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Brother Jamal

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Dec 3, 2012
 
taman shud wrote:
You should immolate yourself on a fire made of tamil bodies, that is the only way you will satisfy the bloodlust and pedophile lust of your Profit Mohammas.
How are you my friend? What brings you so much hate towards one religion? Remember, In every Apple Tree, they're good apples, and at the same time, bad apples. Sometimes, The bad apples makes the whole apple tree look bad, but its the good apples that should be observed as well. The bad apples were once good, but due to it's surroundings, it has decayed. It is okay my friend, I Pray that you have a good life, and may you learn to love others no matter age, sex, religion, etc.

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Dec 3, 2012
 
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Assalamualaikum Mufti Menk,
I have a very awkward question to ask you.
I'm 16, and a girl. I've been watching pornography eversince i saw it and i've been humping a pillow (-_-) eversince a very very young age.
I'm not addicted to any one of those things i mentioned above, i don't watch/do it everyday or every month just when i'm sexually aroused?
Im not proud of it. I do try to fight the temptation and when i do get over it, it comes back stronger? And i would give in.
I do pray last time, but now i've stopped (gonna continue praying, dont worry) and even with praying i still get sexually aroused.
I definitely don't go gazing at guys unnecessarily and start thinking all those crappy things, im not like that. My gaze is very low as you can say it?
I ask Allah to cleanse my thoughts, and i do ask him if could 'stop' this feeling till i get married.
I don't have a boyfriend, not even once in my life unlike my other friends who do have boyfriends. Which im pretty sure they 'hanky panky' with, cause they told me they do :|
I don't think for my age its right to have a boyfriend, i feel like they're not at the stage where they're mature enough? And they're not at the stage where they are looking for a serious relationship where eventually we'll get married like i do.
To me its like unnecessary heart break so i'd rather not. Well, thats my opinion i guess.
I do 'masturbate' if you consider it that way, i don't really do it. i just hump a pillow to get it done and over with.. i don't like put anything in there cause i find that just too obscene as you can say it?
How do i stop this? I know one of the ways is fasting? But fasting would mean my parents knowing and it'll be so awkward if they found out.
And getting married is not an option? Cause i'm only 16 and i've still got so many things ahead of me.
Really hope you could help me out.
And i apologize for the question, i just don't know who else to ask.
Erika that's actually the sign of normal growth of your hormones. Sex is a healthy activity. Instead of feeling bad about it, you should try to enjoy the feeling. Its not wrong to play and help yourself an orgasm. And please dont repent after you reach your climax. Beside watching the porn, you should fantasize and you should also buy yourself some toys..according to your inclination you can use dildo, vibrators or anything you like.
Lastly there is no substitute for the real thing. Try to fine a good guy. But have safe sex always.
Stay blessed . Have loads of fun and shuddering orgasms. Bye.

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#28
Dec 3, 2012
 
@Erika
Try to read the book
"Diary of a Young Girl". Its author is unknown. But its preface was written by Freud. This book describes the feelings of a young girl. I hope this will help. You may download the book.

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Dec 4, 2012
 
@Erika
feel free to seek help. I'll be glad to help a girl like you
Pak Jatt Soorma

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Dec 4, 2012
 
aiesha s wrote:
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This might help, I hope so:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vibrator_ (sex_toy)
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Isabeau DAnjou

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Ekira wrote:
Assalamualaikum Mufti Menk,
I have a very awkward question to ask you.
I'm 16, and a girl. I've been watching pornography eversince i saw it and i've been humping a pillow (-_-) eversince a very very young age.
I'm not addicted to any one of those things i mentioned above, i don't watch/do it everyday or every month just when i'm sexually aroused?
Im not proud of it. I do try to fight the temptation and when i do get over it, it comes back stronger? And i would give in.
I do pray last time, but now i've stopped (gonna continue praying, dont worry) and even with praying i still get sexually aroused.
I definitely don't go gazing at guys unnecessarily and start thinking all those crappy things, im not like that. My gaze is very low as you can say it?
I ask Allah to cleanse my thoughts, and i do ask him if could 'stop' this feeling till i get married.
I don't have a boyfriend, not even once in my life unlike my other friends who do have boyfriends. Which im pretty sure they 'hanky panky' with, cause they told me they do :|
I don't think for my age its right to have a boyfriend, i feel like they're not at the stage where they're mature enough? And they're not at the stage where they are looking for a serious relationship where eventually we'll get married like i do.
To me its like unnecessary heart break so i'd rather not. Well, thats my opinion i guess.
I do 'masturbate' if you consider it that way, i don't really do it. i just hump a pillow to get it done and over with.. i don't like put anything in there cause i find that just too obscene as you can say it?
How do i stop this? I know one of the ways is fasting? But fasting would mean my parents knowing and it'll be so awkward if they found out.
And getting married is not an option? Cause i'm only 16 and i've still got so many things ahead of me.
Really hope you could help me out.
And i apologize for the question, i just don't know who else to ask.
How do you stop this feeling? By looking at or talking to Timesten on this forum, will kill any urge you may have.
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all poor piecies of shit, freaky dumbheads, whackysickbrained scoundrels talking ill n nt to the point... The poor girl has only asked for help n nt fr ur bullshit..
-HopeICanHelp

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hey ekira
people can be so stupid at times. please ignore all the other comments. Mashallah i love the way you think and this is the only way forward in Islam. only have sex after marriage.
what you could do for now is to tryna divert your mind like when you start having this feeling. quickly do something else like go sit with your family or just do anything else!!(the first thing that pops in your mind)just try not to be on your own when this temptation comes.
and stop watching porn! what if someone finds out? it could be very embarassing so when you have the urge to go on these websites just shut your laptop or pc whatever. or use it when someones around you.
all i can say is that you need to control yourself for your own good!
hope this helps
Ekira wrote:
Assalamualaikum Mufti Menk,
I have a very awkward question to ask you.
I'm 16, and a girl. I've been watching pornography eversince i saw it and i've been humping a pillow (-_-) eversince a very very young age.
I'm not addicted to any one of those things i mentioned above, i don't watch/do it everyday or every month just when i'm sexually aroused?
Im not proud of it. I do try to fight the temptation and when i do get over it, it comes back stronger? And i would give in.
I do pray last time, but now i've stopped (gonna continue praying, dont worry) and even with praying i still get sexually aroused.
I definitely don't go gazing at guys unnecessarily and start thinking all those crappy things, im not like that. My gaze is very low as you can say it?
I ask Allah to cleanse my thoughts, and i do ask him if could 'stop' this feeling till i get married.
I don't have a boyfriend, not even once in my life unlike my other friends who do have boyfriends. Which im pretty sure they 'hanky panky' with, cause they told me they do :|
I don't think for my age its right to have a boyfriend, i feel like they're not at the stage where they're mature enough? And they're not at the stage where they are looking for a serious relationship where eventually we'll get married like i do.
To me its like unnecessary heart break so i'd rather not. Well, thats my opinion i guess.
I do 'masturbate' if you consider it that way, i don't really do it. i just hump a pillow to get it done and over with.. i don't like put anything in there cause i find that just too obscene as you can say it?
How do i stop this? I know one of the ways is fasting? But fasting would mean my parents knowing and it'll be so awkward if they found out.
And getting married is not an option? Cause i'm only 16 and i've still got so many things ahead of me.
Really hope you could help me out.
And i apologize for the question, i just don't know who else to ask.
New muslim girl

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It seems to me that the ones that are degrading and smack talking about Islam and Muslims are more disgusting and disturbing than our so called "Piggish" men. Female Circumsion is not a practice in islam and it isnt something that muslims are forced to do, infact clitoral stimulation in islam between men and wife is fine, and pleasuring your wife is a must. For the OP, i am in the exact same situation as you =) i am 16 too, and i started very young. I dont fast to get rid of the want i just try to think of why i dont do it and that is for Allah, i try to think of the punishmetn and also the reward if i dont do it. I think of Adam- assalaam and how it would upset him and also how it would anger Allah and i think of what i would be if i didnt have Allah and how greatful i am that he put me on this path. It doesnt always work, but its a slow process and it's a journey and you have to take things at your own pace because actually Allah understands. I have been doing it since i was maybe 9 and im 5 months muslim now so i've had to immediately stop. This is hard for me, especially having to try and avert my sexual energy and tension to other places but im trying and that's what matters. If you make a mistake, it's okay because if you ask Allah he will forgive you. Don't be afraid or ashamed of your sexual instinct because thats how Allah has made us and it's a test for us to surpress it and Insha'Allah you will be rewarded with a good husband and you will have the best sex life ever lol. Please ignore all these disgusting comments and DO NOT follow your friends because Allah will be happy if you obey him and what they are doign is wrong. Having Boyfriends is haram in islam and that is for our own protection as girls. Wait until Allah gives you a good husband that will take care of you and not a teenage boy that just wants to sleep with you, because at the time of puberty that is their first thoughts.=) Good luck Sis x
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ROFLMAO!!!

Poor misguided child...

Anyone can learn self control, they just need to be strong and have structure. We human beings don't need a crutch, we have the power to be strong all on our own.

And.....you believe in fairy tales, there is no 'Allah'.

But you're free to believe in anything you choose, as long as it doesn't take you down the road where you think you can take our freedoms and liberties away from us with your evil ideology.

Keep that in mind, please.
Zeki

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Assalamualaikum Ekira,

First, let me introduce myself. Perhaps I don't have a right to be in this thread - I'm Catholic. But one of my dearest friends is Muslim, and we have often talked about subjects like this.

Firstly, the feelings themselves are nothing to be ashamed of - it's your body's natural reaction to puberty. God (Allah) granted women this characteristic - my guess, to help with procreation.

As for dealing with it, we have all been there, humping pillows and dreaming erotic scenarios. What I've come to realize is that short of actually having sex, there's no real way to cure it. And as I will not have sex with anyone until I am married (and then, only with my husband), that won't cut it. Sometimes I read silly romances, daydream, or go for a run - exercise helps a little. Distracting yourself also works - throw yourself into a project or focus on something else.

I'm sorry that I don't have an answer, but I never want people to feel that they are bad because of a biological phenomenon. What you do with it is up to you - we all have that struggle. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I understand, and you are not alone.

I wish you the best of luck.

-Zeki
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giv urslf pleasre nd it vl gradually stop.. no porn..
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Sister dont worry. im 15 and have those bad thoughts too. I think whats causing them is the pornagraphy its brings up bad images into your head. Try to avoid looking at those kissing seeins in the movies and inshallah those bad thoughts and image will go away. And about the pornagraphy thing please stop it and pray to allah 4 forgivness becauause its a sin. Also acting abon those feelings is very wrong please try 2 not do it masturbating is a hugeeee sin. Pray 2 allah 4 help. This is a big test 4 all of us teenagers out there exposed 2 all this bad things in the us,canada and when we pass it, we will be the winners at the end.

Salam, a dear concrned sister
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girl..keep ur mind busy elsewhere.dont force urself against humping than the urge will get stronger coz our mind supports negative thoughts first.just think it is a mere part of life let it remain natural.as days pass u will get rid of it naturaly.
hope that helps.
khuda haafiz
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animals against islam wrote:
I'm very surprised that you don't know the solution.
It is Female Genital Mutilation where the source of pleasure, the clitoris, is removed.
"Current status: Female genital mutilation is practiced among the Muslim population in Sri Lanka. The share of Muslims is 7.6 per cent. However, the majority of Muslims do not practice FGM. Precise details and figures are not available, as this is practiced in utmost secrecy."
This is your Muslim heritage.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_genital_m...
The countries which practice this barbarism are primarily Muslim.
I did a research on FGM for some project and I think you need to get ur facts right. FGM is not related to Islam, for example, Saudi Arabia, a deeply Islamic country, has hardly any cases of FGM. FGM violates human rights and bring NO BENEFiTS at all. Why not cut off ur dick? Then you can't wank.
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I'm appalled to see that most of the replies to such a general question have been so horribly racist / communist. Give the poor girl a break and shame on all of you.
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And my advise- don't be so hard on your self. It's not wrong to masturbate if you are aroused. At least you are not sleeping around like a lot of people do these days. It's a phase and you will soon get over it. You are probably just bored so take up a hobby to distract yourself. Trust me even masturbating once a week is normal for a girl. I'm a 24 year old virgin girl who masturbates at times and I am doing perfectly fine. I don't crave for any guy or anything so don't worry so much. God has made humans as sexual beings so its perfectly normal to masturbate. As long as it doesn't affect your studies / work its fine.
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I have the same problem and I feel guilty and I keep promising myself I'll stop but eventually I just give in....
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Sister..why did you post the question here?
You asked a great scholar for help...did you know that Allah put it in your heart to do that?...why? Because Mufti Menk would NEVER EVER publicise your weakness...he would make duaa for you..how many people here actually give a damn that you hold the kalimah in your heart? how many actually will make duaa for you?
Very few people are geuine and qualified to give advice..you asked the right man but now you post it for ALL to see..to judge you..do you see all the disgusting comments left by uncultured people?
you are my sister in faith and I love you for that..please repent to Allah and dont ever look for attention this way again...you have oppressed your soul..
Beg for Allah's forgiveness and fast..gain knowledge of deen..
and sexuall urges happen to everybody..so dont feel special about it..the thing is your the odd one out beacuse there are millions of teenagers around the world who are strong enough to fight the urge..you are losing to shaytaan...show him what a good muslim you are..dont ever again share your weakness with anybody who is not qualified to advise you...develope your link with Allah..he loves you..he knows you better than you know yourself..
May Allah bless you always and keep you strong aameen

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Ekira wrote:
Assalamualaikum Mufti Menk,
I have a very awkward question to ask you.
I'm 16, and a girl. I've been watching pornography eversince i saw it and i've been humping a pillow (-_-) eversince a very very young age.
I'm not addicted to any one of those things i mentioned above, i don't watch/do it everyday or every month just when i'm sexually aroused?
Im not proud of it. I do try to fight the temptation and when i do get over it, it comes back stronger? And i would give in.
I do pray last time, but now i've stopped (gonna continue praying, dont worry) and even with praying i still get sexually aroused.
I definitely don't go gazing at guys unnecessarily and start thinking all those crappy things, im not like that. My gaze is very low as you can say it?
I ask Allah to cleanse my thoughts, and i do ask him if could 'stop' this feeling till i get married.
I don't have a boyfriend, not even once in my life unlike my other friends who do have boyfriends. Which im pretty sure they 'hanky panky' with, cause they told me they do :|
I don't think for my age its right to have a boyfriend, i feel like they're not at the stage where they're mature enough? And they're not at the stage where they are looking for a serious relationship where eventually we'll get married like i do.
To me its like unnecessary heart break so i'd rather not. Well, thats my opinion i guess.
I do 'masturbate' if you consider it that way, i don't really do it. i just hump a pillow to get it done and over with.. i don't like put anything in there cause i find that just too obscene as you can say it?
How do i stop this? I know one of the ways is fasting? But fasting would mean my parents knowing and it'll be so awkward if they found out.
And getting married is not an option? Cause i'm only 16 and i've still got so many things ahead of me.
Really hope you could help me out.
And i apologize for the question, i just don't know who else to ask.
You are a completely normal female teenager. There's nothing wrong here and there's no need for you to feel guilty. Masturbation is healthy. Your body is changing and so are your hormones. It's normal. You don't need to fight it. Honestly, I'm pretty sure every other teenager male and female your age both muslim and non-muslim does it and feeling 'guilty' can be normal. You're guilt is because it's apparently 'forbidden'.. Honestly EVERYONE does it or thinks dirty things even if they deny it. I think you should just enjoy yourself. It's healthy, normal and a part of growth. And if you believe you are going to hell for it then you'll see the rest of the world there :P

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