From what I gather, from your point of view, why would you even think marriage should exist? Or maybe you don't. Why shouldn't partnering be anything more than just having a steady partner, which one can easily be broken the next day?<quoted text>Profound? Not for me. Its the same old dreck. Plus you have it backwards. If there are no kids they do not "suffer" from the pre-marital sex (fornication) of an as yet to be married parent. Unless they get married due to an Oops pregnancy...
Yeah, adultery does hurt the children of a couple in a dead marriage. So does the lack of love and yes even sex in the same loveless marriage. Children who dont see affection - wont grow to understand it as necessary.
But for the sake of the "Institution of Marriage" (most specious title for anything known to humankind) the couple should fake-it, till maybe the kids move out. Or they stay married and cheat...which we know is hard on the kids. Only to end up with bitter and angry parents and eventual grandparents.
Great examples, all to protect the Institution of Marriage.
There is no Institution of Marriage. There maybe should be, as most couples could use the higher institutionalized learning, but alas no such thing exists.
So in your example the couple "lost their fancy" - and as such should part ways if they cant - after effort - save it.
To tell the truth, the whole stupid notions behind "fancy each other" is part of the problem of marriage in the USA. Its part of the reason why we cant have a adult conversations in this country about reality.
I fancy a draft beer, I dont fancy a love-partner - unless its short term. And I have. And I'm no worse for the wear. Nor is my wife. We do more'n fancy each other. Which is what too many heteros have been doing and is the reason why its a 50/50 crap-shoot for so many.
Some of you xtians live in such a land of non-reality its a wonder any of you can even navigate real life without imploding.
You wish to talk 'reality'? I'm all for it. When a marriage ceremony is performed, the parties involved are questioned as to the authenticity of their 'commitment'. "Happiness" is not really a part of the package. It's nice if it happens, but there's no guarantee. I think this is where you're missing it when you address the "happiness" of the married couple...and their children. Yes, children will probably suffer if the parents are unhappy...to whatever degree depending on the severity. No one ever claimed, that I know of, that a married couple is guaranteed happiness by "staying together". The question becomes....can this 'unhappiness' be dealt with? There are books written...for instance, on how to "rekindle" a romance. Now that may not always be easy, but that's not the ultimate point anyway.
You and I have a certain responsibility in the working world, for instance, to not allow personal 'unhappiness' to interfere where others are involved. If there's a particular problem that is 'causing' "unhappiness", the solution is not to pretend we are happy, but to address, and hopefully resolve the problem. Now employment usually doesn't even require the same type of commitment marriage does, yet many realize it's in their best interest to 'remain' in an undesirable working environment....at least for awhile, rather than seek immediate escape.....