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One Small Bite

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#41
Feb 17, 2013
 
Troth for Leogere wrote:
bring a third into it.. ya never know! Spice up the bedroom!
Ummm NO!
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Feb 17, 2013
 
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<quoted text>Def sounds like hormones to me.
If she wont talk and wont seek help then it sounds like you're stuck.
Thank you for your help.
It is greatly appreciated believe me on that.

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#43
Feb 17, 2013
 
One Small Bite wrote:
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Ummm NO!
well it was just a suggestion.. for some it works, others not..
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Feb 17, 2013
 
Cisco Kid wrote:
<quoted text>When you find yourself stuck in a hole, quit digging.
Marriage is a commitment, even if it seems one sided at times. Get some counseling, it's way better than living seperate lives.
We've done that. She told the marriage counselor that she's raised her children and she's not raising anymore. She does not feel a need to show any femininity (loving jesters) towards me.

The day I needed a ride to the ER for horrible chest pains and she said "why should she be burdened with someone else's health problems" this being just 5 weeks after I took her to the ER for a Kidney stone spent all day with her in the ER got home one hour later took her to the ER again was there until 3AM.

I think there is no hope. Looking like I'm going to have bailing on her if things don't change.
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#45
Feb 17, 2013
 
Troth for Leogere wrote:
<quoted text>well it was just a suggestion.. for some it works, others not..
Well thank you for the effort.
She's not into men pretty much as a whole (she pretty much hates all men). She see them as drunken lazy bastards. She sees every TV show as teaching girls to be be whores.

When we married she kept her name because she did not want to be known as someone's property. Mrs Xxxx Xxxxx

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What is with the title of this thread?

It sure catches the eye. LOL.

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One Small Bite wrote:
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"What I found wrong with your post, is that it was a copy and paste rant that most likely came from some website, and not your own"
I provided a link from where I got it an I posted the whole thing in quotes. And as you should be quite aware quote marks means I'm quoting someone.
"Celibacy refers to a state of being unmarried and, therefore, sexually abstinent"
Let's see if this is a fitting word.....
1) I don't sleep with my wife
2) I don't talk with my wife
3) I go on separate vacations as my wife.
4) I don't have sex.
Seems like a fitting word. I'm sorry you don't agree. I'm also sorry you don't know what a quote mark is. When asked I provided a link showing my quote with no copy write claim.
So you are either dense or you just like attacking people who are down.
I skimmed thru that mess three times and didn't see any link to where you copied it from. I did see later on where someone else did, not you.

And even if someone did notice any quote marks, that just means you're quoting someone, even yourself. I do that all the time, although I add a notice that it's from my post.

So why copy and paste some off base crap that has little to do with what you claim is YOUR specific situation?

I mean, from subsequent posts of your's, I see some discrepancies. So this all makes you look deceitful, like a troll baiting people here.

And your self serving definition of "celibate" has nothing to do with my statement of:

"Second, you obviously are clueless about what it means to be celibate, and the reason for it. Which is at the heart of your alleged problem."

Because being "celibate" is, as alluded to in your copy and paste rant, is he fact that in the pure sense of the word, someone is "celibate" for a religious or spiritual reason. To lead a life dedicated to God, and sex and marriage are distractions/hindrances to that. And THAT being their reason's for "celibacy".

And so being married, with talk of being "celibate", makes it clear you have no idea what you are talking about. So to me, you come across as deceitful as you cannot get your story straight. Your original copy rant talks about a life about God, yet it seems this is not the case in your "real" posts. Which just sounds like another failed marriage, and nothing about a life with/about seeking God.

So IF this is a real problem >>>YOU<<< need to go somewhere alone, do some DEEP soul searching, and sort it all out for yourself.

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One Small Bite wrote:
<quoted text>No such copy right!

http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/marriag...
This looks like the link to me!

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-The Star Reborn- wrote:
<quoted text>I skimmed thru that mess three times and didn't see any link to where you copied it from. I did see later on where someone else did, not you.

And even if someone did notice any quote marks, that just means you're quoting someone, even yourself. I do that all the time, although I add a notice that it's from my post.

I mean, from subsequent posts of your's, I see some discrepancies. So this all makes you look deceitful, like a troll baiting people here.

And your self serving definition of "celibate" has nothing to do with my statement of:

"Second, you obviously are clueless about what it means to be celibate, and the reason for it. Which is at the heart of your alleged problem."

Because being "celibate" is, as alluded to in your copy and paste rant, is he fact that in the pure sense of the word, someone is "celibate" for a religious or spiritual reason. To lead a life dedicated to God, and sex and marriage are distractions/hindrances to that. And THAT being their reason's for "celibacy".

And so being married, with talk of being "celibate", makes it clear you have no idea what you are talking about. So to me, you come across as deceitful as you cannot get your story straight. Your original copy rant talks about a life about God, yet it seems this is not the case in your "real" posts. Which just sounds like another failed marriage, and nothing about a life with/about seeking God.

So IF this is a real problem >>>YOU<<< need to go somewhere alone, do some DEEP soul searching, and sort it all out for yourself.
Here I found it really easy!

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<quoted text>No such copy right!

http://strengtheningmarriage.com/blog/marriag...
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"So why copy and paste some off base crap that has little to do with what you claim is YOUR specific situation?"

Because he said it was the same issue he was having! Duh!

"And your self serving definition of "celibate" has nothing to do with my statement of:"

It's "yourself" not your self.

Dolt, someone else used the word like that! He just copied and pasted it. Remember!

If you have nothing good to add then shut up and get lost!

Jerk.

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-The Star Reborn- wrote:
<quoted text>Which was not stated in his original post. And only given after caught in his deceit. You really need to learn how to read.

Langoliers wrote, "
"So why copy and paste some off base crap that has little to do with what you claim is YOUR specific situation?"
Because he said it was the same issue he was having! Duh!
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You are apparently just a trouble making troll, as his subsequent posts are telling a whole different story than the one he copied.

Langoliers wrote, "
"And your self serving definition of "celibate" has nothing to do with my statement of:"
It's "yourself" not your self.
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No idiot troll, it's "your self serving definition". It is incorrect to state "yourself serving definition" as it makes no sense to normal people, maybe you though.

Langoliers wrote, "Dolt, someone else used the word like that! He just copied and pasted it. Remember!
If you have nothing good to add then shut up and get lost!
Jerk.
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Only an idiot troll would throw out such an emotionally charged attempt at an insult, that makes no sense what so ever. You go from "Dolt, someone else used the word like that!", without stating WHAT word, to "He just copied and pasted it. Remember!", which has nothing to do with the mystery word someone else "used".

So go ahead and take your own advise:

"If you have nothing good to add then shut up and get lost! Jerk."
Oh yea he was so crooked. It took only one question to make him produce the link. The original post was in quote marks. No he was not pulling anything.

Dolt!
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-The Star Reborn- wrote:
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I skimmed thru that mess three times and didn't see any link to where you copied it from. I did see later on where someone else did, not you.
And even if someone did notice any quote marks, that just means you're quoting someone, even yourself. I do that all the time, although I add a notice that it's from my post.
So why copy and paste some off base crap that has little to do with what you claim is YOUR specific situation?
I mean, from subsequent posts of your's, I see some discrepancies. So this all makes you look deceitful, like a troll baiting people here.
And your self serving definition of "celibate" has nothing to do with my statement of:
"Second, you obviously are clueless about what it means to be celibate, and the reason for it. Which is at the heart of your alleged problem."
Because being "celibate" is, as alluded to in your copy and paste rant, is he fact that in the pure sense of the word, someone is "celibate" for a religious or spiritual reason. To lead a life dedicated to God, and sex and marriage are distractions/hindrances to that. And THAT being their reason's for "celibacy".
And so being married, with talk of being "celibate", makes it clear you have no idea what you are talking about. So to me, you come across as deceitful as you cannot get your story straight. Your original copy rant talks about a life about God, yet it seems this is not the case in your "real" posts. Which just sounds like another failed marriage, and nothing about a life with/about seeking God.
So IF this is a real problem >>>YOU<<< need to go somewhere alone, do some DEEP soul searching, and sort it all out for yourself.
Exactly! The term "Celibate" was the only qualifier for a religious forum and that didn't hold water!
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By Hephzibah Anderson

"Questioning sex makes people very uneasy and there's a lot of stigma about not having sex,' says Hephzibah Anderson, who wrote the memoir Chastened (Vintage,£7.99) after choosing to be celibate for a year.'But most of us will go through a dry spell at some point, and some people just aren't that into it. Why should they be mocked? One of the reasons I wrote the book was to try to bring celibacy back as an option.'

While people may dip in and out of celibacy, asexuality tends to be a permanent state. The Aven online asexual network has 40,000 members worldwide. Its founder, David Jay, says that being asexual can be isolating.'For some, it's a lonely struggle,' he says.'A lot of asexual people feel disempowered or broken, wondering where they fit into society, especially since it can seem as though sex is necessary for happiness.'

'Socially, we've made sex an imperative,' says Paula Hall, a sexual psychotherapist for Relate.'Having a healthy sex life isn't seen as an optional extra, it's seen as essential, like a healthy diet, which is nonsense – we need to eat food in order to survive and function, but we don't need to have sex. It makes sense that some people might not want to. Sexuality is very fluid; some people have low or no sex drive, but if it doesn't cause them distress then it's not a dysfunction. We shouldn't make moral judgments."

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Feb 18, 2013
 
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Well thank you for the effort.
She's not into men pretty much as a whole (she pretty much hates all men). She see them as drunken lazy bastards. She sees every TV show as teaching girls to be be whores.
When we married she kept her name because she did not want to be known as someone's property. Mrs Xxxx Xxxxx
It may be wrong for me to say this but I am rather surprised you've stuck things out for so long.
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Feb 18, 2013
 
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<quoted text>It may be wrong for me to say this but I am rather surprised you've stuck things out for so long.
Thanks. I really don't want to go thru a divorce yet alone a move.

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[Latin caelibtus, from caelebs, caelib-, unmarried.]

Usage Note: Historically, celibate means only "unmarried";

its use to mean "abstaining from sexual intercourse" is a 20th-century development.

But the new sense of the word seems to have displaced the old, and the use of celibate to mean "unmarried" is now almost sure to invite misinterpretation in other than narrowly ecclesiastical contexts. Sixty-eight percent of the Usage Panel rejected the older use in the sentence He remained celibate [unmarried], although he engaged in sexual intercourse.

Welcome to today and the modern English language boys.

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make sure to not copy paste directly from word because it makes those funky characters!
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#59
Feb 22, 2013
 
Dude

Once you have given her every chance to save the marriage then don't sweat the piece of paper. The marriage is dead. She does not love you anymore.
You two are room mates that's all. Even if you don't have a date or some one to go to you must start disappearing for weekends. Go have a great time but do not answer any phone calls and don't call anyone. Just go out have a good time. It will not take long for the truth to be revealed. Either she will realize she is losing you or she won't care.
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#60
Feb 22, 2013
 
Have you taken it to God in prayer???

" Don't be worried or anxious over anything but take it to God in prayer."

First of all you have to know if its Gods will for a man and woman to give their body to each other.

I already know the scriptures on that..do you?

Then all you have to know is that God created all things for our enjoyment,

and what is hindering your enjoyment is not from
God?

So seeing you have a battle with Satan hindering your intimacy with your wife..are you such an ineffectual Christian you cower in defeat...

Up you get man ..your talk is defeatist.
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#61
Mar 6, 2013
 
Thanks all but it's of no help

I'm pulling plug. I'm done with her.

God bless and take care!

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One Small Bite wrote:
Thanks all but it's of no help
I'm pulling plug. I'm done with her.
God bless and take care!
I wish you well and hope you find happiness.

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