was very emotionally damaged due to her having a very violent (JW) father.

I eventually got sick of the whole thing and elected to leave. I accepted my DF'ing at the time as inevitable, it was only later that I full became aware of the terrible injustice meted out to me.

Whatever, 39 years ago I met a lovely lady and we have 3 fine grown-up sons and 4 grandchildren. We also have a great social life. So I've been more than compensated for my earlier losses.

Since: Apr 09

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#10 Oct 2, 2012
I am very glad to hear that, Mikronboy.

Since: Nov 09

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#11 Oct 2, 2012
RedhorseWoman wrote:
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It does take time, that's for sure, especially when your entire life up to that point revolved around Watchtower things.
I agree with you it does take time, but once its gone, its a relief. And when its gone, you are able to see all the mistakes and all the untruths that they teach. We are free to see the truth of the bible, and the truth that Jesus is our ONLY Savior, that a religion or organization is not needed. Its so freeing and so wonderful isn't it?

Since: Aug 12

Montréal, Canada

#12 Oct 2, 2012
The only thing that causes hurt is a lack of understanding. Leaving the org was hard because my wife and I didn't understand how family could shun us completely out of their lives even at their own expense because we were helping them financially and also through their problems and issues they were dealing with in their lives. We regularly had to make trips to see them so that we could talk them through their depression and family issues.

Our first hurdle was researching whether or not this activity was condoned by our Heavenly Father. That's the most important part of understanding the nature of why people behave the way they do, especially witnesses.

Once your aware of how our Father feels about the situation then you have to bring yourself up and above the resentful stage and understand that its a very difficult psychological problem for the witnesses based on misunderstandings, misinterpretation, and misapplication of our Father's wishes for his children.

If you can do that you can rise above any human inclination to return evil for evil in regards the witnesses behavior against you. In short, you can learn to love them even in the face of their so called righteous indignation.

Gaining knowledge and Truth will obliterate any emotional contraction from your Witness family if you find yourself in this situation and you can turn the tables around and serve as a model for them as to 1 Corinthians 13.

Since: Apr 09

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#13 Oct 2, 2012
MakesTheTruthHisOwn wrote:
The only thing that causes hurt is a lack of understanding. Leaving the org was hard because my wife and I didn't understand how family could shun us completely out of their lives even at their own expense because we were helping them financially and also through their problems and issues they were dealing with in their lives. We regularly had to make trips to see them so that we could talk them through their depression and family issues.
Our first hurdle was researching whether or not this activity was condoned by our Heavenly Father. That's the most important part of understanding the nature of why people behave the way they do, especially witnesses.
Once your aware of how our Father feels about the situation then you have to bring yourself up and above the resentful stage and understand that its a very difficult psychological problem for the witnesses based on misunderstandings, misinterpretation, and misapplication of our Father's wishes for his children.
If you can do that you can rise above any human inclination to return evil for evil in regards the witnesses behavior against you. In short, you can learn to love them even in the face of their so called righteous indignation.
Gaining knowledge and Truth will obliterate any emotional contraction from your Witness family if you find yourself in this situation and you can turn the tables around and serve as a model for them as to 1 Corinthians 13.
Really good post, gives us a lot to think about. Thank you.
unlisted

Greensboro, NC

#14 Oct 2, 2012
this is the one thing i do not understand.. why when you leave are you treated as outcasts? no religion does this.. wy can't it be ok you have your religion we have ours? to break up families who were once so very close then it is all gone.. why? family is important. family is love and not to be able to be with them -it makes no sense at all.

Since: Apr 09

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#15 Oct 2, 2012
unlisted wrote:
this is the one thing i do not understand.. why when you leave are you treated as outcasts? no religion does this.. wy can't it be ok you have your religion we have ours? to break up families who were once so very close then it is all gone.. why? family is important. family is love and not to be able to be with them -it makes no sense at all.
The JW's can be likened to a secret club or the even the Mob, once you are in the "club" you cannot leave without repercussions, you are not free to just walk away. When you lose family they use the scripture about you having a new family in the organization.
The control thing is sad, and there always seems to be someone watching to see if you slip up after you leave, they now want a reason to have you df'd so they don't have to have anything to do with you. One day you are alive and well in the congregation, the next day, you are as good as dead--there is no in-between.
dr of religion

Des Plaines, IL

#16 Oct 2, 2012
Hello folks, An apostate is one who turns their back on god.When one leaves the wt org they are turning their back on a mind controlling printing company. Thats two different animals my friends!!!!
unlisted

Greensboro, NC

#17 Oct 2, 2012
is Little Lamb a baptized jw?

thank you emma.

Since: Apr 09

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#18 Oct 2, 2012
dr of religion wrote:
Hello folks, An apostate is one who turns their back on god.When one leaves the wt org they are turning their back on a mind controlling printing company. Thats two different animals my friends!!!!
Thank you for answer, it is right on target. Almost all who leave the JW's have NOT left God, as you say, they have left a controlling publishing company.
The JW's are the only religion that I ever seen that uses the word "apostate" continually.

“Surprised By Love”

Since: Aug 12

Location hidden

#19 Oct 2, 2012
The first thing to remember is that the JWs will label you Apostate. This word has such a loaded meaning among the dubs that it hurts to be labeled so. Apostate simply means someone who leaves a religion and then speaks out about that religion. The WTBTS wants their members to be afraid of any one who knows the facts about them, as they know their lies will be exposed. So they pretend all who leave are debased and demonized. This a lie

So yes, I am an apostate. I realized that the Jehovah's Witnesses were not the right religion, so I left. Why would I be expected to stay in a religion I didn't believe in? The JWs are certainly happy to convert all they can and make them apostate to their former religion. But it makes them cranky when it works the other way.

The next big Watchtower lie is that all who leave the Watchtower immediately turn into miserable, and unhappy sinners, cut off forever *gasp* from God. This is hogwash. I left, and have a great life. My relationship with Jehovah survived just fine, thank you very much. I finally came to realize that God was not with these people.

Many pro JW posters here keep attacking me and saying I am bitter and that I need
To "get over it". This is laughable. I have stopped defending myself on that issue, no matter what I say they don't believe me. I guess that is to much of a challenge to their fragile belief system to think an ex JW is happy. Suffice it to say I am "over it". The wounds have healed, I have a very nice life. I lost contact with two siblings, and that is sad, but it is what it is.

I only come here to post to give my experiences and opinion, as many who post here have never been JWs, so they don't have actual experience. I was in for 34 years, I know what really happens in this religion.

me so
dr of religion

Des Plaines, IL

#20 Oct 2, 2012
emmaswish wrote:
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Thank you for answer, it is right on target. Almost all who leave the JW's have NOT left God, as you say, they have left a controlling publishing company.
The JW's are the only religion that I ever seen that uses the word "apostate" continually.
Well they're in good company, Cause david koresh,jim jones,scientilogist all do also.

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