Dave. Just leave it alone. Stop embarrassing yourself. You know virtually nothing about black holes. You have made this abundantly clear. Drop it.If you had collapsed matter you would have a lump, not a hole. A really solid object. If you star collapsed to nothing, then the collapse sent everything flying. Which leaves no mass to cause gravity.
I would tell you to read up on Enstein's equations and Schwarzchild's solution to them, but it would probably take you years of study to get to the point where you could understand them.